Unhappy kids

divorce negatively affects kids of all ages (even adult children!). it makes life so much harder especially when one parent goes against another one.

Awww...I'm sorry for those kids . But I admire them that at such a young age, they have a very strong stand on DIVORCE. Having both parents all my life, I can't imagine not having one of them. If I were a kid with divorced parents, I think I would not take it lightly as well. The effect on me when I grow up would either be to keep my own family in tact or to never marry at all for fear of going through what my parents went through. I just hope that divorced parents can at least stay civil and plan ways on how to let the child feel that s/he still has both parents even if they're divorced already. Tough but if they at least try, then at least the kid would still have a happy outlook in life.

I am afraid that we also have many people not marrying, because they do not want to divorce. It does not really make sense to me, but I have heard that a lot the last few years. I hope this means people will work harder to stay married after they have thought longer about who they are getting married to.

Maybe they live through their parent's divorcing life, and they don't want that happen. But they are only 11 years old, like you say. There is a whole lot of change ahead of them. They might change in the motion of their mind, so, it really hard to tell whether they would do things opposite from their parents.

Favourable and encouraging atmosphere is essential for a child's sense of comfort, successful development and adaption in society. Of course, if children experience unpleasant moments in their family, they might lose belief in life.

I am actually glad kids are thinking this way. This proves that the world is changing. I personally don't think a divorce is a solution to an unhappy marriage.

Yes, I definitely feel that kids suffer the most when the parents divorce. No amount of weekly visits or summer trips or festival visits can compensate for the lack of one parent on a daily basis. Single people who adopt kids are different case coz here the kid’s used from the beginning to having one parent. But to see your parents quarrel and accuse and abuse and hurt each other, is something no child should be forced to go thru. The family is the world for a child…and to have your world fragmented in two, is a burden not for such young shoulders to bear. When we as adults, decide to have kids, its completely our own decision and as long as that child is under our care and not old enough, I think both parents should put their own emotions and compulsions on the backburner… giving a safe, secure and emotionally healthy, happy home should be the priority of all parents. Many divorced people argue that happiness and peace was the foremost reason for separation, i.e. they didn’t want to go on fighting in front of kids, so separation is the best and most dignified way. But its just not the same for the kids…we adults have made divorce so commonplace that we have thrust our own judgment on our kids and expect that like us, divorce would be OK and acceptable to them too! But as these kids have said, its just not that way. I think, more and more such programmes should be aired so that squabbling parents stop and think before they head for that family court

well, my parents got divorced when I was 11/12 years old. I didn't really suffer from it. Kids cannot truly see, what is happening between their parents. Out of "nothing" they got divorced. But now I understand it was for the best. Maybe it seems odd, because in school you got taught, that "mommy and daddy" love eachother. And thats for most children the case. As a kid, you want to be part of a group. But if your parents are divorced, it suddenly seems as a "big" change. Suddenly, this save environment is gone. The majority of parents are still together. And the kid feels more alone, because that is not the case for him or her. It is harder for him or her to blend in some "group", because he or she thinks it is different than the rest.