When I feel so low I say to myself...

We all experience sadness and depression differently. While the way you relieve your sadness concerning your problems works for you, it may not work for everyone as was perhaps the case of your acquaintance. Most of the time when people disclose problems to others, they are looking more for someone to listen than for someone to help solve their problem. Giving advice is a two edge sword, while it may help it may also hurt. I try to simply lend an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, and a hug when necessary. I will only give advice when asked and then I will present the advice with options so that the individual makes an informed choice. I don't want them blaming me if the advice fails. lol Deleting your acquaintance from your friend's list might seem extreme but you acted on your emotions and your the one that has to live with that.

I would do what makes you feel comfortable. If he isn't using your dialect then I would try but you really need to stay within your comfort zone. Sure you can get angry with his remark. I wouldn't blame you at all. And it shouldn't stop you from trying. That is the whole thing. Trying.

I think it is right that you should speak in native language whenever you find it hard to express it in English because sometimes it is unnecessary unless if you are talking to a foreigner. There is nothing wrong about it. I was even told about that as well when I was a kid. But then of course if I need to learn then I have to work for it. Most of the problems should find the solution right away. For example if you are complaining that your place at home is hot then you should work hard in order for you to buy the air conditioned. That is only simple. I just hate it whenever other people are keep on comparing your own problems to the other people especially for those that are less fortunate.

I think your friend misunderstood what you are trying to say. And when you corrected him for what he is thinking, he told you to speak in your native dialect so you can better express it. I think, your friend has a point there. Since both of you speaks the same dialect, it would be better understood by him if that's the case. Maybe he doesn't want to misunderstood again your future comments, that why he told you that.

I think you've overreacted a bit. Going to the extremes of unfriending the person over a trivial matter is not nice. As you've said the person is undergoing a tough time..I think it is your duty as a friend to help him solve or sympathize with him however you can. I know that perhaps miscommunication was the result of your misunderstanding..try to take back your action-"unfriending" and apologize for losing your temper. Just explain fully the context of your opinion and that it was not your intention to insult him over the "gravity" of his problem as compared to what you're undergoing. Just sharing a piece of my mind. Have a blessed day!

I think it's misunderstandings of concept and of foreign language use. First, he misunderstood you because he did not analyze further when you said you felt relieved knowing that other people might have bigger problems than you had. he only thought you did not care for other people's feelings and were happy for other people's bigger problems. it's a first normal reaction because your opinion (feel relieved knowing other people had bigger problems) really sounded like you were happy to know that you were not as bad as other people. it's better if you said this: "I feel relieved to know that I'm not alone. Everyone has big problems, maybe even bigger than me". it shows that you care for other people's feelings while implicitly showing that you are more confident to solve your problems now, because you know everybody else also has problems, maybe even bigger than you. it will not hurt them. it's weird that he did not want to use your own language, while you both speak the same native language. he already knew that you both had misunderstandings, but he insisted on using English which might cause more misunderstandings. the lesson is: be careful in writing in foreign language because it is prone to misunderstanding, especially if you don't master that foreign language very well. and put your self in other people's position to know how they would feel if they read your writing. I also still make mistakes in writing. so, let's learn together. have a good day.

I think that all depends on how you expressed what you said. If you said "I feel better because t least I have a roof over my head and some people don't have that". I think that is okay, but if you expressed it in such a manner that you are taking great joy in other misfortunes, then that is wrong (and bad for your karma lol). I don't think its worth unfriending someone you are friends with though over a small disagreement,

I think it would have been nicer of him to have asked you exactly what you meant first, before going off at the deep end at you. I wouldn't blame you for feeling angry with him but at the same time, presuming he's an otherwise nice person, maybe it's just a minor misunderstanding between friends that could pass by easily?

I understand what you are saying here; you are not happy because someone else is worse off than you are, but you are grateful for what you have and the position that you are in and that you should not be complaining about the predicament that you are in because you could be in worse condition. I don't think we are ever happy that another person is worse off than we are, but it just makes us appreciate he life that we do have. It also helps us not be so selfish.

Well, it's your right to unfriend every person you feel who are not worthy of your friendship. We all make mistakes, who wouldn't? JUst ignore those people who think they are perfect and not capable of making mistakes.

Language is something which helps us to understand each other thoughts better. You cannot speak the language fluently does mean that you are not allowed to speak out your mind. Communicating your thoughts does'nt need you to be expert in that language; if you know it a bit and can express it with the little words you know would do. When someone stops you to do so, just think that their self-esteem is too high and are so selfish to help others learn the language better. People just need a reason to lower your self-confidence; just dont fall for it. Speak your mind and do what makes you happy.

I woke up in the morning and heard the birds singing beautiful songs. I opened the curtains and looked out of the window to the beautiful garden and said to myself "You have to be stronger than ever". Although some events have been exhausting, there is still hope in my soul.