How Justified A Friend You Are With So Many Friends In Your List?

Hi mamu Well, i have over 400 friends on my list and there are five categories of friend. 1. they are there because i dont want to delete them as they have not done any fault. they are just showing numbers, 2. they are there because they have some good discussions to participate and they too visit my discussions when they want but not frequently. 3. they are there but now not active. with them i had good friendship and hoping that they will come here one day. 4. they are there who often participate on my discussions and i also follow them on their discussions. 5. they are there with whom i chat being off from mylot. Just on facebook or via chat engine or phone. have a nice day.

Hello Thesids, I'm glad that your discussions are back. I've told you that I like them, haven't I? I don't think my friends count is real. I mean, I have lots of 'friends' on my list but the users that I feel like true Friends are only a few. The list is so long because I had a time when I accepted any friendship request, without judging if the friendship to be was a good idea or not. Many users from my friends list are not active at all, some of them were deleted or cancelled their accounts. I hope I'll have some spare time some day to check the list and remove those who don't have anything in common with me. But I am not too sure how would they feel if I removed them from my list. Would they feel offended? Would they find out they have been deleted from somebody's friends list, anyway?

Hello Sidhu, I am so glad to see your topic finally. On friends count, I think I have so many in my list as I have been a member here for the last four years; naturally I get lot of friends. Secondly I am a person who accepts each and every; this is also a matter of increasing the number. But I have very less number of friends (close) in mylot, many people in my list are not active at present. Yes, it does not matter if you have less number of friends in your list but the relationship with them is really a matter. If you are good and keeping good relation with them then there is no problem, if you have less number in your list.

Hi sids! Let me start by sayng that I had no idea how many names (yes 'names') there are in my list here so I went to have a look. I see that it says "see all 1778 friends" - and that is a false supposition! I do not have that many 'FRIENDS' here, no way! Sadly myLot defines them as such so I am stuck with it lol My justification is the fact that the only we can be in contact privately here is by adding them and as I help many users I willingly add them to be able to communicate with them when they have queries. I would not want two different lists but, as anyone who knows me is aware, I am obviously 'friends' with only a few of the names on that list. The others are there but where are not what I define as 'friends - but where can I put them as myLot do not give us any other alternative? I have been here over 4 years and in that time have added many. Some don't post anymore but keep their accounts open and one day might/will be back. They are there for that reason. Others only needed to contact once but I don't remove them either. I would do that with weeds in the garden but I don't, and never will, consider them like that as those that are real weeds on here, never end up on my list in the first place! If some are aware of those that could fall into that category and see them there, rest assured that there is a reason

Hi thesids Gosh I had to go check and I have 778 listed friends, of which on 10% are active. The list keeps growing by the day. See when I first came to myLot I did not come with friends. So many requested me. To date I have only requested about 5 members, everyone else requests me. Because of my high activity I get at least 10 requests a day. I use to instantly approve everyone because I always remembered that I too was new, so always keeping in mind that if I approved that will allow them to be active. Though being on a friend list does not constitute in my mind that they are true friends not do I put conditions to true friends. If a member does not comment to my topics, to me that is okay because in offline life I do not condition my friends. But I have to admit though that this is the main reason for my high activity, that I respond to almost all my friends topics because I do not want them to feel like I am ignoring them. There are a few that at times I cannot respond. It is not fair that I respond to things I have no knowledge for the sake of posting. Each day I remind all new friends asking how to add friends to please take their time in adding friends because adding just about anyone, they will be disappointed. I say that because what if they have no absolute interests in their topic and can't respond the member will feel like they are being ignored. Thesids I don't know what to do because I help someone and bam, I get a friend request instantly. I am starting to feel like the entire myLot is going to be on my list, lol. I also have many who apparently see my activity and add me without any interaction at all. So what I have been doing is leaving them in pending to see if activity picks up and or what their activity is like. What I have noticed is that many just want numbers on their list and make no effort to interact at all. Many of my listed friends, I definitely go to their topics daily, yet they have never stopped by mine. A lot of them do not even comment back. The virtual world is re-defining the definition of friends. Though I refuse to do this. I know my friends and do my best not to condition them and or they know not to condition me. My list is getting out of control because while I look for a newly friend in which I cannot remember the exact ID name I can spend an hour flipping through the pages. So how I justify my list is that although the majority are "listed" friends I am very loyal to them and do not get the same loyalty back. I am not upset about because I do know who my "true" friends are.

Hi sid.. Getting rare time for here :( Even i don't know how much friends i am having here. Actually its little weird but whatever friend request I receive i accept them. Rarely i have denied any when i feel something SCAM type accounts(mean accounts who having lots of friend with zero posts here since long time). Feeling great after posting (this one) after many days...

I do not even know how many friends I have. They come and go. I do not delete inactive friends because I want to know if they come back. I answer discussions when I can contribute and I at least read the discussions that come to my inbox. I often think that I am a more consistent friend than many who have requested me. 90% of the people on my list have requested me.

