So We Have A Difference Of Opinion.... Should I Spoil Your Fun And Mood?

I sometimes appreciate having opinionated people around me but I have learned that they are the ones that are hardest to deal with. Because sometimes they do not know when it is time to stop talking ... or typing Don't mind them my friend. Just tell us when someone spoils your fun so we can try to cheer you up again.

Hi Sids, I see fun spoilers AKA arguers AKA I'm right and I don't want your opinion and I always want to be right and you are wrong but I'm starting this discussion anyway. Okay that's out of my system. Yes they are here and they do tell us our opinion is wrong. In fact today sorry I guess it would be yesterday it's 4:00 am but I have been setting at the computer all night can't sleep. Anyway I responded to two discussions by the same user and since I didn't agree with them, they tried to explain to me why they were right, and I was wrong. =) Okay then why bother asking in a discussion if you can't accept not everyone feels the way you do. Also Sids I am guilty of being there myself once and getting rather mad when no one agreed me with. I guess at times we all want to be right, however slipping up and feeling this way on a bad day is different then feeling this way every day as some people tend to do. I hope I am making sense because I am half asleep. That's just my take on it anyway. I think some people start discussions to argue and put others down when they don't agree with them. Try to have a great day as I am assuming it is later/earlier where ever you are. I have got to get the kids up for school in 3 hours so I will be trying to stay awake and then crashing for some much needed sleep while hubby takes care of babies. Jessi

I think I’m going to spoil your mood right now….BUT seriously, I see quite a few people who all agree to disagree but then just cant take a diverse opinion gracefully. Actually, most of us would not like to be proven wrong OR most of us would like to have our friends (or people whom we know), agree with us on most issues (irrespective of whether they actually agree or not). Whenever we come across people who’re not agreeing with us, we either try to convince them to our thoughts or we get angry if they don’t agree with us, even after a lot of justifications and arguments… if this is what you say as Spoiling your Fun, then its applicable to all of us…even to you! We all have the liberty of voicing our opinion and since this is a virtual site, we cant really ask immediately what’s bothering you particularly or what exactly happened…so sometimes misunderstandings do take place and leave a bitter taste in our mouth.

I wish all those who do that visit this discussion as even I want a discussion to be pure in all respects. I have seen discussions going at a tangent and the one who has started the discussion stands gaping with the mount open having no place to butt in.

Hi Sids, Mylot is a paying site and I believe there are two type of people here, one of them are those who came here to learn new things, sharing their information, get solution from others members and their main objective is not the money. Another type of people here are those just want to earn money, they never bother what they write, whether it is true or correct information, they will just write what they have it in mind. That is why sometime you will not get the correct answer but just a piece of rubbish. Be Happy always!

Hello Sid. We both have the same sentiments and you have just posted what I have been thinking for a long time, so thank you for doing this. One should fully understand what was posted first before jumping on to their keyboards and just put whatever they feel liking writing. I acknowledge the fact that we all have differences in opinions here and sometimes our differences in opinion affects how we see one or understand one's discussion. I suddenly remembered what one friend told me that I shouldn't be bothered by such as those people might not have the proper education. Well can't help it but they do spoil my day.

Well, personally I don't expect everyone to have the same opinion as I do. I am open to suggestions and also to other opinions...in fact that is one of the main reasons for coming here...to see a different perspective to a situation. What really riles me up is when the other side of the coin or the different opinion is given in a rude manner...or by demeaning my viewpoint. As long as things are put across properly, I'm willing to give a hearing to all kinds of opinions but if you push me against the wall, I get very very angry...but since it is a virtual world, it is easier for me to walk away without reacting. When I am able to do the same in the real world, why not in the virtual world? The only place I cannot walk away without a reaction when I am angry and pushed is with my husband.

Hi chhotu, First thing we enter into a discussion either the issue or issues are not settled because there are difference in opinions or to observe mere formality. And surely we do not drop here for formality. The moment we are on mylot means you are to make sure that at times you agree/disagree, at times you put contradictory opinion for you think yours is correct, or at times you point out certain things the poster of the topic feels hurt. What would you do now? If you think there was misunderstanding better say sorry or else go steady. I agree with you here at the point that in most cases we are strangers and if you can put some advice and suggestion to my box, you have to allow me to do the same too. Or else please do not spoil the spirit of the dicussion.

dear sids, let me give this first,at least to make you feel better and pacify my dear brother and

Are the children misbehaving again sweetie? Whipping should fix it. Ignore those who spoil your day.

Hello Thesids, I think I know what you are talking about. (or maybe I am wrong ) The other day, I was surprised to see such a comment on one of my responses. The commend ended with "hope that is now clear for you!", even though I haven't asked anybody for any clarification. (well at least not in that discussion) But I didn't bother. I can't get mad on that user because I think he wanted to help in his own way. I tried a polite response but before that I had thought a lot if it wasn't a better idea to ignore that post. Maybe you should do the same: to ignore what you call 'spoilers' and enjoy your time with your friends and acquaintances.

Hi sids.. I agree!!!! There are LOTS of spoilers out here and feel very easy on commenting rude words. Sometimes, I got irritated by these people as if they really knew me. I have had a comment once that sounds very stranger and I would really like to argue with them but I backed off. I don't want to spoil my discussion by getting mad at them. So, SOMETIMES, I just leave the box blank.

Hello Sid, How are you doing buddy? I understand that you want to see myLot as "the ideal discussion site" on the internet, and I respect your view. At the same time, it is also true that there are all kind of people in this world - sensible and nonsense and even nuisance - we have to bear with them. What we can do is to keep our mood stable is -- just avoid them and their responses/comments. Since, this site pays for person's views, they feel that they are free to disclose their view whether relevant or irrelevant -- I understand your situation here.

i can see you point here and yeah people can sometimes be too much in laying down their opinions and advice in here. What matters most is respect. That is something we should always prioritize in here. Then some understanding wont hurt, maybe before one reacts, he or she should ask if unsure whether someone needs advice or not. well thats all i have to say. i hope these ideas helped.

Hi thesids,I think that you should ignore who or what ever is trying to mess up your good day.I think you have excellent responses as well as disscussions.I am glad to have met you on here.You take care and have a wonderful day.

Oh Bhai. They are not going to. If they Were the type to think before they thought , they wouldn't be Spoilers! Many people, mostly Americans I fear, Will Just say something Totally wrong and be proud of it. many Just Know they are right and they will never change. Their minds are closed. But there are more people like you and me here! If I read a post where I am not sure the view of the author I will ask. If I disagree I will Still respect their stance. I can agree to disagree. I dismiss the spoilers anf focus on the Truly open minded people here.

Hello Sid, why are you taking to so serious, don't waste your energy of these silly things.

Hi Sid, I become really clue less on the topic as I am not regular here and 'miss many a classes' here. The rare time of 10-15 mts. is not good enough to know better from you all and feel isolated. In myLot, is really matters the seniority and new bees as a dividing line? Some time the missing chapters here may more more handicap so that I trying to follow the discussions to know more what you really mean by it. Thank-s

There are definitely many spoiler over her in myLot and i have met my fair share of them. I on the other day, don't mind if they disagree with what i am saying. But it think it is basic courtesy at least not to be rude and sarcastic. myLot is a place where discussions are ongoing and we share thoughts and feelings. It is understandable that different people have different view point and we benefit from hearing from all angles. But people should not be rude and when they have other opinions, they should express it properly and in a nice way.

Hi Sids, I'm new to mylot and as a matter of fact this is my first comment. I am glad that this discussion is where I am starting out because it helps me to understand the connections between mylotters and how I am expected to behave ;). Thanks for starting this discussion!