Parents Hiding the Gender of Their Child, say what???
@santosmarichris (1849)
Philippines
May 26, 2011 1:48am CST
When I read this, omg... Here's a bit of the story.
A couple in Toronto have decided to take a novel approach to tweaking their newborn child: They’ve decided to keep the child’s gender a secret. Respecting nontraditional paradigms is something Kilodavis has learned to embrace as a result of her experiences parenting her two sons - Dkobe, 9, a "typical" boy, and Dyson, 5, who was anything but. He gravitated toward princesses and sparkles; Kilodavis tried to repress that by giving him toy trucks. Notwithstanding, 3-year-old Dyson announced, "I'm a pretty princess."
I don't know what to say... Can you imagine bringing your child in the store and letting him pick his own clothes, either for boys or for girls... Come on... 
The child is not mature enough for this kind of decision. Parents are there to guide their child through adulthood. Parents suppose to nurture them, teach them what's right and wrong. Geez, this parents are nuts. Letting your little boy wear girls clothes, poor child he'll be ridiculed just because of his parents. If you want to experiment don't do it with a child. 
The child is not mature enough for this kind of decision. Parents are there to guide their child through adulthood. Parents suppose to nurture them, teach them what's right and wrong. Geez, this parents are nuts. Letting your little boy wear girls clothes, poor child he'll be ridiculed just because of his parents. If you want to experiment don't do it with a child. 5 people like this
10 responses
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
27 May 11
These parents aren't doing their child any favors. It will do more harm to the child than be of any help to his personality. When you are a child the most important thing to you is fitting in with your peers. The parents should guide them and make it easier to fit in. Childhood can be tough enough without ridicule from your classmates.
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
26 May 11
I honestly would not want to have parents like those. Imagine the confusion that the kid might be experiencing in his/her day to day life. It's not healthy in any aspect of the child's life most especially in terms of social growth. It could lead to a mess up life for the kid and for the whole family. I agree with you that if the parents wanted experiments, then maybe they could try it with themselves or whatever. Those parents should at least be reprimanded or told that what they are doing could ruin a child's life.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
27 May 11
it is a mad world out there already, and i pity the child that he/she has never experience the outside world yet but he is already in a mad world. i dont know what kind of parents are they but lucky me i dont have that kind of parents. so when he goes to school where will he go to pee? just as simple as that the child's mind will start a big confusion then he will eventually quit school for he is confused. the is a normal way to raise a child and it is just easy to follow... they just made their child a fool.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
28 May 11
Now I think actually keeping the child's gender private is something that is wrong. However, as far as letting a child make their own decisions as to what kinds of toys that they want to play with and the way that they would like to dress, I don't think that there is anything at all wrong with that while a child is very young. My son was surrounded by many girls toys during the very early years of his life because I had an older daughter and also two nieces that were the same age as him and a little bit younger, but still he has never been happy unless he had cars.
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@stagnacious (9)
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27 May 11
I'm opposed to hiding the gender of a child but I'm not opposed to gender neutrality.
My boyfriend has a daughter and I'm attempting to aid in raising her as gender neutral as possible as in little girls can play with swords and little boys can play with dolls and such. But I also believe that our sexuality is wired into us.
This is just my opinion.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
27 May 11
hi santosmarichris that is the epitome of cruelty. poor boy will be ridiculed out of his head even in grade school as kids tend to
pick on children that are different and in girly clothes he
would surely be different for sure. What a foolish idea and
how is he to handle playing with normal boys who will expect
him to act like them instead of doing girlie things.Dyson is
going to be so picked on unless he is in some special school
but even there children can be ruthless and cruel.I agree that
if they want to experiment do it with something other than
their own children.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
27 May 11
Parents are supposed to teach their kids right and wrong, yes this is very true. However, I do not agree with the notion that there is something wrong with not falling into gender roles.
I don't believe that the problem lies in what these parents are doing, but rather in that tight grip that society has on us.
If the child is ridiculed because of his clothes, it is not because of his parents; it is because parents are teaching their children that clothes are something that we should judge others for.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
26 May 11
God has decided for us, to be either a girl or a boy. What's wrong with sticking to it? I don't understand why they decided to let the child decide as it's already been decided upon birth. So now they're an it before the child decide whether he or she?
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@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
26 May 11
HI santos mari chris: I agree with you, that's being stupid. In the first place I'll teach my boy to dress as a boy. If he grow up and decides that his personality don't correspond with his genre and that he wants to be something else, well I respect that decision but it's a boy at this point he doesn't understand what his genre is.
ALVARO
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