How to be concerned but Not nagging- Protecting the one you love
By SpYkzzzz
@SpYkzzzz (26)
South Africa
May 19, 2011 7:15am CST
I have an 18 year old cousin who hangs with guys that get me nervous. I know that they get up to stuff they shouldn't be doing. All I've done so far is watch from a distance. It really troubles me that he should be involved in drugs and gang fights. He and I used to be very close. I don't want to lose him by being seen as someone trying to stop the fun and if I go to his parents He's really gonna hate me for it. Any else been in a similar situation.
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@skeeter747 (119)
• United States
24 May 11
I think if talking to him does not work then sorry to tell you then he will not change unless he wants to. I have been through this with my brother. It takes them wanting to change to be able to change ,hope all is well :P
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
19 May 11
If I were you, rather than telling his parents, just talk to him directly. Let him know that you aren't judging him, but you are worried that he may be doing things that could hurt him and that you don't want that because you care and he's family. Don't expect him to say anything back, telling him that might not be a bad idea. Let him know that his life is his decision, but you're just putting things on the table that you think he should think about.
I think the trick is to show that you care while showing respect and without coming off as judgmental. It's a tricky thing, but sometimes it can help.
Hopefully my suggestions were of help. Good luck.
