charachter assassination
@blackhillsgold (88)
United States
May 16, 2011 8:33pm CST
I am in distress.
I have someone who used to be a close friend who started assassinating my character. All I was doing was trying to be a good friend. To be there for a "friend" in need. It all started when she tried to overdose as a result of being rejected after a one night stand. She was looking to leave her husband for this guy. The hospital did their thing with making her drink charcoal and stuff, kept her for observation over night then her sister told her she could stay w/her till she got on her feet by getting a job and she wasn't to go back to her abusive husband. That lasted one night. She decided to go back to her husband who is so abusive. And that was fine, I can understand that because I was in a similar situation years back.
The very next week, her daughter calls me saying her dad is drunk again and her mom is drugged up again and left the house in nothing but her p.j.'s. So we all go looking for her, fearing a repeat of the previous week. We found her, she said she will go home, so we take her at her word, and she did seem fine. An hour later, her daughter calls again saying her mom still hasn't come home, she then called the cops. She also called her counselor for help. Cops showed up, they informed family services, the counselor called us, spoke to us, then she called family services, and she was once again taken to the hospital for observation over night. they let her go the next day, her sister wouldn't take her back this time.
The week after that, she decides that me and her siblings were plotting against her, telling only a very one sided part of the story on FACEBOOK!!! She has gone so far as to post our numbers online so her friends (who don't know the whole story) call or text nasty messages to us.
As a result of this, we are no longer friends. I was only trying to be a good friend. I don't ever wanna go through this again. Next time I get a call of something like this, I will simply call 911, tell them what I know, then not involve myself anymore w/that person.
Tell me, what would you do?
Is there some other way I could have handled this better?
I am at a loss and am mourning the loss of what I thought was a good friendship....
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3 responses
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
17 May 11
Wow I am so sorry you went through this. All you were trying to do was help a friend. I would have done the same thing. This is one of the problems with Facebook. While it is a wonderful communications network, it can and has been abused over and over. Many people have suffered as a result of some very bad behavior. I don't know what the answer is. Seems things were a little easier before we had Facebook.
@blackhillsgold (88)
• United States
18 May 11
well, I think that maybe before FB, it would have just been said behind my back. Now it is right in front of my face and I can't do anything to stop it. I am not sure which is worse, knowing what is being said for a fact, or not knowing, or just hearing rumours about what is being said.....
I hope it ends soon.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
18 May 11
True, and before FB, less people would have known what was said. Now it's all 'out there'
I always say I want to know everything..even though it is hurtful at times, at least you know where you stand.
I hope it ends soon too :) Hang in there until it does...
@blackhillsgold (88)
• United States
18 May 11
ty, but I would rather not give her more reason to harass me and I definitely don't want to give her an excuse to call the cops on me.
But I really wish I could!!!!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 May 11
Your "friend" doesn't deserve you. After all the caring you have given her, she would turn the tables on you. Shame on her !
Yes, do that. Whenever same thing happens again, all you can do is to call 911 and let them take care of her. Give her a hard lesson.
@blackhillsgold (88)
• United States
18 May 11
Thank you for your response.
It turns out that this is going to be a while. Her own sister had to call the cops on her this morning. I'm sure I am going to get a nonstop onslaught on FB
:(