How do you handle your stress
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
Canada
May 17, 2011 2:38pm CST
When you are completely stressed I mean totally at your breaking point. How do you deal with that? What do you do? I'm asking this because sometimes with 2 kids I get to these points and I normally just cry for a minute and then get it back together. I'm just trying to find some other solutions.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
17 May 11
Accept life as it is. Remember kids are kids and they will be in a way they want to.
Do yoga, meditation when you get time. Go for a walk with kids. Be happy with what you have. You will get more as time approaches. Continue to cry as you have been doing. But do it silently not in the presence of kids. You are setting an example to the kids. Don't smoke/drink in the presence of kids. We will get more ideas from our friends.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
18 May 11
that is good. You are clever. Many times our impatience only brings bad feelings. We want to become .... (fill up .... famous, rich,popular....)quickly. It is not possible. It takes time. It takes nine months for a baby to be born. Similarly it takes times for our efforts to yield fruits. Wishing you success in all your efforts.
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
Oh I never let my children see when I'm upset. I find it very inappropriate to fight or show negative emotions infront of your kids. I'll normally walk away from them if I get to frustrated but as I said before I just have to look forward to next year when schedules are set. I know it will get better in time its all about patience
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
Yes everything does take time I guess thats why they say good things come to those who wait or patience is key. I just wish this time would speed up a little bit. But I know before I know it that time will be here and I'll be sad that my babies are no longer my babies anymore.
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@adarshvishwanath20 (101)
• India
17 May 11
Oh that's so sad & very strange that you cry for a minute & get back to work. You feel so stressful because you do lot of things at a time without any breaks, this causes tiredness & you run out of your enery. First priortize your work & act acsordingly. Instead of doing a bulk activity at once, split it into pieces then you feel less stressed. Manging two kids is really a tough job. If you are unable to manage them, keep a servant maid, that will be of some help for you.
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
A servent maid would be a wonderful option however I don't believe I have those funds but I guess your right in saying I need some more energy maybe a redbull is the answer to my question :P But I will take those things into consideration. I will try and do things little bit by little bit. Thank you for the advice :)
@adarshvishwanath20 (101)
• India
18 May 11
You are most welcome. YOu think you don't have enough funds to hire a servant for yourself, I've another idea for you. Why don't you ask any of your relatives to come & stay with you for some days (preferablt female). She'll help you in household chores & in day to day activities right. Don't keep them for so many days, this is just to regain your lost energy & release stress. Once you regained it, you can send her back. What say?
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
That sounds great to but unfortunately I don't have alot of family here. My grandmother was helping me with my first but now that I have 2 and they are so young its hard for her to keep up. When my hubby's mom comes from overseas thats when I get my break but shes not comin back until December. I think I'm gunna try playdates with some of my other friends.
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
That sounds great but finding the time to do it is the question. I just try to take deep breathes, maybe the movie thing will work but I feel like I'm depriving my lil one cause I normally have kids shows on tv while he's awake. I guess I shouldn't feel so guilty. Hopefully something will work I love all the suggestions that came through, I'm going to take alot of them into consideration.
@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
18 May 11
Hi there, I am so sorry to hear that... well, you can take a time off from your usual routine by going out with your friends. have some coffee and try to enjoy your moments with them... when I am feeling stressed, I usually go out and do some shopping... i consider shopping as one of my temporary remedies to stress... it helps to forget all my worries for a while... when i have enough budget, i go to an out-of-town trip with my partner or we go to places we have never been before... :) have a good day!
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
Those are real good ideas I love shopping I use retail therapy a little bit to much sometime but it does make me feel better. Going out of town sounds nice but I'm sure I would miss my little one or worry to much thinking they are driving he sitter crazy.... I can't win lol I think a day away is gunna be the solution even for a couple of hours
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
18 May 11
Try to get as much rest as you can. A lot of people say meditation works against stress so you might wanna take a look at that. Although for me, sleeping is enough.![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
18 May 11
I guess that's one of the things that makes up a mother.
