Parents keep babys gender a secret for 4 months and so on

That is so sad. Life is difficult enough without putting gender issues into the mix! I realize that as a parent you want what is best for your child, but I just can't imagine putting a child through an issue like this! Let them grow up as a normal child.

I think its fine to let children play with the toys they want, it lets them discover who they are by finding what they like. I prefered cars and action figures over dolls. I am married with two kids. My daughter prefers petshops, little toys over dolls. My son loves his action figures and he loves wearing his superhero costumes. Im sure we had some influence, but who dosent? His Dad loves superheros and my son takes after him. I prefer the little toys and my daughter takes after me. We have bouth them other toys when they show interest, but they dont play with them, so we stick with what we know now. My son has put on my daughters clothes, my daughter dressed him for fun. They thought it was funny and its normal. Big sisters try their clothes on their little brothers for fun. I dont see a problem with it. My Grandma wanted a girl. Her third child was another boy. She dressed him like a girl and took him out. When someone wld say, what a pretty little girl, she wld say no hes a boy. I think this lasted for a few years and she had her daughter. I love my Grandma and feel her to be a wonderful woman, but this I did not agree with. My uncle is married with 4 boys and he has done well in his life, but his relationship with his parents has always been a little stand offish. I think he was hurt and embarressed by this. She told this story for ever and said what a pretty little girl he was. There are no assigned colors or toys, but kids tend to gravitate things for their gender. I think parading them around in girl clothes, treating them like both genders, its confusing and will only strain the relationships.

I believe I heard something about that. I dont know what ppl are thinking. Parenting is not an experiment. Were raising humans here. People who will need to function ina an already screwed up world. People who will need to fight for what they want and just to live. Screwing with them on not knowing their gender and ultimatly who they are, does nothing but create more problems for the other people just trying to live life.

Kids are looking for boundaries. They want to know what they can and cant do. Sometimes just to push your buttons. They want to see how far they can go without getting in trouble. Our job as parents is not not try experiments and make them not know who they are, but giude our children in learning about themselves, life,etc. We teach our kids to fly so when they leave their not attacked by a predator and eaten for dinner. These kids will be social outcast with nothing but problems. Nobody is the perfect parent, but enough ppl wind up in counseling with the issues of normal parenting, adding in the oddities only makes it harder.

I agree. I allow my children to find themselves. They have their interest and encourage them. I think as far as some stuff they like they pick up from us. Ultimatly though they decide what they like. My daughter prefers to not wear dresses. So I dont make her. When she was younger I had her wear dresses. Didnt make her like them. My son prefers action figures, legos and trains over cars. He has had a ton of cars, but they never caught his interest. He loves wearing his super hero costumes and pretending. My daughter was never one to play dress up or dolls, or tea party. She had all those things, she just didnt care for them. My son loves babies. My daughter has no interest. She wld prefer to read than sit there and play with someones baby. Every child is different and I dont believe in pushing your likes on your child. We push enough on them with school and everyday life. Some where in the craziness of everything they need to find themself.