would you condone infidelity?

I guess if your friend don want to listen to your then better not push it ,because u may end up losing a friend too.Sometime people family matter is their business and best we do not involve in it and made it worst.It depends alot on the situation and how your sense the situation, is the family relaying on the husband is there children involve.

Hi laissez, That's why there's legal separation and there's separation. One cannot really adhere to the tenets of commitments anymore, given the society we are in. Wake up, even the movie stars, the priests given to celibacy and our role models do it. How much more the common man? I am not a cheating husband, for the record. I am just aware of what is going on around me and I cannot just pass judgement on my partner if she will go to bed somewhere with another man. Feel betrayed? Of course, but I have been betrayed many times before and I am used to it now. If ever this scenario comes around, let it be, it just add one more to the things I see all around and I can't afford to waste my energy going to hell over it. You just can't beat the heat, "you know".

I don't condone infidelity either and I'm sure that you feel guilty keeping something from your friend. It's not fair to you or to his wife. Still, I do think it's best if you just don't get involved. Don't ever let your friend know that you knew but be there for her when she figures it out. Also, don't talk to others about it. That would make her madder, I think. If she knew that her friends were talking amongst themselves and yet not with her about it. If you aren't prepared to say it to her face then don't say it behind her back.

No, I do not condone infidelity, but I understand your dilemma I would feel the same way if I were in your place but as you've said your not that close, chances are that she won't really believe anything you say...so better tell the closest friend of this woman, and ask her to help you expose her friend's cheating husband but make sure that the wife doesn't know that you're exposing him though... Yes, she might resent you when she learns the truth, but later she will thank you...but if she makes up with her cheating husband, then just stay away from them, relationships like that is stressful...

You and I are on the same track. We both condemn the act of being an infidel. I do believe that what you are doing to the guys is correct. Continue to give him your unsolicited advice, in this way you are doing your part as a friend. However, the biggest conflict here is with the wife who is close to you. I can not really give you a better advice on this, as I myself am in torment if ever I would be on the same hot water. However, the only thing that I can share with you is that; Do whatever it is that you think is right for you to do. Do something that in the end, you won't regret. You know sometimes, we need to be cruel to be good. Sometimes, our being an "evil" is a necessity to bring about the good that we want to show. I just believe that whatever it is in your heart, do it. Listen to what your conscience is telling you. Remember, our conscience is the "little voice of God". Whatever it dictates you to do, as long as it is for the betterment of everybody, then is must be from that little voice of God. :-)

I support you coz if you don't tell his wife even after knowing about him then you also doing the same mistake . But you should take a safe side before telling to her and also i advice you to handle this matter tactfully . You can tell her without giving a sign that you actually wanted to do that and yes I support you in this .

Many people will probably say these 2 things: a) Tell her - u really must b) Don’t tell her - she won't believe you or it’s not your problem. First of all, yes, it’s not your problem or relationship. You said u don't know that good the person, you probably don't know their relationship, she might know, or think something is going on. People sometimes lay to them self to make them happy that everything its okay when it isn't, but at least they are happy, in their version of reality. From the point of view I see, it doesn't matter what THEY did/do, it bothers you. I think it would be selfish to try to destroy a marriage (because it’s highly possibility of you to do that) just so u can FEEL GOOD. Because that's the problem, you don't feel good about this. But they probably do, the husband who cheats has a great time, and let’s hope she is also happy and they will work their problems in the future! If you want to feel better, just avoid one of them or both, and then it will get easier for you. But don't be selfish and play with others life just because you might feel better. If she would be a good friend and close then that’s a whole other thing to discuss. So my conclusion is : A) Stop hanging out with both of them B) Do nothing, not all persons are perfect :P

Its better to stay away from this kind of an affair. Most definately your friend will not believe or will will try to justify what her husband is doing. it is always better to let things fall in place and time will take care of it. If it happened with me and my friends didn't tell me i too would tell them "Why didn't you tell me earlier"! but the question would you just believe your friend and take action on your husband? Love is blind and no matter how much people would want to show you the truth...you would want to run away from it.

Hello, LaissezFaire. First of all, if you say nothing you're not condoning infidelity. However, if you do say something, you may find yourself dragged into the mess, and you could even find yourself blamed if they break up as a result of learning this. You've told the man you know, so hopefully that will spur him on to either confess the affair or end it. It really isn't your problem, and if it does come out and the wife asks if you knew, I'd be honest and say you did, and you advised him to come clean, but didn't think you could do anything else without appearing to be interfering in their relationship.

infidelity is taboo, an untoward betrayal of trust in every relationship. sometimes, human nature tends towards temptations of doing the wrong things that makes them happy; a feat most do due to selfishness, having no regards to people who love them. to realize a mistake, one has to suffer the consequences and learn from it. if there is smoke, there is fire and sooner or later, this illicit affair would be out in the open.

Hi! I think you should not leave her alone for the sake of the children. Try to make a way that she herself will discover the truth, if you can't afford to tell her what's happening behind her back. Maybe they could still talk things out and make their marriage work. It will be too late when your friend will impregnate the girl. I know how you feel, because I had been in that situation too. The sad part was, when the truth came out they parted ways. I was so sorry for the kids, because they didn't know anything. The wife is always the last person to know with this kind of situation.

I exactly know what you are going through right now. I have two close friends, who we think are having a secret relationship. They are both married and have kids. Although, they have not admitted that they are in a relationship, we can tell it by how they treat each other. Of course, we cannot just confront them since it is their life. They are two grown ups and they should know what is right and wrong. Our only concern is that they have little kids, and their wife and husband are good people. I myself is anti infidelity, but in this type of situation it is better not to meddle with them. They know what they are doing. Pray that God gives them the wisdom to stop their wrong doings.

hi laissezFaire. If I were you, I would tell my friend about it. The trick is how to tell her the truth without appearing as meddling in her family life. Try to meet her personally and ask her of the status of her relationship with her husband. From there, you can ask if she ever doubt her husband's loyalty to her. Take a clue on her revelations. Then, you may indirectly tell her what you know. Do not give judgments on her husband, just tell her straight, yes, no sugar coating, of what you know. Straight facts.