more mistakes: more shame or more life?
By wings143
@wings143 (133)
Philippines
May 25, 2011 1:07am CST
i dont believe really that mistakes make you a better person.and i dont buy the idea that you have to make mistakes inorder for you to be human.i dont know what is on the mind of that person who originate this idea.perhaps that person just want to justify his mistake.
what i know from my own experiences is that mistakes make you a lousy person and a loser.no company would hire you.no person would entrusted you to do something.
of course you can receive understanding from the understanding community.of course you can receive forgiveness from the forgiving community.
but how long they will understand you and forgive you??wish they will not abandon you till you realize that mistakes can be avoided.
well,perhaps there are people who are prone to mistakes.do you know one?and we are just lucky to have a good compensation by hearing the magical line I AM SORRY.tell me when you hear them say that SORRY,is your heart lifted up and you cannot help but SMILE??
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7 responses
@murkie (1103)
• Philippines
25 May 11
making mistakes is normal. but not a necessity.
make a mistake once, and its understandable. but doing the same mistake a lot of times is insulting.
i see several people making the same mistakes. and when corrected, these people berate on you. i wouldn't mind them making mistakes, as long as it only affects them. but with you and the whole group being affected, now that's another story.
but anyway, a sincere sorry is good. but oftentimes, people just say it for the heck of it. it's like an automatic response when you point it out to them.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
25 May 11
My question is...do you know someone who is perfect and never committed a single mistake?
If YES- kindly tell me WHO? (we're not talking biblical here okay,your topic is not about religion so let's talk about humans-religion/faith aside-off topic)
Now,who says that making mistakes will make us a better person?
I don't know who says that- and whoever says that i partly agree with that person.
Mistake doesn't always to bring us down or to give us shame,but to give us lesson.
Now- committing the same mistake again and again- is what a consider foolishness and stupidity.
So- you never committed mistake/s in your whole life?
and does saying SORRY will make a lesser one..or it is the EGO...that gives a person the PRIDE to feel righteous (i doubt)
@wings143 (133)
• Philippines
26 May 11
i hope i know a person who is perfect.i want to meet him personally and want to congratulate.he or she is one a kind.who knows someday..right.and i hope by that time i can still remember you friend so that we too both share the enjoyment of the lifetime.hehehe
@eshaan (6188)
• India
25 May 11
Making mistakes is common everybody makes mistakes even there is no one in this world who has not created a mistake yet... I know making mistakes makes you feel shy but making mistakes makes you learn something i.e. you should understand your mistake once and you should ought to not repeat it again..
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 May 11
Hi Wings,
Well, I kind of get that concept, really. I have made plenty of mistakes in my life and I have learned from them as well. I don't have any regrets. I guess it depends on what you consider a "mistake". In work, people do make mistakes and most bosses do understand that it is only human error. Most people don't expect perfection from others. I have been on this earth for 55 yrs and never have I met a perfect person who hasn't made some mistakes in their life...used poor judgement.I think that if one expects perfection then they are setting themselves up for a lot of frustration and disappointment.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
25 May 11
Well, it depends on the gravity of the mistake committed.
If the mistake resulted into so much loss of the company, then i guess, I am Sorry is not enough. The company has the right to weigh what should be done about you.
However, if it is a petty mistake, your I am Sorry will surely be accepted. Though, there is a warning that the next time it happens, we will now say we are sorry too, to you.
@Graptopetalum (1807)
• Canada
30 May 11
I think it also depends on how understandable the mistake was. Did you have to make a decision based on limited information? Did it appear that the decision was unimportant so you just did the first thing you thought of? Were you forced to make the decision when very tired, angry or sick? However if you do something that most people would consider wrong, and it was, when you should have known better (e.g. smoking when refueling the car, taking a bottle of vodka to work and drinking it all in the morning, having people sign a document and then add the word "not" so it reverses the meaning etc.), then it should count heavily against you.
@sanijas83 (270)
• Latvia
25 May 11
If someone makes mistakes, there is till chance to be understood by others. I try not to think about something wrong I have done in my life, but to concentrate on the future. Of course, insults smart but it is important that it does not weigh down. The world might look brighter from behind a smile, although I admit that there might be offences that cannot be forgotten.
@dynzdolina (381)
• Philippines
25 May 11
not necessarily that more mistakes would send shame on your part. on the other hand, it would be a big lesson to a person whenever we stand up and put things in pieces and realize the lessons it can give to us. forget about the shame that it brings, it depends so much on the person how he/she perceived that. but when that individual is so positive and broad-minded, then that would let it pass and learn from it.
