Will you skip the engagement?

Hi Youless, Its true. Even on our marriage, we decided not to have engagement as ours is love and we know each other better. We thought its a unnecessary formality. But however my relatives compelled for it. I would say it was fun as well with friends and family. So skipping engagement is nothing harm, it should be fine!

hi youless the difference is you cannot exactly tell it directly to the girl to have a marriage so you need to have an engaged first being engaged is committed to some one and it is also the time to set a plan for the wedding and to the future also.

That's like saying, why even bother dating. Just marry the first person you're attracted to. Being unmarried is not the same as being single. Single means "not in a relationship". You don't have to have a legally recognized marriage to be in a serious, committed relationship.

The only reason I see to have a engagement period is because you need time to plan the wedding. But if you are not going to have a huge wedding , Why wait?

It would really depend on the culture that is present in each country. I had observed that in western countries, engagements are a big deal, but in most asian countries it isn't at all. If it is, it must be because of the influence of the western culture. I for one didn't have an engagement much more an engagement ring. I'm from the Philippines and usually the man's family would come to the woman's house and simply ask the woman's family for her hand in marriage. After that, they usually plan the wedding. We usually skip the engagement. If the bride had doubts before marriage she can always say no to the wedding.

But if you're engaged it means that you, really, want to marry that person. That means you're committed.

I think the only dmsensible way to skip the engagement is to get married at the point of proposal. When you are engaged, while technically un-married, you're still not single, because you are engaged to someone, and thus promised to that person.

engagement is not popular in my homtown,but in other part of my courntry,it,s still a fact.the reason is when the couples have engagement,the man should keep loyal to the woman,during the time,if the man fall in love with another woman,the earlier one will not pay back the betrothal ,it's a protective action for the woman.I think different region have different manner.but i can make sure i will not take the step.

I have been living with my boyfriend now for six years and although we have no plans to get married, I do see your thinking here. Sure I would not mind skipping the engagement if we planned on getting married. Since we already live together I do not see engagement as something important to me and he.

Can you call "pamanhikan" as engagement? Well, my husband did the "pamamnhikan" to ask my hands for marriage from my parents. Automatically, after that we prepared for the wedding. I guess there's no need for an engagement. The boy could just ask the permission from the girl's parents and proceed with the preparation for the wedding.

Well I think engagement and marriages are once in a lifetime thing. So I would prefer to experience it than let it pass

Well it really depends on the situation. But for me its important coz it implies sincerity as for men asking for the girl to marry him.

I agree with you engagement maens now your are engaged & trying to find out something in your partner.There is no sort dating popular in our region unlike western countries. we people first get engaged to get closer and if anyone from the couple sees something not suitable for thamselves may break engagement this happens sometimes. But in most of the cases as INDIA we are so orthdox if antone from the couple sees something not favourable also will not break it due to our society what people will say etx & keep going to get married which becomes a problem. But the way should be to break engagement.

If people are talking about getting married of course engagement is not important, but sometimes when man is asking girl to marry him for her it can be surprise, so I really think it depend from situation. In case of me and my husband we skip engagement :)

I think it all depends on the people in the relationship. If you want to engage before marrying then I would do it. If you want to just skip over it, then do that.

I don't really see how you can get married without being engaged first. after all, when two people agree to marry, they are engaged. so unless the couple never agree to get married, and are forced to against their will, then they can't really get married without being engaged first. even without a ring, or a party, or an announcement, two people who plan to marry are engaged.

hi youless I think the engagement thind started why back when and is sort of a hold over. My husband asked me to marry him after we had been going together for six weeks. I always thought an engagement was a period in which you got to really know each other before the final leap but some couples instinctively know each other from the moment they meet.We never called that six weeks an engagement at all.

Well, I guess you're right in that sense but I feel that the engagement is the time period where you prepare for the wedding plans. I mean I know I wouldn't want a special wedding, I don't want to go to City Hall and call that my wedding. I want the wedding dress, and I want to get married at the church. I also want my whole family and friends there and you need to find a time that everyone can make it. I guess it's more of getting the wedding prepared.

Ha i am not sure - if you are in love it does not make a difference if you are engaged/married....but i guess the engagement ceremony itself is for more practical purposes because planning a wedding requires some amount of time so you can use the engagement period to shop and do the other practical arrangements needed....but then it depends on the people getting married if it is a huge family affair then engagement becomes necessary but if it is a simple wedding then they can get married anytime :)

I think engagement is a type of commitment. It is like a pre-preparation to the marriage world.