Also, that may be one of the things that could earn you the mother of the year, you'll never know.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
Sleep is a really good idea but its near impossible with my 2 little guys. They really are a task. While one is sleeping the other is up and once I get one down the other wakes up. I swear as young as they are they plot against me together. I sometimes just tell myself these are the glories of being a mother
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
18 May 11
I can truly understand how it is to be a housewife and a mother to 2 kids. From what you have narrated i can say that you are truly stressed.
Maybe you need to prioritize your chores at home. You can do the most needed chores first while the others could be done, once the kids are asleep. You have to manage your time and learn how to prioritize, lest you will get stressed wanting to have them done all the same time.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 May 11
Being a mother to our kids could really be tiring and hard, but the joy we get from them is worth it. ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
Yes I'm starting to realize that scheduling is where its at. If I can stay into a good routine I'm sure I'll be less stressed. I have to think of something I'm going to take all of these suggestions into consideration I'm sure there is a resolution. I know I should just be greatful I have kids and enjoy every minute of being with them but sometimes it gets so hard
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@maximax8 (31047)
• United Kingdom
17 May 11
I am so sorry to hear that you feel sad and close to the breaking point. I suggest a walk in the countryside or the coastline to breathe in some fresh air and get some lovely views. I know in the evening once the kids are asleep reading a wonderful book would take you out of your world to another for a couple of hours. Maybe you could plan a happy day out with your kids. Good luck.
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
Those are great suggestions the walk sounds most appealing because its really rainy weather for the next few days. This summer I will definately be having days out with the kids. Maybe I'm going through these things because I'm shack wacky :S
@Bernard9 (56)
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17 May 11
I have learned to use the 'Four Fold Breathing technique', if you are not sure about this look it up on line. First you need a couple of minutes alone. You breathe in for a count of ten, hold your breath for a count of ten, release for a count of ten and then repeat. You do need a comfortable place to do this and away from distractions.
It is important that you are not struggling to do this, a count of five works just as well. The important part is concentrating on holding your breath for a comfortable time and counting mentally.
You will find doing this that extraneous thoughts will distract you. Just say to yourself that you will deal with these later and restart your counting. You will also notice that you become much calmer and more relaxed. Grounded is the word I would use.
Could you let me know if this works for you?
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
Yes I can for sure I tried something like that but I thought it was just to breathe in and out slowly four times lol Well now I know the actual technique. I will try it out and see what happens. I'm one that deals with stress by crying and that helps me out a little bit. I'm hoping this will work because this will be the most efficent as I'm stuck at home alot
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
17 May 11
Hi Baby girl: Don't worry, actually being a mother is a really hard job. When I feel that I am too stress I just try to escape. I stop doing for a while what I have to do until I feel relaxed again. In the mean time I try to do something that makes me feel in peace, something that is not relate to my work just to forget these problems. I play some games or just go to sleep for ten minutes. A peaceful activity should helps.
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@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
Thats a good thought I find music keeps me calm maybe I'll try that I can't do games because my little one has taken a liking to my laptop. He's even refreshed my pages when I make a long response and I have to rewrite everything again. I think the music thing will do me some good.
@EstiiBabii (685)
• United States
17 May 11
I handle my stress by creating an organizer and set time for everything including relaxation time. I set at least 30-60 minutes of having time to myself where I either meditate or do some stretches. Because after I relax, I feel this huge weight lifted off my shoulders. I feel refreshed and that gives me the strength to continue with my work.
@Babygirl1984000mx (218)
• Canada
18 May 11
Nice Idea as well I know its all about schedule when it comes to kids. I just find it hard because my newest arrival doesn't have a schedule as of yet. Its only been 2 months and my other one is 19 months so my hands are tied quite a bit. Between keepin my 19 month old out of mischeif and makin sure he doesn't maul his brother and keepin my fussy 2 month old happy it gets hard. Thank goodness for my hunny who helps once he gets home but I don't like to put things on him because hes been at work all day.
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