Friends with Ex Moms
By minomarimat
@minomarimat (372)
Philippines
May 24, 2011 7:26am CST
Hi fellow mylotters! I was just wondering if any of you guys had the same experience like mine. See, I've already been in four relationships (including my current girlfriend), and the latter three are the only serious ones. Having said that, I'm okay with my two ex-es, but I really got closer with their Moms! We still contact each other, say our hellos, and I still get invited to come over (by my ex-es' Moms). Thing is, is it okay? Or should I close doors instead? I'm just curious.
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@sonata83 (50)
• Malaysia
24 May 11
I have not experience the same as you but I think it shouldn't be a problem for you to be in close contact with your ex moms. They are just our elders. But with you keeping in touch with your ex moms, does your current girl friend commented anything? Just curious if she will feel jealous that you are still keeping in touch with your ex mom in which in-relatively in touch with your ex-gf too.
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@minomarimat (372)
• Philippines
24 May 11
well yeah, she does get jealous knowing that I'm still able to talk with the ex's moms. I assure her though (yeah, truly) that nothing wrong's gonna happen.
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
24 May 11
I agree with Sonata, if your current girlfriend is uncomfortable about it or doesn't like it then I would talk to her about it. If she still gets jealous with the moms because as a girl I would view it as still being in touch with the ex. While you are still friends with the mom, you never know what mom could be trying to tell you. My boyfriend is friends with exes and their families and it is hard for me to understand and be comfortable with.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
24 May 11
This happened in my family, actually. My mom was always really good to my friends and my sister's friends... and this included boyfriends. In my sister's case, she dated one guy for a long time and they broke up and got back together a few times. He had a very bad home life and not a good relationship with his parents so he really took to my mom as a parental figure. Even when he and my sister were broken up, he would still come over to the house and have coffee with my mom and talk things over with her. At first, I thought it was a bit odd but, once I considered his home life, I thought it was great that he could relate to my mom so well and have someone to listen and give him guidance. I don't think you're doing anything wrong and there's no reason to close doors. If someone has a big problem with it, definitely listen and discuss it. Communication is always your best friend :)
@sonata83 (50)
• Malaysia
25 May 11
It's good to hear that your sister's ex is took your mom as a parental figure and also glad he has someone to seek for advise and talk to whenever he has problems. Hopefully your family and him can maintain this bonding in the years to come. :D
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