She wants to die...

I am not really sure. My daughter used to say these kinds of things too. I think she just said it to try to get more attention. She really didn't mean it either.

Define "beaten". When I was a young kid I'd yell at my mom and tell her I hated her. The little girl sounds like a drama queen. She needs to be raised so she's isn't a spoiled brat.

If you do think she is being pampered too much then it is strange that she would get beat as well. Maybe she is confused and she is so used to being spoiled that she is mad because she is not getting her way now. But the word beat is a very strong word and if she is being beat then I can understand how she might feel upset. You should maybe find out what is going on that would make her say that cause what you see when you are around may not be what actually happens when you are not around. And a little of that may have come out of your sister on accident.

Children should not be raised to be obedient robots. Sure, it is easy to be a parent to a child who is terrified of beatings and so does everything you say without question, but then she never learns to think for herself. And so, when she is older and she meets a forceful boy who tells her she "must" do this or that for him (including things she may not be ready for or may not be appropriate) she will do them because she has never known anything but blind obedience. It will be easy for others to take advantage of her because she was never encouraged to talk something out and use her own brain, but rather only do what her parents told her. What will she do when her parents are no longer around to make decisions for her?

I don't really know what to think. I assume by the word beat, you mean spank her bottom. There's nothing wrong with that. However, if you mean beat then there's a problem. My thought is if she's beating her in front of you, what is she doing when no ones around. The kids these days will say just about anything. You shouldn't be surprised. They hear this stuff on tv, at school and from family members. Best Wishes!

She really pampered her baby girl too much. I know parenting is difficult but every bad situation can always be solved by talking not hitting. Hitting will just make the situation even worst than you could imagine. Maybe you can ask your older sister to see a counselor. Family counselling. It really helps. Its not too late to change and ask for help. Life is too short, We should not waste time hitting or hating someone we love. We must cherish every single thing in our life and be happy.