I feel very much justified as I don't SPAM anyone. .....Just kidding. Well. So far I haven't seen my profile for how many friends I have. Only now I checked my profile and wow.... I have around 800 (795 exactly now). If you ask me, out of those 795, probably I would have requested friendship of around 150+. Others, they've found me and added me as a friend. Regarding contributing, I just check the discussions started by them and try to participate. If I don't find anything to contribute, I just rate them positive.

dear sids, Recently i checked my friend lists and i am so sorry to say that i deleted some,those one who are in-active and some who never care to drop a single comment or participate with any topic/discussion with me and other common friend. What's the meaning of friend-if you do not inter-act with them right? Justify the meaning of friend/s- at least participate and be a friend-not a stranger in my lists. i can say that,among these more than a hundred people in my lists,not even 50 people i can say i am close to them and vice versa. But some at least trying to make friend,or drop comment occasionally and who knows one day will become a close friend of mine too. You know your standing with your Di right,and i don't need to explain more. have a great weekend my dear brother

Welcome back, I am agree with you that we having a number of friends that we can keep in touch. It is meanigless that we accept a friendship offer and after it we have not ant contacts. But what we do if some one offer us friendship. It is not courtesy to refuse or not to reply. On internet moreover friendship relation are to promote online business. It have some exception. I have some friends who never talk with me about sites etc.

I haven't checked how many friends i have in here but i am close only to two or three people on my friend list and I really don't know them well enough. I haven't given it any attention as i don't communicate with them outside mylot except for the two friends that i have. You are one of those people on my list that I consider to be a friend not only as a name on the list but as someone who's discussion i am watching out for.

Well, i can say for myself, i only requested two from among the Mylotters. I am amazed though, that a lot had requested me to be their friend. To that, i accepted them. Luckily, nobody from them have spammed me yet, which others have told to have been done to them. I just hope they will remain as my virtual friends as long as i am here at Mylot.

I did found good friends on my friend list but some of them are traitors while others just added me for the sake of their benefits. But I did found some good friends here though I don't chat with my lotter friends. You are one of my good friends here and its not sucking up. Since you are one of my friends here from the get go. I admit though my friendships here are limited to discussions and private messages. I don't go far as chatting or meeting up.

i am a fresh man in mylot.i just signed up before 2 months ago.so i have a small friend counts.i make friend on mylot by resposing and discusion.by the way,i alway find some people that have some common with me.then i will send friend request to them.so until now,those people who is in my friend list is least.but they often offer me useful advice and help me out of difficulty.so i am appreciate for those things that they done for me.i don't know whether i could call them real friend.

I have a couple kinds of people on my friends list. 1. People who really are friends - we are in contact outside of mylot and keep in touch 2. People who seem really nice that I'm getting to know, and some may end up being real friends if they are interested 3. People who have really interesting discussions and who come and visit mine 4. People who sent me a friend request I haven't tried to "manage" my friends list. I just let it be. The people who are interested in getting to know me will make the effort, and vice versa.

hey thesids, the fact that you even thought about the friends you have added shows that you really care about them though you may not know many of them. There is no use of you just increasing the number of friends on mylot or even any social networking site for that instance is not a good practice. When you dont even have the time to keep track of them whats the use of just adding people to your friend list. Getting 2000 is easy as you keep on sending friend requests but having even 100 who are in touch with you is worth it.

Hi thesids! That is a great point and a wonderful discussion. I think that I do have several people on my friends list, but to be honest, most of them are not active members. I recently went through and cleaned out the ones that have closed accounts or no activity forever. I really try to stay updated on my friends and can pick them out very easily when they respond. Even if they haven't been active for a while. I try to be active with as many of my friends here that I can. If I get a notification and I can respond to it, I do. There are my special friends that are active and I have had the priviledge of establishing a real friendship with, but there are a lot of people that sadly come and go.

Until now I have accepted immediately every friend request and I just crossed 250. Since yesterday I have a pending request with a (0) near the user name : I received three spams from the last (0) "friend", who did not replied to a PM asking to stop, so I had to delete this "friend" and I have decided to not accept anymore friend requests from members with no posts. If this one takes the time to respond or to start only one discussion, I will accept the request. 80% of the friends in my list are inactive, with less than (100). On the 20% left, some are never or rarely commenting my responses to their discussions, and some have never responded to one of my discussions in a year... I can say that I have 20 to 25 active friends in my list that I see often in my discussions, and I go often in their discussions, but I exchange PM or emails on a regular basis only with less than ten.

Hi dear Sids! Good to see your avatar again my friend! You know what? You just made me go to my profile and checked how many friends I have in my list,lol! Well,I have 174 friends Sids! But honestly,I don't know all of them,I can only count a few that I could say my close friends here in mylot. I could say I'm a real friend to some of them not all of them. Well,not all of them are I could say active here in mylot,hehe! I'm trying to reply to the discussions of most of them but I can't,have limited time here my friend. So I really don't know most of them. Take care Sids! See yah!

Here in mylot, I have fewer friends than others.I make friends selectively.I think that now that becoming friends,I must take them seriously,read and evaluate their discussions,post response.I am afraid if I have made too many friends,I can make friends disappointed.