Do You Voice Your Opinion/Have Arguements?
By SmallFryK
@SmallFryK (115)
United States
May 25, 2011 10:18am CST
I am a very opinionated person. In fact, I have opinions on everything -- if I don't have an opinion, I will do research on that topic and form one.
Likewise, I am also very open about most of my opinions. If something is bothering me, I will tell someone (usually whoever is the culprit or cause). If my boss says something I disagree with, I will say as much and state why.
There is a fine line with what you say to whom, however. I would never discuss politics in the workplace, for example. In fact, I don't discuss politics with most people because sometimes they get a little heated. But I will listen to their view and thank them for sharing it, and then go express my opinion to someone of likeminded views of my own.
Another example is arguing with co-workers or your boss. I argue all the time with my boss, but I do it professionally and with no emotion attached, so that it doesn't seem as harsh.
So, what about you? Are you an openly opinionated person? Or do you keep it all in?
10 responses
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
25 May 11
I'm VERY vocal!!! 
Yes, it usually keeps me in trouble. 
I was raised that there are 2 things you don't discuss...politics & religion!!! Yes, I have opinions on BOTH, but I realize that my opinions are just that..."MY opinions". Others are entitled to "their opinion" as it is what's right for them. All I can discuss there is what has been right for me!!! Just because it is right for ME...it doesn't necessarily mean it is right for them!!! Anything else, I'm open to saying what I think!!! I don't argue as I don't expect everyone to agree with me; but I will "explain" my opinion until you give in!!!! 
Yes, it usually keeps me in trouble. I was raised that there are 2 things you don't discuss...politics & religion!!! Yes, I have opinions on BOTH, but I realize that my opinions are just that..."MY opinions". Others are entitled to "their opinion" as it is what's right for them. All I can discuss there is what has been right for me!!! Just because it is right for ME...it doesn't necessarily mean it is right for them!!! Anything else, I'm open to saying what I think!!! I don't argue as I don't expect everyone to agree with me; but I will "explain" my opinion until you give in!!!! @SmallFryK (115)
• United States
25 May 11
I like how you said it "keeps" you in trouble -- me too!
I agree, also; politics and religion are just two topics that you don't discuss. Partly, I don't do it because when you discuss topics like that with close-minded people, it wouldn't matter what you said or argued, you would be wrong in their mind anyway.
I am also an arguer as far as, I will keep going with the arguement until you give up (haha) because eventually, you will. And if you don't, I won't unless you prove me wrong. Usually, though, if I am going to voice my opinion about something, I make sure I study all factors before solidifying my opinion. And if someone DID prove me wrong, I would take it gracefully and thank them for enlightening my views.
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@BalthasarTheRat (656)
• United States
25 May 11
I have had to learn to keep my mouth shut in certain situations. However, if someone brings a subject up, I will never be afraid to speak my mind.
I also have a bad habit of playing "Devil's Advocate" just to see how well people can defend their viewpoints :)
@SmallFryK (115)
• United States
25 May 11
I, too, play "Devil's Advocate," because I love to debate. I attribute this to my dad because he was the same and we used to debate over anything where two sides could be represented.
Thanks for your response; I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one that has had to learn when to shut up! Haha.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
28 May 11
It depends on a person. If the person is narrow minded and close minded at all then I wouldn't really bother to talk with that person because it is non sense and not worth at all, just a waste of time. But if I know the person is sensible, matured and open minded I could have open up my opinion or have some educated argument.
But there are times that I have a feeling that someone would just interrupt my intentions of voicing out my feelings. That is why right now I am preparing myself into rebuttals and ready my point so that if I was asked why I need to say such thing then again I am ready for it because I have my valid reason already. I am not a person that other people should stop it.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
27 May 11
Welcome! I've been known to voice my opinion at times. However, I would only argue with someone if I know for a fact I'm correct. Unfortunately, if I'm upset, mad, etc. you can see it in my face. I flush easily, so I find it better to just walk away. As for politics, I will have a discussion with anyone about it. The funny thing is I have nothing to do with politics. It really frazzles people that I really don't care about politics. I think that's a better discussion then politics itself. Best Wishes!
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
26 May 11
I very often speak my heart and mind. I say my point of view. I can stand up for someone as a support. In disagreement I can listen to other people's opinion. I respect and accept their opinions. When I see or find something that would be better if it changed, I often let people know it. I'm good supporter and be their for encouragement. I love to develop and learn new knowledge and new skills.
@gopakumar85 (54)
• India
26 May 11
i must say that i also have opinion for everything more so in the matter of sports. although not all the time that i let it go off the lid at times i do keep it for myself as sometimes i feel it wud make me look stupid if i voice my opinion at times and sometimes it may even backfire for expressing the opinion but still i at times make my presence felt with little bit of sarcasm.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
26 May 11
I am definitely opinionated, but don't like to be argumentative. I will often state my opinion, then let it go at that. Luckily, I am a writer, so I can write my opinion and only have to deal with written feedback, that I can ignore until I'm in the mood to deal with it! 
@himzey (1321)
• India
25 May 11
I have my opinions too, but I strongly believe that "your freedom ends where the other person's nose begins". I have my own ways to express my opinions.
I have my way of making people look at the other sides of the discussion. And the moment they start realizing it, I get an opening to attack with all of my thoughts and ideologies and if things go out of control then I look forward to settle it with a compromise but I never surrender my ideologies and beliefs.
I never try too hard for it and probably thats the trick which works for me very often. My companions see me as a thoughtful individual who has his opinion about every topic and my close ones know the exact word for describing me and thats "diplomatic". :p
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
26 May 11
Good day SmallFryK,
With regard to your main topic, yes, I do voice over my opinions. And there are times, it leads to some arguments since opinions from one another does not vary to each other.
However, there are times, I just say my opinion once, as I really dont want to create an argument. Thus, if an argument somehow leads, I just end it up by simply saying, "everybody has its own point of view, maybe, our ideas are both good."
And as for me, it will be better to work hand in hand for a better result. Rather than making an argument.
Anyway, as I have said, everyone has its own point of view. And we just need to respect each.
Have a nice day to you.
@cora30 (134)
• United States
25 May 11
Hi smallfryk,for me im a type of person who really voice out how i feel or whats on my mind,when things go wrong.I never kept it to myself for it will just make me wanted to explode for not saying how i feel.and its a good thing also to express what you to let the person know that oppppsss,watch your word your hurting me already.
