Do you usually express your feelings to your parents?
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6438)
Vietnam
May 18, 2011 2:07am CST
This year I'm 26 years old. I can express my feelings to my parents. I can be talked to them about my life. I can tell them what happen to me. And I can communicate with them lightly.
I couldn't do that before. I didn't know what I can talk to them. So, I rarely call them when I must work far from home. If they called me, I only talked shortly and I only wanted to cut the call as soon as possible.
I feel sorry for the long time when I can't open my mind to them.
How about you? Have you ever been in this situation?
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19 responses
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
20 May 11
That's a good deed, friend. Because we need to be open to our parents. Most especially when there is a problem in our parts. We need our parents opinion. Even if the opinion they give us is not suitable for the situation...at last we tell to them the said problem and we are no longer worried about tomorrow...
@atprudente6 (673)
• Philippines
19 May 11
When my parents are still living, I always see to it that we have quality time every weekend. During this time, we would talk about things and our feelings towards each other. There are also times that I voiced out to them what really is inside my heart. I really miss those times.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
19 May 11
I am very close with my parents. I can talk about anything with them. My school, friends, my ex boyfriend or if I have interest in someone and stuffs like that but I could never tell them how much I love them. I never have. Well I did it when I was younger but somehow it makes me feel kinda uncomfortable these days.
@Erna1975 (37)
• Indonesia
19 May 11
nope, they both gone since I was a kid.. wish they still around, for me to contact with them, or at least text them.. telling them that I am ok.. and I miss them so much..
If I were you, while they still here, don't you think better to spend a bit of your time just to let them know that you love them? "too busy" is about to excuse yourself, on lack of capacity on understanding the importance of communication, don't let chances passing you by for not a word letting them know how much you thankful for this life.. spend your time with them..
@marriedman111399 (1207)
• United States
18 May 11
I am 43 and I still go to my parents and talk to them about life and questions that I might have about having my own home and the things that might come up. I also have many questions about raising my kids and ask them for advice they can give me. I will always talk to my parents about different things that come up.
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
19 May 11
Yeah Iam also in the same situation as you are facing, Iam not been able to open up to my parents on any issues. Iam 21 years old. When i think i need to share a little problem with my parents i think what if the answer comes negative. Or it may have a negative impact of myself on parents and they wont trust me anymore. Thats the reason i feel that the fear of sharing my feelings with parents. Apart from that i express my little things to parents when i was young i used to share everything but as time passed and i started to enter adulthood i thought that sharing may not be good opinion cause there are lot of issues i think that sharing with them may cause a little problem
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
18 May 11
I was never afraid to espress my feelings to my parents. They may not always been happy with my choices in expressing my feelings, but it was not something i would ever hide or be embarrassed by. Being open wirh myfeelings was never a problem for me.
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
19 May 11
I'm not comfortable expressing my feelings to my parents. I left home since I was 17 and there are too many things to be said that weren't said that it's impossible to know where to begin. But whenever we meet, we only talk of good times and the future. I think it's better left this way.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
19 May 11
When i was young i tend to shut up and not express or talk to much for parents because they always look busy or look tired so better keep quiet and such.WHen teenager start to talk more and argue more with parents until young adult.Nowsdays parents are sick with stroke and heart ailments so back to basic better shut up and solve any problems , close one eye and only speak when there is emergency.
@marimarj23 (124)
• Philippines
19 May 11
Same here. I can't also talk to my parents about my feelings or emotions. It seems like there is a big gap between us. I am more comfortable with my friends or sisters to talk to. Maybe it was the way they raised us. Because they impose certain rules. My parents are very strict. I can't even kiss them and say I love them. They are now old and I think it's nice to express our care and love for them but seems so hard to do. I don't know. But I know I love my parents.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
18 May 11
I don't talk to my parents much. But I'm okay with this decision. I do not feel upset about this decision. Why did you have to wait until you were 26-years old? I'm sure they would've of listen to you before now.
@dabieO (120)
• Philippines
19 May 11
in my case..im NOT.. im not usually..
i did not ever.. :)
i dunno..
maybe because i leave alone..
i dont lived with them since i was 12 up to this years..
though we are communicating.
even communicating is less...
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 May 11
I hope my daughter will finally be able to come to me and talk to me about things. I can talk to my mom also about everything. My dad passed away when I was younger but I am sure I could talk to him about everything too if he was still alive.
@larish (2237)
• Philippines
18 May 11
It depends, there are things that I can discuss with them and a couple of situation that I cannot. But just the same I never feel less of their love for me. If ever I have topics that I cannot open up with them, it means that it is better to keep things to myself because it was for the benefit of everybody. I agree with you that when we are younger, we seldom discuss with them our experiences maybe because we are always get the same rection that we are still too young. But now, we are already accepted as grown up and that we are mature enough to handle any predicaments in life.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
18 May 11
I used to be like you when we were younger. We talk to our father through our mom. He is a disciplinarian so we are afraid that if we talk straight to him about what we want, we would be rejected.
But all that changed when i get older . We now can openly communicate with both our father and mother. I can even tell them I love you and kiss them on the cheek, whenever i go to their place.
@RabbitCanFly (120)
• China
18 May 11
I don't share my real feelings with my parents very often.Sometimes their opinions are just so old school and I don't like them.And besides,I'm already an adult and I want to be responsible for my own life.
@happyrabbit (13)
• China
18 May 11
My parents often taught me to communicate with my classmates and teachers in my childrenhood.So I started to my feelings to my classmates and teachers,and grew to be used to it.Not only I communicated with them,but also I did it with my parents.So far I still keep expressing my feelings to all them.