This is a big question for girls...Can you handle to?

Hi there, I can only answer for me, my boyfriend and I live together for six years and to date has never had "time management" issues. If he began a pattern as this I certainly would have an issue with it. Simply because we live as one here and I would not dream of doing as so. Therefore, I expect to be respected as much as I respect him. My ex-husband use to do this, and again only speaking about me here, because I do not know you and or your husband, but he use to do this all the time. Yes it angered me immensely. At first I thought he was hurt and or in some kind of accident. The more I worried the less he cared, to respect me enough to even call and say he would be late. Very long story, short here, my ex was always up to no good and well that is why he is the ex. lol Do try and find a way to calmly speak to your husband because the less said means the more it is okay. Not insinuating that perhaps he is up to no good, simply saying that he should make an effort to let you know when he is going to be late, as I am sure you would let him know and he perhaps would not like that you do as he is doing. I am sorry you are going through this as I am well aware of how it use to make me feel. I wish you and he all the best.

No I could not and would not handle it. Whether he is cheating on you or not he has no regards for your feelings. Pack up his stuff and tell him to get out till he can change. Or you pack up your stuff. If he loves you enough Hell change and if not then he's not worth It and you should move one.

I'd kill him... probably why I'm single...

I dont think I could handle that. If he was at work and said he would be home in an hour and it turned out it was 2 hours, then I could handle that. But to be home 9 hours later than he orginally said, No there is no excuse for that. Expessially if that is an every day thing. I would have big reason to believe there was something going on if that was going on every day and I would be questioning it a few times. In order not to feel like a moron, if I had reason to believe he was doing something other than being at work as he said I would casually show up once a week a few hours after he said he would be home. I personally dont think I could handle being lied to or just not having him home all the time.

hi, of course that is not really normal and for me i will feel that he never have a such time for me for his family and every thing,and aside from that you could not let it out to our mind that our lover have something out there like woman.

I know that my husband would never do that, because even when he'll late 1 hour I'm getting crazy that he had some accident, so if my husband is going to be late home he always call me. Did you talked with him about this? what is he doing all this time? maybe if he won't answer good enough for you, you should try to follow him (I know that sound extreme, but if he is not telling you, you can find out this by yourself) You have reason to be pissed off, and it's normal and I really think noone could handle this

Hi. insulin. My husband has placed me into this situation many of times before. And, he usually has an good excuse for why he has gotten back at home so late. I may get mad, only if I had something planned that day that I had to go to and he did not show up at all. I also may get upset if he promised me that he is on his way home, only to find out that he changed his mind about coming home right in one hour. My husband sometimes calls me to let me know that he is on his way home. He can be like five minutes from our home and he will call me just to tell me that he is on his way home.

things to do: 1. talk with him. tell him what you feel on this issue 2. if no change after the said talk. stalk him. or hire a PI. maybe he is cheating 3. if proven that he is cheating, pack his things, throw it out and change your locks, settle for a divorce

As other people have said, I can only speak for myself. I was in a somewhat similar situation with my ex-husband, so I guess that speaks for itself. In my opinion, things happen and sometimes you run late or things take longer than you anticipated or there were unexpected difficulties, etc., so not being on time or being there at exactly the time you said is not necessarily such a big deal as long as it doesn't happen all the time. Along the same lines, if you know that you are running late, then a phone call would be the polite and respectful thing to do, so that you would know exactly what was going on and when he thought he might be home. That way, you would not have to worry and could make other plans if you were waiting on him to do something.

For me yes you need to be with that case if you love is vain then it is not good.

Patience is something that I don't have especially when I relied to his words that he was gonna come home in an hour. My husband and I used to fight when he would come home later than I expected or later than what he has promised. It's not because I didn't trust him but because I hate waiting. Later though we learned to understand each other and compromise. He tells me where he goes and he would say if he would come home late. I know where he goes and he has never lied to me. Talk to your husband and give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't keep his words next time then don't just sit there and whine. If I were in your case I would go out and have fun and let him come home to an empty house lol!

hi insulin, looks like you have become frustrated with your husband for not fulfilling his promises. I know how it feels like when it happened to me when someone/ a friend/ whoever stood me up. For 2 years you have been patient with him and yet, he still didn't get it. I personally feel, he has a problem. His habit and behavioural problem is affecting you because both of you were living together under 1 roof. It's sad but you still have to find your own happiness. Don't dwell with other people's fault and improper behaviour. Those who are always being late, cannot meet up with their promises, often timews they are irresponsible beings. They been doing it since they were young and in order to get him back on track, first thing, he has to realise this old habit himself. No point arguing and yelling at each other's throat just to get to the point. It won't happened. In fact, never will be. Get busy with your own work and schedules and don't start doing nagging. Nagger will normally worsen a person. I believed you have talked to him but he is still not getting the point. I can't asked you to lock the door if he is late again. Maybe going away for vacation without informing him will be a good way of telling him that you have had ENOUGH. Good luck to you and hope to hear more from you soon... Cheers

I would've lost my mind if he did that to me. Me and him would've been arguing almost everyday. Questions would be running in my mind. Of course the first thing that would run through my mind is, is he cheating on me. I think you should start to smell his clothes, because women like to wear strong perfume so maybe some of it would be on him. Also, if he is starting to buy you gifts, just random gifts and it isn't even your birthday or you anniversary.

This is not a good thing to come always late, i am worried about you, slowly slowly this situation becomes very critical for you and then you would not be worried about that in future. Either you get used to for it or your relation could be finish. You should talk to your husband about that, and reasons to come late.

I would be worried too. I feel like if you know you are not going to be home when you say you are then just tell me. Thats why I like to know everything about my boyfriends job and I know what he is doing and how long it take to complete that job. The most my boyfriend has ever stayed over after work is an hour and thirty minutes. I would ask him why he is staying after work that long and if he is he should be getting some kind of overtime, which you as his wife should be able to tell from his checkstub if he is getting paid for his overtime. And if he is just out and about and not coming home til later I would check him on it and let him know he has a family to be at home with as well. Its one thing when you go out for a couple of hours, but you cant be gone almost the whole day hanging out with your friends. I dont know anyone that would want to hang with their friends for that long. If that doesnt helo why dont you try staying out all day and tell him you will be home in an hour and dont show up for 8 hours. You dont have to really go out, but go to your moms house or to your friends house and just chill. Then when he asks why have you been out all day then let him know you are just doing what he does.

Wow. 1 hour and 10 hours is too much different. If my boyfriend is coming home in an hour, i most probably will stay up to wait for him. But if it's going to be 10 hours, then i'll rather go and have some sleep. Is this a problem of time management or it's just that he don't want to go home? I sorry for being blunt. But 10 hours is too much to bear, too great an allowance for a problem in time management. But, it seems like this time problem of his has been around since he's young. Have you talk to your husband about it? I think it's necessary to let him know that he's hurting you in this manner.

So if i was in your position i would definitely be worried. Not only because he might be out with another woman, but because of his lack of communication skills. If he tells you he is going to be home in an hour thats the time you will be expecting him. If he knows he will not be home in an hour why not tell you? Communication is one of the main keys to a relationship and if he is doing this to you now, he sure is going to do it later on. Sit down and talk to him. Don't automatically assume he's cheating but talk to him about how your communiciation is off with his and maybe he will take things better and be willing to work on his problem if you don't automatically throw the cheating card at him.