What is friendship?

talking about friendship always makes me feel glad but uncomfortable at the same time. glad because i know there is always hope to find a true friend, but also uncomfortable because i can't build long lasting friendship until now. to me, friendship means having a very close relationship with one or two best friends in which we feel safe to be our own selves and help each other develop better personal characters such as confidence, perseverance, and loyalty. actually i have some friends who fulfill these criteria but in the end they always disappoint me by humiliating me in public or make me feel bad about my self in the long time. for examples: a friend who has this criteria straightforwardly talked about my weakness in front of other friends whom I'm not very close to. other friend who also has the above criteria always finds my mistake every time we meet and advices me as if she is the rightest person in the world and I'm always wrong. I know that these friends did not mean to hurt me. but i cannot stand their attitudes to me. so i decide to stop building deeper relationship with them. we used to be best friends, but now we are just friends. so, I emphasize safety to make mistake and gentle emotional support in friendship.

Friend in need is a friend indeed. I have friends who have really helped me a lot. Yes. there was a friend who I helped initially. He grew to a status and later when it was turn to help me possibly I could not put up properly and that ended the friendship. I have a friend who helped me in my banking career a lot. He helped me get into teaching, guided me properly. A friend is one who tries to be in touch with others when they are in happiness and also when they are in distress. In my view friendship is very much in play/use during school days or college days or active work life. After retirement it is only our grand children who will be our friends. have a good day

I think that friendship is wonderful when you find true and genuine friends! I don't have many friends in my life but the few friends that I do have well, they are worth more than gold and I really do treasure their friendship. Once upon a time I thought someone was a good friend! The only problem was I found out that they had been stealing money from me behind my back and well that was that! I could no longer sustein a friendship with this person. Initially there was pain but as the saying goes, 'time is a great healer!' I think that it is easy to relax when you are amongst good friends, there's no need to put up a front so to speak. I certainly do this whenever I face myself meeting someone for the first time. There's discomfort there. Over time this discomfort disappears as you get to know the person well. Yes, I can safely say that friendship is very important to me! Andrew

Hi there and welcome to myLot. I actually started a somewhat similar discussion several days ago, because am one to really value friendships. I have been hurt too many times by what I thought were friends. Sadly I have one (off-line) who disappeared a over a year ago, for which most would swear we were tied to the hips as close and great friends that we were. Long story; but it has made me realize the value importance of a true friend. I seem to be a very caring and good nature person but unfortunately I have not been reciprocated the same way, especially when I so needed a shoulder to cry on. I have since though developed some really great ones online and some good ones off-line. Which in my opinion I would not label so lightly anymore. So to me friendship means I put just as much value into them as I do my own life.

Friends are always there for you whether in good times and bad times, especially during bad times. They will be able to accept you whole heartedly without judgment or whatsoever. They might be near or far, old or new, but they will always be there for you!

A friend to me is someone who accepts you for who you are. They don't try to change thing about you to fit what they want you to be. Someone I know I can trust and rely on. Trust is a major factor in a freindship, for me. It's hard to find people you can truly trust. Heck in some situations you can't even trust your family. Best Wishes!

undefined ....i hv no words to explain friendship!!!!! its a beautiful god gift that shud be kept in d deepness of d heart...........