he is in love but he never spends time.

if he is truly in love he will find means and ways to contact with the girl. even if not often, at least he is showing her that no matter how busy he is he still has time to call or to leave a msg or to have a date sometimes. but if you can see that the guys is replying on his other friends' msgs at FB but not replying to his own GF's msgs, then there must be something else going on...

It's difficult really if we're talking about other people's lives. I mean, you only heard of the side of your friend and never the side of the man. Perhaps she's not telling you everything or perhaps she has failed to tell you some vital points about what is truly happening. First, how does she know that he's been responding to friends? Does she have too much time on her hands that she can monitor what his boyfriend does on Facebook? Further, there are men who think that there's no more need to communicate on Facebook and other public social networking sites because you could well talk personally or on the phone or in 'private', therefore, perhaps he feels it's unreasonable if they need to talk in Facebook. Further, what does the guy do that makes him busy? I don't think the relationship would work out if he 'never' talks to her. I mean, are you saying that in a week they wouldn't or couldn't even meet once or twice? You see, we girls have this insecurity about everything. A mere failed time to call or an unanswered message could make us think that the man doesn't love us. Further, remember that an idle mind is the devil's workplace, if she's not working or not 'busy' herself then she'd have the tendency to have paranoia about everything that is not intentional on the side of the guy. However, let's not forget that maybe it's not really true that he's busy? Perhaps he's just keeping her for one thing and isn't really committed to her. All in all, you cannot base love on the amount of time - my partner and I don't spend time all the time because he's truly busy with work, but he has other means of showing me that he loves me. For one, whenever he need to work overtime he turns his YM or Skype online so that I could see him and he could see me while he's working, we do see each other but we don't talk because he's busy. Further, he could sometimes call for about a few seconds to a minute when he has a break to let me know he misses me. There are other ways to show it if he's that type of a guy. Remember that everyone is unique but just so she knows she's truly loved, she need to talk to him about it and settle these things because maybe the guy doesn't know that she's not contented of the time being spent on her.

Well being boyfriend and girlfriend mean spending time together and doing stuffs together.I guess your girlfriend has to talk to her boyfriend about spending more time with her.A busy boyfriend working hard to earn money is a good thing shows future charasteristic of earning money to support the family and the girlfriend.However,maybe he need to learn to share stuffs and time with her.

When you love someone, you try as much as you can to spend time with her. From the way i read it, your friend's boyfriend isn't that much in love with your friend. He has time to answer his friends at Facebook, yet he has no time reply to to girlfriend's message. I do believe action speaks louder than words. His action belies his words.

hello, Ohh? okay? So, why? I dont understand? why did he has a time to his friends but when it comes to her gf he cant even reply? Wow! is that what we call love? I dont think so?. Don't get me wrong. Maybe he does not even love her girlfriend? because I dont see any reasons why he is like that?

" If a man loves a woman, he wouldn't make her feel otherwise." And since your friend feels ignored and unloved, then maybe her feelings are true. In a long distance relationship, communication is vital. That's what keep couples together specially since they don't see each other face to face. So if he really wants to make the relationship work he should put some effort and show that he doesn't want to lose the girl. Some couples in a long distance relationship, who communicates constantly, even breaks up. How much more those who barely communicate at all.

It sounds like he is leading her on. He is no longer interested but doesn't know how to tell her. Or maybe he is just telling her what she wants to here so she will be available when he wants to "make time". I don't mean to be rude but she needs to smell the roses. He's just not into her anymore.

If there's a will there's a way. If the guy really loves your friend, he will find ways to be with her. No matter how busy he may be because of his job, he can always find ways of communicating with your friend. He can always send text message, call, chat, etc. Was he always like this in their relationship? If not, he may be spending time on another girl perhaps? If he has always been so busy even before they got together, then I would say your friend already knew what she was in for in the first place and should be the one to initiate spending time with each other.

If a man likes you, he will make time for you. This is the line that I read from the book that I read, and I believe it. If he really likes you, he will spend time with you, respond to your messages etc. If he has time responding to his friends in Facebook, he should have time to respond to your friend. I suggest that your friend dump him nad find a new boyfrined who will treat her the right way.

he don't love her actually.

I do not know the guy personally so I can't say if he really loves the girl or not. But I guess in loving someone, you also have to make time for her. Making time is one of the greatest expressions of love.