Should i go or should i not go?
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15746)
Philippines
May 24, 2011 11:53pm CST
I am debating right now if i should go or not. A week ago, my cousin on facebook invited me to her wedding. She invited me thru facebook event, its like she created this event of her wedding and invited people there including me and my family and relatives. I did not click on whether yes no or maybe. Because i am still debating on whether i should go..because first, i did not receive in invitation formally. Like that piece of envelope with a card inside that says i can go with my husband...but my parents did receive that invitation and it says there "for 3 persons" so i do not know if who is included in those..my mom, dad and me? lol no no i wont go with them..i would go with my huby...and this is the same case iwth my cousin who receive also that facebook invitation, she received an invitation but addressed also to her mom and not her name on it and her husband's... so we are both lost right nw as to go or not. Second, it is a formal event, since there will be church wedding at 2 pm and then a cocktail party at 5, formal dinner at 6 pm..that means i need something to wear..and i do not know what to wear! so i might not go...but she invited me in fb..should i? but the invitation in fb was so informal..i am not comfortable. lol but i want to see her walk down the isle..but then i wont be missed if i wont go. 
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@ryanwolfang (49)
• Indonesia
25 May 11
she is her relative (a cousin), friend ... So, i think she should go to the wedding that just 'once a life'.
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@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
25 May 11
Hello there.
First of all, I think you should answer the invitation with maybe because you don't want to make your cousin to be wondering about your attendance. Then after that I suggest you to ask her directly through the Facebook about who can go with you. Only then you should pick which dress are you going to wear if you have decided to go to her wedding.
I hope my advice is useful for you. Happy Mylotting.
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@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
26 May 11
I would say that you should go. Wedding is also another family gathering so it would be great if you come.
But I like how you pointed out that Facebook events invitation are informal because it is indeed informal. I would also wait for the proper invitation before I will really commit myself into coming because it would be embarrassing to go the event and your name is not in the invitation list. 
Clarify first with your mom and dad if all of you are invited so that you can prepare yourself as well as the gift you will give to your cousin. 
Good luck and let us know how the party went. 
Clarify first with your mom and dad if all of you are invited so that you can prepare yourself as well as the gift you will give to your cousin.
Good luck and let us know how the party went. @jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
26 May 11
They will be going but i won't, decided already...stil lthey wont miss me i believe i will send the gift instead
i will send the gift instead 
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
25 May 11
Hi. jazel_juan. If the invitation was formal, I think that you should still go to your cousin's wedding. I am sure that she would be glad to have you present at her wedding too. I think that you should go. It is was very generous of your cousin to invite you to her wedding.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
26 May 11
The event is formal.. i am just so uncertain if i should go or not..actually it will be this afternoon
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 May 11
first of all ask her on FB are you to bring your family? and if you are to have the dinner. if this is both a yes, id go. wear that long dress you are having to buy for the long dress day at your work. then it will get more use. @jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
26 May 11
i am hesitant on asking because she seems to busy right now, i do not even see her online..but then it is this afternoon and i do not think i could go 
but as long as she is happy i believe it is fine, i will still be sending the gift.
but as long as she is happy i believe it is fine, i will still be sending the gift.@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
26 May 11
well, i am so overwhelmed so many gave advice...and i am really half half in my decision but still, no prevailed, i might not go, well i will not go..because i believe she will not miss her wedding if i wont go, second the venue is far and since my huby wont go since he also feel he isnt invited, no one will drive me and i really do not have anything to wear..lol but hten i am sending my gift which i gave my mom for her to give it...
@shibham (16977)
• India
25 May 11
Hi jazel..
I think you should go because she may not have enough time for a formal invitation. When i arranged my sister's marriage i invited some friends over phone and most of them came to the marriage. They know that i am the single person for the total arrangement of my sister's marriage. hence you should go.
Have a nice day.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
26 May 11
That was nice of you to help your sister... but i might not go, for one, i still do not have anything to wear, second my huby wont go since he felt he does not belong and he isn't invited lol..so i might not go since the venue is far and he is the one who knows how to drive and take me there...
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
25 May 11
hello jazel,
Go..she's your cousin and i guess you are that close so she didn't bother to send you a card.
You still have time to shop for a dress i guess...don't miss such event...
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
26 May 11
yes we are cousins.. i cannot say we are close, we did grew up together, we see each other during family events, and the family usually have events quite often and we did grew up togeher playing and all but we grew separate ways during high school and college...so i am at lost if to go or not, because i do not want her to think that i am disrespectful of not going but then.. i think i will not be missed or smething..
@feeltheirie (301)
• Philippines
25 May 11
Just because everyone is using Facebook does not mean that it is okay to give outand receive invations from it. I personally would have asked for an invitation. Especially, since you stated that this wedding is a formal event. Secondly, since you and your cousin is already married, it is only the proper thing to do to saparate your invitation from your parents.
Nonetheless, if your cousing tells you that you and your husband are really invited. Then you have to go. You don't have to buy a new dress. try to borrow one from a close friend who has the same size as you. :)
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
26 May 11
Yes that was what i was thinking, i have my family now and my cousin who was also invited thru fb also has a family of her own..and we were both expecting to receive separate invites. oh well.. she also did not say if i could take my husband..so i am lost of to go or not..but then i might not, since my huby is also hesitant on going since he believe he is nt invited
@ryanwolfang (49)
• Indonesia
25 May 11
maybe u can ask her a formal invitation... But, i personally think that u should go.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
26 May 11
i do not think asking for personal invitation is right..or its weird because i never got any of that real invitation so i believe there is none for me....
