When a friend never be your real friend

Hi minmin, I'm sorry to hear about this terrible problem. but you are not alone. friendship is one of the most difficult type of interpersonal relationships. it's not even easy to get good friends, not to say best friend, which is as difficult as diamond to get. I have roughly same advice as other people here who have responded you. i think you should talk to her about this problem. you can say "hi, i've got something important to talk with you." then when you both meet personally, you can tell her about your findings of her bad mouth and ask her to explain all this problem. it is really important to talk about this because your findings maybe wrong. maybe it's not her who betrayed you, and if she really did, you will hear her reasons why she hurt you. i know it's not easy to make her admit her mistake. but even if she lied and did not admit her bad mouth, she already knew that you thought of her as a possible person who created this terrible problem. afterwards, she would think twice to do the same thing to you again. you cannot hide this problem forever. we humans have a threshold of patience. faster or slower, you will accidentally show your anger to her and it can be more destructive because it comes from long time hidden anger. but it is my opinion. it's up to you to decide what is best to do now. if you think being quiet is good, then maybe it's really good for you. and guess, being quiet is not always bad. recently i had a similar case like you. to make it short, my friend (let's say A) told a secret that i have asked him not to tell other people. how do i prove that he's guilty? easy. my other friend (B) told me that A told him about this secret. and B can tell me this secret in details. in fact, only I and A knew this secret. so, if other people like B knew this secret, it means A is the one who told this secret to other people. after knowing this, i just don't talk to A anymore until now. i ignore him on the street and everywhere we meet. i'm sure he already knows that i already know his betrayal now. I hope you will find your best way to solve this problem.

Hi. minmin3456. Welcome to myLot! This is very sad. How can she do you like this? She allowed you to lose just about everything that you have. This is wrong. I am glad that you still have your job though. Don't worry about this, just leave it into God's hands. God is the one that can work this out for you. Trust me, he will. He knows how hurt you are and he cares. He will not leave you when you are sad.

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about that... Don't let yourself down...if your boyfriend left you ,just because someone told him bad things about you,then you are lucky...that kind of boy doesn't deserve your love.. in this world thers has two kinds of person, one is good and another is bad..just be careful of the bad one,and take care of the good one.

I'm so sad hearing that. your friend seems king of ambitious & selfish. wish this experience was just once happening in life. dont stop to believe that true friend is really exist. good luck for you

it's good you share your story because it really helps alleviate your pain. i think she just used you for her personal intention. maybe also she has a crush on your boyfriend bcoz she wants your relationship be ruined. i guess you have to talk with your friend and ask her why she did that..

its so nice that u shared your story with mylotters but still i'm unable to think about ur situation. Why u framed up? Did u think the correct reason behind it or something else? You discussed that she dumped u in a dark side of ur life but my question is what u were doing at that time when she is doing such type of thing with u?? Please explain more in brief if u can...

When a friend turns out to be untrue to you, trust and and loyalty and friendship are soon in jeopardy. Whey you can not count on the true feelings of a friend, it can bring discouragement and bitterness to your world. feelings of betrayal are never eaay ones to emnrace. friedships can mean so much to our lives. We want them to be real for our sake as well as another.

I am really sorry to hear your case.It is indeed very much painful to be cheated by a friend whom we trusted a lot.It is indeed more painful to be with them pretending to be fine with their actions.I would recommend that you speak to her directly about this matter if you really want your friendship.Because if you hide your feelings and go on,that friendship wont go a long way.On that other hand you will come to know if he is really a friend to you or he has done all mistakes unintentionally.Its up-to you to decide.

Have you talked to your friend about things? I understand very well what you mean when you said it's very hard to pretend that nothing happened. That's so true... My mind changes every now and then but right now my thought is that it's better to talk about things than keep it inside and pretend nothing happened, because every time you see her and interact with her, there will always be that heavy feeling brought about by that something you are trying to hide. I suppose it depends on the situation... maybe... Do you think talking will be beneficial in your case? I hope it works out for you. Good luck!

hi bro i know what ur feeling about friendship. but friends are the diamond. and don,t gain this diamond.