Would you carry your husband's surname or keep your maiden name after marriage?

When I got married in my birth country(Romania),I took my husbands name,and at the time I was pretty proud to do that.Times were different then. We ended up living in Quebec ,Canada, and the marriage went bad,so after 25 years,we divorced,and the first thing i did ,I got rid of his name. Now I live with an amazing man, we are not going to get married(we both had bad experience before),but even if we wanted to do that,in Quebec,women are not allowed to take the husbands name.maiden name for ever!!! I guess,the government finds it easier when people divorce?!?!?!

It would depend entirely on what his name is. People always get my last name wrong. They always mispronounce it. So, if I got married and my husband's name was less confusing, I'd take his. If it was worse, I'd stick with what I know.

In Philippines we are obliged to use husband's surname after marriage, under the Family Code it is an OBLIGATION under the Law....If you are travelling abroad and plan to migrate and even to your other document it could give you a big problem in future.... For me it would be more convenient to change status and used husband's surname after marriage!

I use my husband's surname. And when we have children our children will have my husband' surname. I had never even thought of keeping my maiden name after I got married. It was easy changing my name on my social security card and my drivers license.

Welcome to mylot Here in my hindu marriages, the wife has to adopt the surname of her husband, if the surnames are not same, it is not expensive , no need to go to supreme court, you can do it in any court for about 100 rupees by swearing an affidavit lol My surname and my wife's were same, so there was no need. Thanks for sharing God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .

I am a single man and I am not yet married but I hope to marry in the shortest possible time. Now going to your question. I want to say if I get married to a lady, I would leave that choice to my wife to make. If she like to maintain both name. It is fine. If she want to discard her parent name fine. But she should not throw away my name. The only right I can give her is to maintain my surname together with her maiden name or throw away her maiden name

I've done both. I think that symbolically, a double barreled name (what we call the name-hyphen-name thing here) is the best representation of what a marriage is about. two families joining together. besides which, my family name is an unusual one with a lot of history attached, and his is a fairly common one, and only one syllable. so it's no big deal putting it on the end of my own.

Seeing that you're a lawyer, makes me realize that this is a big issue for you. I know that although it isn't always necessary, women have always taken the husbands family name as a tradition. From a guy's point of view, I think this is more symbolic of the couple becoming as one. Even when there are kids around, a single and common name used would help create a single identity for the family.

I got married before taking the bar exam and i did the same thing. I use my maiden name and then a hypen and my husband's family name. I wanted to keep it that way and when i applied for a passport, I used my own name and I just made an affidavit stating that i have no intention of defrauding anybody by using my own name. I love my family name and intend to keep it that way. In fact during my first few years of marriage I couldn't recognize it when somebody calls me Mrs plus my husband's name lol.

I would say it depends. It depends on my husband's surname actually. It would be a total no no if his surname is "Makabaligotin". Ergo to those who're not from the Philippines, research it. LOL! Don't get me wrong, I love my husband (to be)..why else would I marry him in the first place right? But using his name as my own will really unnerved me (as well as other people who knew what it means). LOL Peace to you all, just trying to inject humor to this discussion.

I am very proud of my family name and would want with all my heart to keep it. But I feel like once you get married, it shows respect to your husband when you take on his name. This is just my personal opinion. Many women here in America use both. - Like their current last name becomes their middle name and their husband last name becomes their lst name. Not sure if I worded that clearly, so for example- if Mary Louise Smith marries Michael Jones, her new married name would be Mary Smith Jones. Or you can hyphenate and do both. So her name would be Mary Louise Smith-Jones. I think it is something the bride should discuss with her furture husband to see how important it is to him.

Hello there hot legs! Oh, obviously, I already did,except here in mylot.(haha) Well, I think if given another chance to choose, then I would still do the same thing-adopt my husband's last name. I think the act itself imposes the significance of a wife submitting to his husband. But of course, I don't mean that women should become slaves to their husbands; No such thing should happen for both are equal and deemed united and considered as one. Nevertheless, I have nothing against women who do not adopt their husband's last name.It's their prerogative. One fact that I know, Korean women never change their family name after their marriage. They keep their last name because its their inheritance from their ancestors and its their way of maintaining their family line. But I wonder which last name would their kids use? I just failed to ask this from one of my Korean students.(haha) Anyway, good luck to your future plans. I'm sure you will become a great wife,regardless of your decision about your maiden name!

Last year when we married this was one of the questions that bothered me most. For several months I wondered what to do because on one side if I change my name I had to change many documents that are issued to me with my maiden name like diplomas, certificates, BAR id cars, etc. and for each I had to pay fees which are considerable. On the other hand, if I kept my maiden name in the future I would be having problems concerning our future kids, because in my country the kids take the family name of the father by law and each time I want to go anywhere with the kid without my husband, I would have had to bring kid's birth certificate with me to prove that I am the mother.Finally, I ended up with the variant with the dash and I do not regret it at all. I still had to change some documents like passports and id cards, but the rest stayed the same. And there is one good thing about the dash version - I introduce myself the way I want either with my my maiden name or with my husbands name or sometimes even with the two names depending on the situation and my mood.

I love this question. I would take my husband's last name once I get married. I don't want to be tied down to my dysfunctional family any more than I had to all these years. I see that the Philippines is sort of similar to what happens in a lot of Latin American countries, with the exception of Argentina. In the US, you can keep your maiden name if you want to or you can keep your maiden name and have your husband's last name. I've seen it quite a bit. It's what you want when it comes to situations like this.

Definitely keep my name, and I did. Someone tried to tell me that by giving me his name he was giving me a gift. What kind of gift is it, if to receive it, I have to lose something of my own identity? That's not a gift, that's a trade off. In giving me his name, he'd be taking mine away. No way!!! Fortunately for me my husband agreed with this decision. Quite frankly, if a man didn't agree that I should keep my name, it would be a deal-breaker, and it would have ended the relationship.

The majority of women in America take their husband's last name. I kind of wish I could get away with not taking his name. I'm not married. And I have no problem with taking my husband's last name on the surface. It's the paperwork that I find objectionable. Having to go to the Social Security Office, stand in line, get another SS card...Plus changing the checks, changing the credit cards, changing all that stuff. It's a lot of trouble.

I took my husband's name, and so did our daughter. However, our granddaughter only added her husband's name to her maiden name. It's good that she had a short last name because her husband's last name is twice as long.

I waited until I was married for a year or so before I changed my name. It's pretty common in the US for women to take their husband's name. I just wanted to wait and decide exactly what I wanted to do. I decided that it would just be easier to keep one last name in our household, that way I'll be the same as my husband and children.

I, at marriage, took her husband's name. I do not even think to do otherwise. Because it's tradition and as such, along with the wedding, we did together a whole, so I felt. I see taking the name as foundation, starting point of the family. In the case of public figures and celebrities are preferred, and it seems ok, you keep the name as the first birth and next to him to add, that of her husband. That's because people are already known and everyone's hard to get used to new names. But, like all other, is ultimately a matter of choice to respect some rules or not.

For me, I would carry my husband's name. Its in a law and its your right to carry his surname. If I wish to carry my maiden name, I will just write my whole name with my my full maiden name.