disappointed..
By jamzy_amor86
@jamzy_amor86 (182)
Philippines
May 24, 2011 4:06pm CST
Hi mylotters! Just want to express my disappointment with you guys. You see, I have more than a dozen of nieces and nephews (sons and daughters of my cousins). Three of them are my godchildren. I always call them and ask them to come our place especially when it is summer and holidays. I let them to come over to the house to visit us and as well as to bond with them. But they always give me excuses that their parents are busy, that they have something to do, that they don't have money to pay the transportation in going to our place, so on and so forth. There are lots of reasons that they can invent so as not to go our house, and that is okay with me. Since then, I didn't call nor text them to visit us. But yesterday, one of my cousins texted me, telling me that my niece is missing us and would like to come to the house. I then said, sure, let her come over to the house, just tell me what time. She than said, "Okay. By the way, she asked if you could buy her a new school bag because her old one is now destroyed". Bang! There's the catch! She just wants us to buy her a new bag. Then my other niece and nephew came over to the house yesterday, telling me that they are just visiting us. Then after awhile, they are asking me to buy them notebooks and other supplies. Whew! So disappointing.
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5 responses
@SmartMomma (12)
• United States
27 May 11
Well, I guess you know by now that your family is not being very family-like. If your nieces/nephews came over all the time but just needed help, right now , then I would help them. The reality is that they were refusing to come and making excuses
not to come over. But now miraculously, now they want to come over....they need to be taught lesson.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
25 May 11
jamzy--amor86 that is sad that the only reasons they came was to
ask you for something. That's not being a loving family member in
my line of thinking and they are using you. I think I would be
disappointed too had that happened to me.Family should realize they
are family and have some love connected with the other person not
just greed or what can you do for me?thats awful that a school bag
is wanted is the only reason for your niece to come visit you.
Perhaps you should request something from them like some real famial
love given.
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
25 May 11
This is like making use of somebody's helping nature. Try not to give into their demands and slowly but surely they will understand that. Help them as far as you think that it is alright with you helping them, beyond that just IGNORE. I understand that it gets quiet irritating and frustrating to see how people try to take undue advantage of you...how people take you for granted. Love should have its boundaries too.....out of love you might want to help them but dont make it a habit for them. Children too are very smart.....they know exactly where to get their things from and whome to ask to get new things.
@rbhardwajpt (2)
• India
25 May 11
hi!!!
thats very bad i think u shud do one thing dont call them instead do the charity for some orphanage by spending time ther e and making them real mark it real happy!!!