Are You a Good Listener?

I think I´m a good listener. I have found that it is easier for some people and not so easy for others, depending on their personality more than if they care or not. But I am outgoing and warn by nature so for me it´s easy. Besides I can easily read tones or gestures without even meaning to, so I´m prepared and can ask what´s wrong from the moment I see someone close to my heart with a problem. My girls sometimes tell me I´m nosy, but it´s not that. Fortunatly I can also see that they are joking when they say that. It has been easier for me since I love to cook. It´s easy to talk over something good to eat. Comfort food is part of listening.

Yes definitely i am a good listener my friends say it. I usually listen to my friend's problem & always help them to resolve it. There have been many incidences where my friends asked me to help & give some advice to come out of the situation which i always did. I remember one incident when one of my friend loved a girl & wanted to marry her but parents of both were not ready to do it. Finally they decided to elope.But before doing that they asked me for my advice i also suggested them to elope & get married & get their marriage registered,its been 5 years back & now they are happily married & now with the time their parents have accepted them.

I think I'm a good listener but once in a while I can also talk my head off. But most of the time I'm more of a listener unless I have something to say.

I have someone here not so far away who calls me up every single day and pours out her woes. There is not a single day that we do not talk. She needs this pepping up conversation and I like giving it. It is a give and take policy. I like to give and she likes to take!

It is very important to be a good listener. I have everytime remind myself to be a good listener especially to my good friends. However, for me, i tend to talk more about myself than listen to other. This i think is a great flaw of mine. However, i would want to be a good listener to my friend because i believe it is a good quality. Furthermore, when our friends are in trouble, very likely, they just need a good listening ear to listen to them. They will feel much better after that.

When you listen carefully, enjoy those troubled or burdened with problems.And is not it, that listening to people come to her beloved? So that to listen is an art! It is hard to have an obedient ear? Sometimes it is as hard to get yourself through a problem that perhaps can be resolved. In fact, when we want someone to listen to us, we do not expect to solve another problem. Rather we want to know that there is someone who cares about us. Provision for people to listen to us, tear us from the clutches of despair sometimes. Is there an incentive to urge us to this provision? My opinion is that love is the springboard we soar so high as much as we use. Love inspires courage, courage calls for action ... Outside is terribly cold and the temperature drops dramatically. The only source of heat from the fire trosneste your home is in the home. Life depends on the maintenance of the fire. Would you simply sit and you watch the flames and spark extinguishing the coals red flicker in a dark gray, lifeless? No way! You feed the fire tirelessly to remain alive. In a sense, everyone has done something similar when it comes to a "fire" more importantly, who should burn in our hearts love. So to feed the love that we take action! It happen to show courage! Let us be brave to love, listen, encourage ... Let us love one another! It is a divine commandment, we observe that if we live only for ourselves!

buenavida yes now I am and have been since when in my early thirties my young son said,"mom I was talking to you , and y ou just kept on doing that check balancing." he grabbed the check book and then said"I need to talk to you but you must listen to me, okay?" So he then got my full attention and I realized a lot of times I had not really listened to people but kept on doing a task and missed some of what they were trying to tell me.So now I always put aside a task if Iam doing one and prepare to listen to all of what someone is telling Me. I am now a great listener.

It's always good to have an outsider listen to what you have to say because sometimes they have a different outlook on the situation and can give their input. You can also be a good listener without having to say anything about the situation, but just to listen so the person can say what needs to be said. I enjoy listening to others to give my support and my advice, if that's what they want. But I also enjoy listening just to listen. I do feel good knowing that I can be there for someone who needs a listening ear, or two.

Hi buena vida: The answer is yes. Actually i feel that I am a better listener than a talkative person. I am the type of person that prefers to listen first before judging someone and I am here to listen my friends problems. ALVARO

I think I am or at least I used to be a good listener in the past,because I haven't had the chance to listen to any of my friends talk seriously about their problems lately,but guess that I would have the patience to listen to them and help them if I were in a good mood myself.Anyway,it is indeed a joy to be able not only to listen,but also to be able to do something for a friend.

i work with alot of woman and, female is a emotional kind of being and so they almost all day have something to say and i listen with joy to experience what i'm gonna be listening to today :)

Perhaps I am can listen better than express my thoughts. I try to give somebody a fair hearing. Sometimes I do not tell about some things I could be interested in myself if my friend likes to explain something important she is concerned about. I try to be understanding and to look into a problem or a significant topic. It is a good quality to be considerate, sensitive, although people should not get depressed because of the problems of others.

yeah its always good to listen.. even if you dont going to use any inch of it.. It may not help you in a direct way but yeah it can atleast give you an idea which can be redesign to appropriately fit to the problem as a solution..:)

Oh yes love to listen and I can say I'm a good listener. Listening to other people thoughts and problems it adds to my learnings and experience. I dont normally advise but if they needed my ears, shoulders and heart definitely i will be their for them.

I have tried to be a good listener because I know how valuable it is to have someone who will truly listen. I say I try because it's hard to keep my mouth shut. I always want to offer advice! I'll listen for awhile and inside I'll be thinking my goodness, what is wrong with you, can't you see he is just using you?! Or why is it so difficult for you to stop buying stuff when your future hangs in the balance and your kids might suffer?! Or any other situation, I've heard them all, I think. I love my friends but sometimes I can't just listen, I have to say something. They seem to appreciate it but I know they would actually learn more if I'd keep my trap shut and let them work it out themselves!

I've been told on several occasions that I am a good listener, and I do try to be a good listener. I think that being able to listen is a good skill to have. It has helped me, I have to say. I have found that it has been useful for me, as I am sure that it has been for others.

im sure we all have. its a good friend who can listen. but i do have one friend that its always about her. i will listen and try and help and sometimes she says i do. but if i call her with things, she will start up with how thats how she felt so and so time and she has no body, etc. so, lately ive been the same with her and she dont like it. i often wonder if she sees how its like what she does even when i tell her it is.

Yeah, I think being a listener is really important. Sometimes, we just like to give suggestions or speak when people don't really need it. They just want to let out the things that bothered them.

hi buenavida-yes maybe i am ...and i try to apply it to myself even how hard it is...

Yes, I have felt it. In my group of friends I tend to be silent most of the time. And mostly when they air out some things in their life they would usually talk to about it with me. I guess my friends noticed that anything they wanna talk privately to me stays with me.