Does success in life make a person sweeter or more bitter?

Successful man posing arrogantly with cigarette? - Or not...what do you think?
United Kingdom
May 26, 2011 8:41pm CST
Well; some successful people seem remarkably sweet, don't they. They are so generous with their charm, smiles, finance and so on. I've met some famous people for example who have been incredibly gracious. And the charity of the wealthy and successful is legendary. Yet it may be that the successful are more tempted by pride than most...that success can puff a person up, so that the character is anything other than sweet. What about lack of success? Does it make a person humble? Or is it more likely to embitter a person than success? Or does it all just depend on the individual? What is your take on success vs. failure in terms of sweetening/embittering? Let's talk success/failure and bitter/sweet.
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12 responses
• United States
27 May 11
Hello Love! I think it All depends on the person, how they are at their core. Once a good hearted person has success, they think of how to give back. They Want to help others.But when a not so nice person makes it big , they just keep the money . Giving back Never cross their minds. I have never heard of n embittered Newly rich person in real life. The only character like this I know of is Scrooge! But I guess anything is possible. I guess if one works so hard to " make it" and when then one isn't any happier , one could become bitter.
• United Kingdom
27 May 11
Hi there Sarah! Yes, that's the problem, you hear so often that fame doesn't actually make that much difference in the long run to your basic state of being. Or rather it's likely it's wonderful for a while, then you get used to it. And then you feel as you did before: happy or unhappy as the case may be: sadly though the unhappiness can be enhanced in some cases because as you say...after all that work...
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@allknowing (136100)
• India
27 May 11
It is only the upstarts would belong to the category where they behave in a way that they would want people to notice their success as hitherto they were not. And those that are failures will not relish other people's success. But there are exceptions to every rule.
• United Kingdom
7 Aug 12
Young actor... - Yes, I was once...and hoping for success, not failure.
Very true.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
27 May 11
I think it all depends on each individual. Some people let money go to their head and some don't. Some become more mellow and kinder and some turn into a totally different person.
• United Kingdom
27 May 11
Yes, that's true, it's always pleasant to hear of wealthy and famous people who are gracious to members of the public.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
27 May 11
Cant say.But i guess they can afford to be sweet and helping and charming.Unsuccessful people cant afford it.They have less to offer, also limited power to help others even if they are willing to do that.
• United Kingdom
22 Feb 12
Solemn? - I look(ed) it here didn't I...in this photo taken possibly some 9 years ago or so...but it's just a photo.
That's a good observation...those who are relatively unsuccessful have limited power to help.
• Philippines
27 May 11
i think it really depends on the person who experiences success and failure when i was younger and just had a taste of success, i found the world to be wondrous. when i hit rock bottom, i felt a great sense of despair, but i always trusted in my instincts and made my slow climb back again that feeling of wonder never ceases and the feeling of gratitude for success will never leave me some say i'm generous, some say i'm aloof i'd like to think i'm more helpful than most people
• United Kingdom
20 Feb 12
Blessed Man - Yes, I was, when this photo was taken, in maybe 2003? And I still am now.
Thanks, chipesterkhan, I've had some minor success, and disappointments too but all in all, I feel very blessed. And I'm hopeful for the future.
• Philippines
27 May 11
i think both success and failure can either make a person more positive, sweet and generous or the other way around, he may become more selfish and bitter. It all depends on the character of the individual and the experiences that lead him to either his success or failure. The mixture of the individual character in response to his experiences will determine whether he will become a better person or become a bitter person.
• United Kingdom
22 Feb 12
Bitter man? - I look it a little here, don't I...or at least...moody. But this was just a photo, taken in 2002, I think. It shouldn't be taken too seriously.
I think you're right; neither success nor failure has to make a person either sweeter or more bitter.
@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
27 May 11
I think success or lack of success, or any extreme just enhances the natural attitude of a person. IF they are a kind person then their success or failure just brings that kindness to the surface. If they are naturally bitter, it becomes more evident when they are stressed. It think this is also something that is enhanced by illnesses as well.
• United Kingdom
27 May 11
That is very true, GardenGerty, health can play an incredibly important role in this.
• United States
27 May 11
Hi there, It can really be one or the other as I have seen both scenarios in reverse. I feel it really is up to the individual character of the person. For instance, tho I have been through so much in life I am still nice and caring. Sure a few bruises but I treat everyone exactly the same which route rich and or poor I could ever be. And yes I have been in circumstances in my life where I had loads of money, success and failure, so this is how I know, at least for me.
• United Kingdom
27 May 11
Hi, hardworkinggurl. Yes, I think so, it all depends on individual character, and you are nice and caring, no matter the circumstances, which is great to hear.
• Pasig, Philippines
27 May 11
It depends on the person who handles success. There's a celebrity here in the Philippines, who used to help people. Giving all the prizes to poor when winning to a contest. However, after few years he changed to a very bad man. He had been suspended so many times and had been kicked out from his own show.
• United Kingdom
27 May 11
Yes, I agree angelmoonlyt, fame and success can often be very hard to handle.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
27 May 11
I think it depends on whatever personality was already there. An insecure and bitter person can become a bully. A shy, humble person can become very generous and grateful. Money doesn't determine character. Isn't it interesting that hardships rather than successes help a person become better??
• United Kingdom
27 May 11
Yes, that is so often so, stary1: suffering and surviving hardships develop good character.
@original8 (107)
• Belgium
27 May 11
Indeed they most likely will act sweet and be like that in nature butit depends i think because you have some who are raised in a strong family who are no sweet, and in the end when they become succesful act not nice towards other. But it depends so im happy im always sweet and have succes :)
@Pavan_m01 (115)
• India
6 Aug 12
Hmmmmm a little confusion? What exactly meant by successfull people according to you? Let me put my visions forward. The people who have succeeded in life likes of Mahathma Gandhi,Nelson Mandela, Jhon F Kennedy and many more. I dont think These People will show any kind of arrogance in there behaviour. Even before success or after success. To be true the non Arrogant and Down to earth behaviour of these people itself have made them greater and successfull in there Life. When it comes to people who are successfull in other cases like in Business, Sports. It is really difficult to say who can be arrogant. But one thing is sure if these people behave non arrogantly and down to earth. These people also can be listed in above category of the Successfull people in there life