How do you relate to untrusted colleague?

I have the same experience in my workplace. She confided in me about something that was bothering her about the same job we were trying to complete. Then I found out from another colleague that she told the director that I wasn't satisfied and didn't follow the rules because I thought of something better and needed not to follow them. She spoke behind my back and tried to give the director a bad impression of me! I don't know where it came from but that colleague told me to be careful of whatever I say infront of her because she's been known to twist stories in order to gain the good favor of our boss! From then on, I avoided talking to her about anything. If I were forced to do so, I just tried my best to just do it civilly. No more relationship or friendship. That's it. I'm not there to make friends, I'm there to be able to earn. I don't care if I won't be part of a 'friendship' but if ever she's step on my toes again, she'll get a piece of my mind. It's just good that the director knows I don't kiss behinds and obviously she knows that girl is trying to sabotage me. Perhaps it's envy. Perhaps she can't accept that someone from outside could do things better than she ever could. So, just take heed and stop building up too much relationship. You're there to work and to earn, not to be Ms Congeniality anyways. Have a great MyLot experience!

Just try to stay out of her way and not have much to do with her. If you do have to come across her then be simple and polite but I don't think there's anything else you can do really unless you really wanted to what she's doing and start gossiping about her and and then you end up being like her.

to your question, 'how do you relate to an untrusted colleague?'... my answer is ' i don't!'. simple as that. she's not being trusted for a reason and you found out first hand. i say, move on and do away with any contact whatsoever with her. you're better off that way.

I would confront her and find out why she has been talking about you behind your back seeing as though a real friend or a real woman for that matter will come to you and let you know if she has a problem with you instead of going behind your back. If she doesnt want to talk then I would just forget about her because it is not your fault that you are performing well in your work. And instead of her hating on you a real friend would be congratulating you on doing so well in a short amount of time. Maybe she should try and be like you and maybe she would get recognized as well. These days I dont believe in friends becuase they seem to be the first ones to let you down. And they come a dime a dozen so a real friend will come along soon.

There are all sorts of people in this world. Office politics and jealousy is bounds to happen. That's why a healthy and harmonious office environment is crucial. I think your colleague felt threaten that you are performing better than her. Don't let her upset you, do your best and reap the rewards that is due to you.

Thanks for sharing your experience. I had a colleague who considered her to be wise and it was hard to ask her any question. She was expert in computer technologies and could not imagine if someone did not know how to work with modern technologies as well as she could. I could not cooperate with her. Now I do not work at that company anymore.