Do you really tend to make revenge to the person who have done wrong to you?

Good thing that is your mentality. Because in my case even I have thought of that but still I had this feeling of giving revenge to others to feel me better.

I understand. There are things that cannot be forgiven. I do not know if I will ever forgive something bad done to my relatives.

Exactly the point it does not mean that they should abused our humility towards them. Of course we should not make revenge towards them but we have to give them a moral lesson of the wrong things they have done.

I believe in karma as well because I've already witnessed that. I remember when my classmate have told me some angry words towards me to the extent that my friendship towards my friend have suffered or we weren't connected to each other anymore as a friend. Only to find out that almost many of our classmates has hatred against her something to do with the trust. They even attacked her so bad I mean by saying offensive words that hits her. That was the time that we have other activity inside the classroom then the teacher was not around. I was sleeping at that time inside the classroom I mean like a nap but then she approached me to go out of the classroom. When we were outside the classroom like we are just seating on the bench she cried so bad.

I am depending it on the situation as well and not at all that I am making revenge. There are times that I am letting it go but there are times that I don't want to tolerate it. I just want them to learn that they don't have the right to abuse my humility towards them. It is a moral lesson for other people on how to be careful with their actions towards me.

Thank you for being honest. Of course we are only human who were offended of what others did to us. Sometimes I believe that it is a moral lesson that others can't abuse us. Sometimes other people have thought that we are not suppose to fight for what is really right.

Ouch! I think that is me who can't control my anger that is why I really use my revenge as the thought that I will fight for my own. I am controlling myself on not to do on revenge but then I can't get rid of my mentality to fight and defend myself especially if I believe I am the right person.

That is actually the common story. I can imagine that maybe they are really meant for each other since you have mentioned that your gf cheated on you with her best friend. I could imagine that there is something that you can't understand to each other that is way different with her best friend.

Too bad I can't still have that kind of mentality to throw the bread on them instead of throwing them the stones. My heart is not yet ready for a fact that I said to myself of being too tired of being good since many people are abusing it.

That is good job Bellapop. Always continue that kind of good mentality so that it won't harm yourself. Unlike in my case I have been always thinking of making revenge that I thought it could be helpful on my part.

I have thought of that as well but I haven't do that especially to my cousins who have tried to fight with me. But on the brighter side I have seen them or even heard on how they treated to each other as well as if they are truly best friends. The truth is they are always pointing out each other's faults and at the same time they are putting down to each other.

We always have to look for the brighter side of what is happening to us so that we would know on how to learn something especially when it comes to challenges.

Thank you very much for sharing your experience. I totally understand your feelings since we have experienced the same thing. Worst case the people who did that to me are my friends who abused my humility and for being too nice with them. I understand at times that you stayed quiet just because you ever thought that you are not in the position to say such things. Only to realized that he already crossed the line and you sacrificed for being quiet so that it could not make any trouble. But the worst thing here is that you are the one who is sacrificing. It happened to me when I was in college days, that I don't want to fight back with my friend for the sake of saving the friendship and I thought it will be alright if I am going to let it go. But then there was one day already that I can't control my anger already to the extent that I am not talking to her already. Our friendship was really inconsistent. I just really thought that I am the only one who has problems with her only to realized that my friends are having problems to her as well. I've already told her some hurtful words to her to the extent that she was totally offended. It took her time to change and now she realized that I can fight of what I believe is right. Another thing with my friend who became my former boss. When he establish the high risk business he pirated me as his assistant. So I affirm with his offer. During my stay for 2 months with him he was really arrogant to the extent of saying such things against me and attacking me personally which he didn't follow our agreement that there would be no personal attack but he did it. He wants me to feel that he is powerful, smart, and excellent. He used to give such advises that you ever thought he has the will to do the right thing with integrity. Only to find out that his company had failed due to lack of finances to the extent that he has no plans of paying us the salary. I really seek justice for 1 year that I even asked advises from Integrated Bar of the Philippines, Department of Labor and Employment, and in National Labor. Only to find out that my boss does not know about National Labor! O MY GOD! What a boss? So I really fought with him and argued a lot of times to the extent that he was given up. He gave my salary for about one year. The government agencies have told me that I can't do something about it already and we already lose the game because we have already signed the quit claims under his name. But then since I know there are rules that my friend does not know about I took advantage of his innocence by giving a threat that I will give demand letter if he won't be paying my salary. So he given up and at least I've already tried to prove it to him that I am going to fight of what is really right. And I am not a kind of person that will just keep quiet and let go the wrong things that he have done for me.

But what is your motivation of healing the anger inside your heart? How do you love your enemies? Are there any situation that you have forgiven those people who have offended you?

What motivates you for not doing any revenge towards the person you dislike or you even hate?

Thanks for pointing it out. Maybe I shouldn't have that kind of mentality. I am really revengeful person and what you say is true that I am just hurting myself. Sometimes I just told myself that I am so tired for being good since other people are already abusing it.