How do you handle personal family feuds between close family members?

@34momma (13882)
United States
May 20, 2011 9:38pm CST
FAMILY FEUDS!!! When the people in your family are fighting, it's hard to not become upset! People tend to either feel sad, ashamed or angry. How do you handle personal family feuds between close family members? Are you the troublemaker, the cosigner, peacemaker or neutral because you don't want to choose or take sides?
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8 responses
• United States
21 May 11
Hi there, I do try to be the peacemaker, then the neutral and supporter. I will never be the enabler, with that I mean take sides and encourage. I try to listen to both sides (objective)and be objective (peacemaker) as possible. If neither is willing to give then I will simply be ears (neutral).
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• United States
21 May 11
Let me rephrase: I try to listen to both sides (objective)and be objectively supporting (peacemaker) as possible. If neither is willing to give then I will simply be ears (neutral).
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@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
21 May 11
Hi Momma I will always stand up for the right. Fear not getting involved and standing up for what is right even if it makes one unhappy, they will soon get over it and come to see the right.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
21 May 11
I try not to become involved. I do not take sides and will not give my 2 cents worth to either side. I do try to become a peacemaker though.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
21 May 11
I just stay out of it. I do not want to get involved in it or take sides. Sometimes that just makes things worse and then they turn on me for it.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
21 May 11
Well, being that I'm kind of in one now, I say don't be neutral but stand up for what's right and stand down what's wrong. Staying neutral to me is saying you don't care about right and wrong. Say if it's two parties that are fighting, both can be right in some areas and wrong in others. You just have to be the strong one and point the right and wrongs out and not be afraid of the consequences. I'm one that will stand up for what's right and stand down what's wrong. I am not afraid. However, constructiveness is the key in doing that.
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@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
21 May 11
I hate feuds within our family. Whenever I taught a discussion will lead to a bitter fighting, I would rather turn my guard down and let them win. And when they are in cool mode, then I talk to them nicely and explain calmly my side. Many of my relatives knew this attitude of mine and mostly any dispute were resolved within the day.
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• Canada
20 Aug 11
I'm one of the youngest members of my family. I just tell them if they can't act their ages, they can Atleast act my age, and to do that, they'll have to behave like adults. lol
@allknowing (137771)
• India
21 May 11
This is common in every family. Just recently there was a case where giving a dog a bad name and then hanging it was the issue. I fought tooth and nail for that person as I knew she was innocent but there were others who instead of diffusing the situation were trying to make it worse by endorsing something which this person had not done for reasons best known to them. With so many against her it will not be easy but I will not give up. Why just among family such situations one sees everywhere.
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