Have you ever test the love of your partner?
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6438)
Vietnam
May 16, 2011 11:32pm CST
There are many people trying to test the love of their partners. Special are young girls.
I have a close friend. She's going to get married. But she still doesn't believe all in her boyfriend. So, she wants to test the love of him.
She bought a new phone number. Then, she sent love messages to her boyfriend as a girl who is looking for partner.
Her boyfriend answered the strange girls politely and correctly. My friend was very happy. But she said that it's lucky because her boyfriend didn't discover the truth about the strange girl. She was very scare while she did.
How do you think about this story? Have you ever done the similar thing?
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13 responses
@minomarimat (372)
• Philippines
17 May 11
well, yeah I've tested my ex-girlfriend before. I actually did the same thing as your friend did. :D
@minomarimat (372)
• Philippines
18 May 11
Do you know what's painful? Instead of proving my doubts wrong...
..I was right. She was seeing someone, though they're not yet "together." that time. But still, it's too painful to bear. You know what I mean?
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
17 May 11
I think this is wrong. If she is that ensure about her boyfriend, then marriage shouldn't even be in the cards at this point. Basic she lied to him as far as I'm concerned. I believe she should tell him what she did. 
I would not even consider doing something this low. Best Wishes!
I would not even consider doing something this low. Best Wishes!@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
I don't think so. He only know everything. He only thinks strange girl is only a normal situation in his life. If he didn't care her, he won't remember.
If she tell him what she did, she can create some doubts for him. I believe that she should be quiet and don't repeat this thing in the future.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
18 May 11
I guess you have a better view of the situation then I do. However, games like this can be harmful to a relationship. Hope she is keeping this in mind. Best Wishes!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
17 May 11
Sometimes we can try to control a relationship too much. we can push too hard and we can make something out of nothing and make it snowball beyond our belief. testing the love of your partner might be something more than you need to do. Your partner can prove their love for you without the stigma of being tested, there are ways to let love shine through without the risk of the relationship crumbling in the process.@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
You're right. We have many ways to express our love to our partner. So, "love testing" don't need for us. If we don't believe in them, we should have a question about it to ourself and our partner in order that we can solve this problem.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
17 May 11
I think if she doesn't trust her boyfriend she shouldn't consider marrying him. Trust is a big part of a relationship. If the boyfriend ever finds out, even if she tells him, I would think he would be very upset. After all it shows she doesn't trust him and lied to him.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
I think so. But she believes in him now. They will get married in the near time.
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@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
17 May 11
Nope i have not test any of my girlfriends because so far they are the one who will break off with me and find other more suitable boyfriends than me either richer or better than me, it ok for me, since they happiness is more secure than being with me, then if fine and ok , even it hurt awhile.Better they are off with someone rather than misery with me.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
I believe that you're very happy in love now. And your girlfriend is too. Wish you're the best things.
@RabbitCanFly (120)
• China
18 May 11
I would never "test" the love of my partner.That's a stupid and terrible thing to do.Seriously,if I ever find out my boyfriend ever did some "test" on me I'll just break up with him.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
You seem very trick with love. But I think you're right. We shouldn't test love, but enjoying it.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
17 May 11
I don't blame her for doing that if she had any doubt in him. I hope that this does not continue to be the pattern though because if he finds out, he may doubt her also.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
I think so. Testing the partner's love is very dangerous. It can make him feel doubt his partner and even himself.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
I think so. I think that we shouldn't test their love. We can make them feel be disappointed because we didn't believe in them.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
17 May 11
LOL!
Yes, I have tested my boyfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, I do trust him very much but sometimes you never know whats in their mind when it could be the right time w/out ME knowing. I've tried with another number using a free online application and my boyfriend was nice blunt and refused saying he had a gf and all this stuff =) I am truly happy! I did tell my boyfriend the truth too afterwards.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
Your boyfriend was great. You're very lucky because you have had a love like him 
I knew that there are many people were very angry if they knew that their love was tested by their partner.
I knew that there are many people were very angry if they knew that their love was tested by their partner.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 May 11
Hmmm, that was a tricky thing to do with the boyfriend , but i think it's a good way to test him. Had cellphone been the craze during our boyfriend-girlfriend times of my husband, i could have done it too. 
One nice test too, if i may add is to test how your boyfriend acts when he gets too drunk? Is he a joker or a sore one when he gets drunk?
I haven't done it to my husband, but luckily he is a joker, whenever he gets tipsy. Besides, i haven't seen him so drunk, because i told him if he gets too drunk on his drinking sprees with friend, he could just go home when he gets sober. That way, accidents along the way could be prevented.
One nice test too, if i may add is to test how your boyfriend acts when he gets too drunk? Is he a joker or a sore one when he gets drunk?
I haven't done it to my husband, but luckily he is a joker, whenever he gets tipsy. Besides, i haven't seen him so drunk, because i told him if he gets too drunk on his drinking sprees with friend, he could just go home when he gets sober. That way, accidents along the way could be prevented.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
As me, we don't need to test our partner. If we test, we also know their actions in this time, we don't know what will happen in the future. So, the result don't say more about our partner's character. Right?
@areshstarfreak (238)
• Philippines
17 May 11
After reading this story, I cannot help but laugh. The reason that I am laughing so hard deep inside is becuase I am guilty of such. I have also tried testing the love of my boyfriend in a similar way as what your friend did. It was really risky.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
I believe that you wasn't peace in that time, right? I won't do the similar thing. If I doubt my boyfriend, I'll ask him about it.
@hot_legs15 (132)
• Philippines
18 May 11
That was clever! lol. Anyways, her test may have proved that, as of now, her boyfriend is loyal to her, however, it does not mean that it would lasts forever. The best test is actually time. In due time, your friend and her husband "to be" will meet several obstacles in their marriage life, and this is where the test of love, commitment,and loyalty begins.
Good luck to your friend and I will pray for her marriage.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 May 11
I think you're doing well. Believer is the most important in marriage life. We don't need to test our spouse to know her/his love. We can see it via his/her actions everyday.
