How do you deal with people that are feeling close?

I feel close to other people more than other people feel close to me. ok, i will tell about my close feelings to other people first. it usually happens when i find someone or group of people who have things that I want to have, but I don't have yet in fact. for example: I used to feel close to 2 persons who have deep friendship in which they can work in the same company, study bible together, go to church together, play tennis together, go to mall together, go picnic together. I really wanna have that kind of friendship because i believe it will make me happier. at that time, i just lost a good friend because he moved to other city and we never kept contact anymore. as I kept trying to get into their circle, we had so many fights because we had some different basic principles which obstructed us to be close. for example: they are very extreme Christians who think other people with different religions are wrong. and won't be saved. it's just too fanatic for me. now it's been 3 years ago and I don't feel interested anymore to be their best friends. even if they want me to get into their circle now, I don't think I want. the other thing is about other people who feel close to me. one example is my childhood friend (from elementary school) who always try to keep contact with me until now. she comments on my Facebook status, pictures, give me advices, and say good things about me. I don't wanna be rude to her because I know she is a good woman. so, I just reply her messages without giving too much emoticons. just a flat response. i hope someday she will understand that i don't wanna get close to her.

well, it will depend on the intention of the person. first, if he/she is really after the friendship with you, it is better to respond to it in a nice way. after all, it's a plus for your circle of friends. we all know that having a lot of "true" friends is much better. also, you must weight your feelings towards this person. are you comfortable with him/her and are you enjoying his/her company are some of the questions that should be raise in considering a true friend. but if this person is just feeling close because he/she needs something to you and then suddenly turns his/her back against you after they got what they needed, better be wary of this persons. there's no doubt that some people tend to be kind or close to you if they knew that you can give them what they wanted. nowadays, better be observant with the people that you are encountering with every single day of your life. they can obviously make an impact and affect into your way of living.

Yes,it depends on how the project. If they're into friendship,i will give it a chance. This happens to me with one common friend. She always tried to catch my attention and feels so close. At first i just keep being civil with her since she's not doing bad anyway. Later on,i realized that she hooked me with her kindness and her way of showing care. Now,we're best of friends and even closer than those friends whom i closer first before her. So,let's give em a chance when they really want true friendship. Have a great weekend

Hi, I'm a shy person, not really the one to go to people and let myself be close to them. yes, I've also encountered people who feel that we've known each other for years and doesn't feel a bit reserved or shyness towards me. But then, I'm always Mr. nice Guy or in my case, Ms. Nice so I just ignore what they are doing but I respond to them appropriately, but with a bit of reservedness as well. I don't just copy what they do to me because I'm worried they might reject me after all. Maybe their closeness jut means nothing to them, that's the way they are and I might just interpret it as wanting to get overly close. Who knows but people like them could become your really greatest friends, just give it time because time will tell and show who they really are.

hi, sometimes i dont like so much those people who are feeling close to me,its sometimes irritate me because of that manner,and even me i dont do that to the other people because i know what they feel.

Their are only two ways to deal with closed people, leave them alone or try to get something out of them. As for myself, I am a very closed person. It takes someone a long time to really figure me out. I act in this manner for a reason. The reason I believe i act closed is because i didn't have my real father in my life. I have this fear of being left alone by someone I'm close to so I try not to get as close as I would like. It's not that I try to be anti social, I'm just scared of being hurt by anyone else like my father hurt me. Maybe it is a repressed memory of something that happened in your past that causes you to shut people out.Or maybe that certain person in which you feel that way towards, has done something to make you uncomfortable and make you act that way.