I'm confused
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
May 19, 2011 5:10pm CST
I feel really confused. I tought I forgot him and the fact that he spoke to my friend...affected me.
he made me suffer and now he spoke so nice about our relationship. I know that he cared for me but we simply couldn;t get along.... I feel like calling him but I know that if I do this will only make things worse. i try to stick to my decision of not talking to him again ( aldo he told her that he would want us to keep in touch). this is so confusing
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6 responses
@Madmax73 (280)
• Romania
19 May 11
u haven't forgot him:|
damn hate these moments. People change, and they could get another chance, and maybe it will be better than ever.But there is the other part when things fall apart harder then ever...
it's a 50-50 chance.
How long since you guys broke up? if you don't mind if i ask...
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
19 May 11
if i tell you you'll think I'm crazy...almost 2 years....i don;t feel the same how I felt for him but he still has a special place in my heart. and I saw him almost a month ago after one year and a half...and this moment was really confusing to me. I don't want him back because I know this would be bad for me but at the same time i cant stop thinking about him and the beautiful moments we used to spend together...damn...
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
20 May 11
Hi Swissheart,
It is difficult to move on especially if he is confusing you with mix signals. You have to decide in your heart if this is really what you want or not, but can only do so if he too is willing to commit. Sounds like you prefer best not to, so perhaps just a bit of more time.
If it is meant to be you both would get back together, be sure you are only doing so because he too feels the same way. 
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
20 May 11
I am very glad to hear this swiss, though it must be very painful, do move on with your life because you do deserve someone who will love you just as much as you love them.
It will not be easy but some day you will find that special someone who deserves you 110%
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
20 May 11
I don;t want us to get back together cuz I know that he wouldn't change and I don't want to live again what I used to live in the past. I realised that I was in love with the idea of having a relationship with the man he used to be but I refuse to start to hope again that he would change. it's better like this...I think...
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
20 May 11
I hope you're right :(...anyway if I don't at least I have my cat :))
@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
19 May 11
i'm sorry about your situation. i think it would be best to move forward. it is just going to hurt you whenever he is around. i would not keep it touch. it just dosen't work. the best to you.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
19 May 11
I tried not to keep in touch with him. in fact we hadn't seen each other for 1 year and a half till one day when accidentaly I met him in the park...the situation was weird...
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
20 May 11
Hi. swissheart. That is how relationships that are bad have happened. I think that you should just lay low for a while and focus on carrying on with your life as you have been doing before. Stick to your decision. Your ex is trying to ease his way right back into your life. So, make the right decision not to let him come back in.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
20 May 11
I don't know if he is really trying to do that but the thing is that I;m not going to allow him to do it ... or better said I;m not going to allow myself to start acting like I used to. I can;t deny the fact that we spent beautiful moments together but at the same time he made me suffer alot...and I don;t want to suffer again...I'm afraid of it
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 May 11
I think that however long ago the relationship ended, or even how bad it ended, you never really forget about it.
Sometimes the longer it has been, the better you remember the good moments. I think that is why you still get affected by things that he says. And I also think that you should stand firm in your decision, and move on.
Goodluck!
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
24 May 11
there is no doubt that I didn't forget him...and I don't want to do that because he used to be a person that I loved really much and I wouldn't like him to turn into a stranger for me. but more than the good moments I remember the bad ones...and I can't forgieve him for what he did to me. guess this things won't affect me the day I manage to forgieve him...and this is going to take a long time :(
@narnia007 (1050)
• India
22 May 11
The reason why he talks good about you to your friends is that it is only now that he has realised your true worthniess.People usually dont recognize a persons value when tey are with them.Only when they are alone,they will realize and regret their actions.But You dont have to be confused with this.Everyone are like this.If you think he will give you trouble like before,avoid him completely.Otherwise assuming he is completely changed and truly realized your love now,give him another chance and talk over this clearly and then confirm for yourself that he had truly realized your love and then go on with him.It is your to decide.I am in the same situation.I decided to give her another chance.you decide your life.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
24 May 11
it's really nice what you said and I think this is probably the situation. but I don't think I want to give him another chance...I don't think I want to even talk to him. I'm afraid I might end up suffering again. to tell you the truth I still have some feelings for him I think ...and this is why I don't see how we could be friends. I think is better like this. hope I never get to see him again :( he hurted my feelings too much...
