love of my life
By wings143
@wings143 (133)
Philippines
May 24, 2011 8:35am CST
my girlfriend whom i love very much broke me up recently. She told me she needs a space in order for her to achieve her goal in life, that is to finish her bachelor's degree. i accept her decision because its for her life. i do not want to be a hindrance of achieving her goal. its for her own good and benefits. she told me to be steady and not to worry because she will not find nor entertain any suitors/lover. further, she told me that after finishing her schooling, she will be back again in my heart and arms. she promise me that and it gives me great joy because i found out that she still loves me and longing for me in spite of her decision to stay away from me temporarily. what i said before, its for her own good and benefits. i will wait for that time to come because of my great love for her. she is my life and love.
in this case, what will you do if this happens to you?
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10 responses
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
24 May 11
The exactly thing you are doing , waiting.She said she still loves you , so waiting is the thing to do. Suggestion. Set up a time where you two can just talk or text. Like One hour on Sunday. That way you two don't complete lose touch with each other. One hour a week shouldn't interfere with her studies And it will help you from going crazy. I wish you luck.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
24 May 11
Good! As long as you keep in touch, you two will be fine!
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
24 May 11
Hi wings143!
As they say letting someone go is a way of showing your love and I admire your courage for doing so. What a lucky girl! She should just as well keep her promise to you but you know some things are inevitable and what if then? I just hope you'll be strong whatever her decision in the future will be. If I will be the one to say goodbye, maybe I will not make such promises but I will make my guy feel still important despite being far away from each other.
Goodluck!Happy MyLotting!
@jnorton47 (49)
• United States
25 May 11
Good luck with this. I think if she feels you are in the way of her getting her degree, way would she not feel you are in the way of her career? I would want someone who actually wants me in her life. I see nothing good from this.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
24 May 11
giving her space is a good decision in helping her achieve her dreams and hopefully to realize what she wants in life. There are promises kept and promises broken, and i hope if things do not come as expected [a sudden change of heart], just be happy for her and try to accept things as they are. Good luck!
@wings143 (133)
• Philippines
24 May 11
i remember one time saying this quote to a friend, " loving someone is like holding a bird in your hand. if you hold it too tight, the bird will die but if you hold it too loose, it will fly. it should be not too tight nor too loose, this will give her the chance to breath and move freely". with this, trust is the only key to keep him/ her in your palm. thanks for your comment.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
24 May 11
You said she made a promise and if she can be trusted then I wouldn't mind waiting for her even if it takes ages. I just hope that she is true to her words and she just didn't make an alibi. For me it's really difficult to say good bye to someone that I love just because of my ambition. Why should I let my greatest love go when he can be my inspiration.
But this is me and your ex is a totally different person. So trust her coz you know her well enough.
@wings143 (133)
• Philippines
24 May 11
yeah its very difficult to let someone special go away in your life especially if that someone gave you great joy, etc. i did that because i do not want to be a hindrance of achieving one's goal. i know and believe that if she really is mine, no matter what will happen to both of us, she is mine and i am his.
@minomarimat (372)
• Philippines
24 May 11
Hmm. It's about trust and faith. And that's hard. Easy to say, though. But really hard to do. Hmm. I do believe that it's important to finish your BS degree, but it's not a good reason for one to break up with his/her partner. It's one thing to say you love someone and will not entertain anyone else, but it's another thing for you to prove it by staying strong and holding on.
@wings143 (133)
• Philippines
24 May 11
trust and faith is the key to prove to someone special that your love for her/him is true. we all know God gave us the freewill what to do and not to do. it depends on us how to use it and where and when to use it. let us just remember also that God has a plan for us especially when it comes to love. He chooses someone who is your real match, the woman who is the bone of your bone and the flesh of your flesh. thanks for your comment.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
25 May 11
For me if you wait and you want to be with here to the rest of your life why not to wait ya it is good heart you know how to be good to your love.
@balaji85in (459)
• India
24 May 11
In case if this situation happens to me... Yes i will admire her decision & i wait for her until my last if am supposed to.. Because she is asking the time for completing the schoolings.. Everybody haves their aim & ambition in their life.. So i will respect her decision & privacy.. So i don't bother about waiting for her.. I think waiting for our loved one is also a nice experience & which gives us a kind of pleasure.. Patience is more important one in love.. Because before we start our life, we need a settled position in our life... It is our duty to save our loved one until our last..
@783748 (178)
• Philippines
24 May 11
I admire you guys for your love for each other. If I were in your shoe, I would also wait for the girl. If you really love her, you would wait for her. I guess she's also thinking what's best for the both of you. Just support her with her dreams. In time, you will be together again. Best of luck to the both of you.
@kukai127 (67)
• Philippines
24 May 11
like what you are doing right now, waiting...
giving one breathing space shows how much you appreciate and understand one's individuality. it gives the relationship the opportunity to grow with the two of you together and as your own persons. it shows how much you care and love that person.
trust and commitment is what she is offering and asking. offering because she told you she'll be back in your arms; asking because she told you to be steady and not to worry.
you'll be in my prayers. i hope that time flies fast for the two of you so you can be together again. trust in her love for you.
