I'd Like To Think I've Learned From Past Mistakes. How About You?

hi janey1966, I understand how you feel because I also learn hard way for my past mistakes. mainly it was about my boss who often did verbal abuse to me and his employees. actually he still had a family relation with me. i worked for him for 3 years. at first, i already felt this person had problem in emotion management since he always said rude things to his employees every time we made small or big mistakes. I thought it's just his ways to educate us to work better. but he scolded us more and more rudely every day. my lesson is: I was so stupid to just stay quiet when he said rude words to me, almost everyday. I realized I made mistakes in job, but it did not mean I deserved to be insulted, right? he even said bad things about my family members. what did I do? I just stayed quiet and accepted his insults without fighting him back. and I survived consuming his insults for 3 years. now I feel like a crazy stupid man. indeed, i'm not a type of person who can defend my self very fast when somebody attacks me verbally. I usually need some times before I realize that somebody has insulted me. unfortunately it is already too late when I realize it. but this experience has taught me to be able to think fast and respond in the right way to anybody who insults me. so, my point is: we don't have to experience the bad to appreciate the good. but experiencing the bad can help us appreciating the good when we have learned from it, changed our attitudes about it, and finally made it work for us:)

One thing I have learned in my life is to appreciate all the steps in my life. With this I mean that I have grown so much from each and every mistake I have endured. I am very open minded and do try to assess why things happen to come up with it's reasoning. Therefore, yes my bad and good experiences in my life I find to have appreciated them because they somehow have guided me into not turning out any differently then who I am today. See good or bad I find that I am a very caring person and not allow any bad or good instances take that from me.

some people do, and some learn pretty quickly (2 years) rather than others who learn more slowly...

Hi Janey... I would say, in a word, "karma". I have gone down some weird roads and at times was wondering what I was doing! But there seemed to be some irresistable impulse within me to go that way. When I was a musician, things became tough at one time, and work was thin on the ground for everybody, so I got a day job as a company rep for a cake and confectionary company. I was there about two or three years and one day, found myself wondering why I was going a job that I had grown to hate. I gave notice to quit without knowing what I was going to do for money and the following day had a phone call from an agent that I had contacted years before with the offer of a musician's job in Manchester. It fit together perfectly like a glove. If I hadn't had quit my rep's job, without working notice, I would have been in breech of contract with them and all sorts of difficulties could have arisen. However, it hasn't been all plain sailing in my life. Life has thrown some really nasty obstacles in my way at times that I didn't feel I got through very well. But as a Zen practitioner, I have seen how without some pain and struggle, I wouldn't have become a therapist, that was my final career for the last 30 years, or a Zen practioner, that I feel has given me so much insight into life. _Derek

Some people just seem to get lucky and fall right into the best of circumstances and stay their all their lives. The rest of us end up in the wrong circumstances with the wrong people, and hopefully most of us learn from it.

I also learned many things from my mistakes, I started appreciate myself and my own will not what people expected from me. I was manipulated too but my friends were the once who controled my behavior, but I took advantage of this and now I'm not letting anyone to make me feel like this anymore, I know who am I and what I want from life, I will never give up my dreams for someone else. I'm very happy with my husband and he accept and respect me, trying always to pull me up :)

How does that saying go? "I've learned from my mistakes and am confident I can make them all over again..."

Isn't it amazing what we can recognise in retrospect?

I guess you are right Janey. Experience the bad to learn how to appreciate the good. So glad that John is nowhere near Blobby. But hey, you can put it down to your innocence. At least you know you were not born a shrewd and manipulative person. That means you are a nice person!!!

Yes, life experiences are our best teacher. I'm happy to say that I'm so thankful to my past mistakes cos only because of them I change for the better. It's not easy to look at mistakes positively, but that's what I try to remember every time. Thanks for sharing. See you around!

I guess, you're being so young, 20 at that , and so in love with him, made you stay with him for those 2 years. However, you only realized that he was the wrong man, when you also nearly lost your job because of him. Sometimes, we only realize what we are doing as a big mistake, when we see ourselves not being our true selves anymore, but as someone who conforms to somebody manipulating our lives.

For such a guy who lacked the sense of responsibility and ignored his proper occupation,You had no choice but to be divorced from him.You had made a good decision.One doesn't know everything much less you were just a little over twenty and had scanty experience of life by then.Learning from past mistake goes for everybody.As the saying is,A fall into the pit, a gain in your wit.

I think until now, I have learn somethings in my life. My life is hectic. my parents is busy with their job and they don't have time to spend with the family. I cooked for the family and by the time my parent come back from work, the meals already serve in the table for dinner. But I still have to do my homework and do my activities in school and get involved in society. And now, I'm in College, I realize that I can manage my time doing social activities and Assignment that have been given my lecturer on time. My mom trained me very well on how to manage my time wisely and now, I can do multitasking job..

yes I have made many mistakes and only wish it took just two partners to find the right one. I am still learning from my mistakes and I am in my forties. I think to grow you need to make mistakes and learn from them. That is what our youth is for, so we can learn how to be adults. We need to go through the process of making mistakes and learning from them it is how we find ourselves and make better life choices.

Either we have to have some bad things happen to us, or we have to be observant and learn from someone else's mistakes. Then we still go on to make a different variety of mistakes. I had some people in my family, like my older sister who made mistakes I learned from so I did not make the same ones she did, but rather made my own variety.

Nobody likes to admit the many mistakes they have made. it can really undo your confidence and self esteem to be embarrassed and ashamed and guiltridden over our mistakes. it would certainly make mistakes so much easier to bear if we feel that we have learned a lesson in making them.