And that was the day...
By Filigs
@Filigs (122)
Portugal
May 23, 2011 7:43pm CST
The day that my heart accepted the request my brain made, to forget her, in the far future something can be possible, and my dream would happen, but in the near future, I just finally got rid of the idea that something could happen, I decided to turn a better person and actually see life as it is, after some "smile fights" I've realised the better is to just keep on our roads and maybe if they cross again enjoy while it lasts, if that day ever come... I can't destroy a friendship because of love or atraction that isn't mutual as it used to be, or I think it isn't, so I yet didn't decide if I should talk about this to her or not... Should I tell her what's on my brain, or just do my own business and hide what I'm thinking????
Please mylotters, I beg you for an opinion, I would feel the kindest person in the world if I told this to her, but I would feel terribly bad inside, for a while, but if I don't tell her, she will never know whats running and knocking each wall of my brain, and that would not be good too...
Yep, today im inspired to type, but this is what I feel in a "poetic" way right now, please do me that favor and don't just post for money, we're talking about feelings, don't take feelings as a joke, it hurts!
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7 responses
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
25 May 11
Hi. Filigs. Welcome to myLot!
If you really feel like you have to tell her how you truly feel, then do so. Don't let this feeling of love that you have, stay bottled up into your mind and your heart. If you feel like you may regret never telling her how you feel, then try to explain yourself so that she is made aware of your true feelings that you have for her. If she is involved into a marriage or a relationship, I can understand you being hesitant of telling her the truth then. If she isn't, then let her know how you feel and go from there. But of course, this will be your choice though.
If you really feel like you have to tell her how you truly feel, then do so. Don't let this feeling of love that you have, stay bottled up into your mind and your heart. If you feel like you may regret never telling her how you feel, then try to explain yourself so that she is made aware of your true feelings that you have for her. If she is involved into a marriage or a relationship, I can understand you being hesitant of telling her the truth then. If she isn't, then let her know how you feel and go from there. But of course, this will be your choice though.1 person likes this
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
24 May 11
I hope that you will have the guts to tell her your true feelings. It will help you to know your next move if you still pursue her or just let her go and find your the right girl for you. It will also stop you from thinking the "what ifs"scenario. Go on and talk to that girl
@Filigs (122)
• Portugal
24 May 11
There's this one "little big" problem, she has a boyfriend and I neither want to hurt her boyfriend which is my friend and I talk to him alot, he's a very near friend, and he did that to me, I really got hurt and I know how it feels, even though that happened I don't want him to feel the same, so if I want that girl I just rather wait until something is possible, but in the other hand, you're right...! Thanks for the help :)
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 May 11
So,you are loving her from a distant something like that right.
Loving her on your own special way.
I also did that..now to someone.
Loving him from a distant,with my own special way..no need to express nor to have it feel in reality.
Keeping him as a company,to talk with is enough to compensate the word love and give me happiness.
Loving someone doesn't always needs fulfillment by loving in return...loving like a one way road is enough...as long as you feel contented and never asks for more.
@Filigs (122)
• Portugal
26 May 11
From my experience, loving someone and not expressing what we feel may be suffering, because sometimes when we're most afraid of telling, it would be sucessfull and mutual, but just because we or the other person didn't tell, nothing happened and we both may have lost our feeling, but you didn't get well what happened, she's in a relationship with a guy, and I know that guy, very very well, so that means I can't hurt him, which puts me in a pretty bad position after all... Thanks for the tip though!!! :)
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@Valadas (83)
• Portugal
24 May 11
This is really up to you. If you choose to say what you feel for her it can have good consequences or bad consequences. She can either feel the same way about you or simply not feel nothing for you. If you choose to say nothing, everything stays the same and she will not know the truth.
I really don't have an opinion about what you should do. And you know why I don't have an opinion.
@feeltheirie (301)
• Philippines
24 May 11
If you know for sure that your feelings will not be reciprocated, then I suggest to not say anything. What is the point right? It would just seem selfish on your part. But if you know that there will be a chance that the other person might feel the same thing too, then by all means tell what you feel. You owe it to yourself and that person to know what the possibility that lies ahead.
@swatimca10 (215)
• India
24 May 11
If you have any idea that she is have some space in her heart for you, you should of course say your feeling to her, maybe she has the same feeling. Tell her in a polite way , and say if she refuses, you always be a good friend of her.
All the best to you.
Happy Mylotting.
@Filigs (122)
• Portugal
26 May 11
What I have told her was kinda "dangerous" to say, that's why I asked for mylotters opinion, because as I was telling this, I was risking otu friendship and I don't really want to lose her for anything in this world, so yea I was thinking whole day and finally I decided to make my choice and I did rather well, it went well and we're still friends and yea I got rid of what I had inside... Thanks!!
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@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
24 May 11
Well, you can't always tell what is really in the heart of a person. My fiancée had this dilemma for a long time, we've been friends forever and I loved him but I didn't show it openly, I do special things for him though but he thought that I just see him as my best friend since I'm like that to my best friend, he thought he's just my guy best friend...so we went on for years just being friends and not admitting to each other our feelings, then for the first time, he introduced a girlfriend, I was so hurt but I showed that I was happy for him and said yes to a man who've courted me for a really long time. That was a mistake, both on our parts, but then we were both afraid to lose each other if we admit what we felt...in the end we've hurt each other and other people too when our feelings finally got out...
This is really so hard, it's a big risk if you admit what you feel for your friend...a great risk but it might have a very valuable result...but, what I could tell you is that "To let true love remain unspoken is the quickest route to a heavy heart."...risk it...
