when people seeks your advice or help, how do you help them?do you tend to alway

Hi chiyosan! I suck at comforting people. I'm more of an action person than word person. I show my love and care for a person through actions. With words, I just don't know how to sound concern and sincere when comforting a problematic person. I know what to say but I feel like I will sound unbelievable when I say it. I even tend to tell jokes to lighten up the situation instead of being dramatic. So I choose to make something or do something to ease up the down feeling that the person is feeling. Like taking the person for a walk, or treat the person to good food, something like that. Cheers.

If my friends feel the need to tell me about their problems I usually have the patience to listen to them and if I can help them with some advice.Of course,if I can do more than just giving advice I am willing to do it because that's what friends are for after all,but it's difficult to say that there is a certain pattern of my behavior towards my friends.It all depends on the context,but one thing is sure:I help them if I can and I don't hesitate to ask for help either when I have problems.

When i am asked for my help and advice, i do my best to lend a helping hand. i try to give advice that will help and not hinder a situation. i would feel guily if my advice was not something to help someone along.

Usually when I am giving advises to people, not necessarily my friends, I really tend to listen very well and analyze of what is the problem. I don't really use encouraging words such as "you can do it", you can be strong and so on but depending on the situation. To be honest I am so conscious of being lame and I want to make sure that I was able to give advises. I want to be sensible as possible to the extent that the person have learned something from me. But whenever I can't really relate on what this person is saying then all I can do now is to listen at all. As much as possible I am making sure that I am really a credible person in giving advises.

I give advice and I usually remind them of the repercussions when not followed. Usually, I don't meddle with their ways on how to deal with their problems..I usually just leave it up to them. Oftentimes, I just limit my help through advice..that's what my friends usually ask, nothing more. I remember though lending financial aid to a friend who was "at her ropes end". Fortunately, she recovered and she is quite well today.

My friends in need of help or support often come to me to seek my help.i think giving help not only is telling the person what you feel about his/hr situation and give hundreds of your advices,it is also to listen to their problems patiently,give them time to explain and after understanding one should tell them where the friend is wrong, where he is right and tell him ways to overcome the phase.As a friend be with him for some time,make him/her feel comfortable and let them know this phase will also pass.

Since I limit my friendship list to very few, I don't have too many people coming to me for personal advice. However, when my true friends have issues that they are not able to sort out by themselves and want some advice from me, they know that what they will hear from me will be my true feelings and not just what they want to hear. I try to be loving and understanding, but in the meantime I paint a very vivid picture of the situation and we, together, weigh the pros and the cons and usually come up with the right solution. A true and loving friend will tell another friend the truth.

It depends on what the problem is.i'm someone who will go out of her way to help or advise anyone who needs help, but, if i know nothing about their situation or haven't experienced the same problem,i won't attempt to give them advice. If a friend or family member of mine just needs comforting or a shoulder to cry on, i would certainly be there for them and do all i can to make it better. Sometimes words are not needed.just being there for someone many times is enough.