Ambivalent about not wearing my wedding ring since I am widowed.

You could put it on a chain and wear it around your neck if you like. But wearing a ring does not say anything about whether you love someone or not. There are plenty of married people with rings on their fingers who are miserable. Don't worry about what other people think. Only you know what is in your heart.

No suspenseful, you won't be dishonoring him, if that was the case, then I have been dishonoring my husband for years. This is because I had fractured my ring finger and because of that, my knuckle is bigger and I can't get my ring on. My husband also doesn't wear his due to the nature of his work, he doesn't want to ruin it. So that said, both my husband and I don't wear our rings and it hasn't changed our relationship at all...

IMO it is not dishonoring your husband's memory if you choose not to wear your wedding ring. Especially if it hurts you when you look at it and it brings you sad memories. It is better to think of the happy times you had together.

If you have trouble with your fingers swelling but still want to wear the ring why don't you wear it as a necklace? It is not dishonoring your husband since you are no longer married but widowed, but I understand how you feel. I have similar feelings even though I'm divorce--marriage is a sacred contract before God and I feel we are always married regardless of what happens so I wear not my wedding band (which was my Grandmother's and I passed it on to a young relative) but a facsimile. If I wanted to wear it and my fingers swelled I would keep it on a chain around my neck. That might work for you and be comfortable while honoring your husband's memory.

I say you do what feels right to you , and don't worry about what anybody else thinks.

in my opinion you should do whatever your heart tells you and don't think about or consider what other people think. this is because you know that you love your husband and nobody,absolutely nobody can change that. just do whatever you think right, regardless of other people's opinions - how does what they think affect what you are doing?

Well with this one, I am not really sure there is a wrong or a right answer, as everyone needs their own time to morn. If it is easier for you to be able to think about in time moving on and living life again and being more Happy, then I would say keep it off. Sometimes people do it afraid what will happen once they remove it, and not ready to move on. I think this is up to you, and just remember you are the one now to make your decisions and be Happy. No one else has been there but you.

I am so sorry to hear that. I do not think you are disrespecting your husband at all. You have to deal with the loss the best way you know how. I understand how it would hurt you to see it and the constant reminders. I feel for you.

absolutely not. i think that even if you dont wear it, you still have him in your heart. i have arthritis in my fingers and i only wear my wedding rings when i go out )my engagement ring doesnt even fit me anymore and we cant afford to get it made larger) but if i go out and forget to put it on, does that mean i am not married? certainly not! i know i am and that is all that really matters to me!

I do not think you are dishonoring him. Nor do I think this means you no longer love him. He will always be in your heart. But you have to live your life. Continuing to wear your wedding band is a constant reminder of him. It will make your grief last longer.

You should do what's right for you. As a widow, you are no longer obligated to wear your wedding ring. If you wished, you could pursue other relationships and possibly even remarry. Your ring is a symbol and it's meaning is only relevant to you. There are customs surrounding widows and their wedding rings, but that's all they are. Never let anyone or anything pressure you to do something that hurts you. You are not dishonoring the memory of your husband. You love him, that love lives on regardless of whether you have a piece of metal around your finger. That it brings you painful memories is understandable and maybe you'll find taking it off for a while is all you need. Given your physical ailments, not wearing the ring might be beneficial not just for your emotional health but also for your physical health. In the end, the ring is only a symbol, what it symbolizes is inside you and nothing and no one can take that away. Honor your husband in your thoughts, in your actions, don't worry about the ring.

I don't think you are dishonoring your husband. Wedding ring,or wearing the wedding ring is not the only sign to show the world that you love your husband. No one has the right to judge all because of "not wearing the wedding ring" No one knows how much you love and suffers the loss,but you alone. So why worried with what other people might say...they can make judgments but never let them affect you.

first of all, im sorry for your loss. don't be too hard on yourself. God knows that you've suffered enough already. you are not dishonoring or doing anything wrong by not wearing the ring that symbolized your unity. if it bothers you that much, buy a necklace and the ring would serve as the pendant. that way, it wont hurt you... physically. and it really doesnt matter if you get married in a church or through the civil ceremony. as long as you have the papers that says you and him are married then it's enough. healing will take time. i've lost my dad when i was 16 and im already 31 now and i still see my mum cry sometimes. God bless.

I am so sorry for your loss. Please, don't feel guilty about not wearing your ring. I doubt your hubby would want you to feel guilty or be unhappy about not wearing a ring. You know you loved him and miss him and not wearing the ring won't change that one bit. My fingers were swollen from arthritis a number of years ago. They aren't anymore, but I still don't wear my ring because I just got out of the habit. My husband doesn't care one way or another. He hasn't worn his ring for while either and I don't care. A ring isn't the most important part. Whether you were married in church or not is also no reason one way or another in deciding to wear a ring or not. I was married in Church and I see no connection between my Church and wearing my ring. You sound like a very gracious sensitive lady. Please don't stress yourself over this. There is NO WAY you would be dishonoring your husband in not wearing the ring. God Bless you and you take care of yourself. Your husband would want that for you :)