Have you ever tried to help someone and couldn't????

Yes, few things really worthwhile come easy. That is a lesson many need to learn. We can help people in many ways. Sometimes showing them our spiritual side will remind them who they really are and what is really important. Sometimes just being there with love and enouragement will help people make it through the tough times. We can not remove a lesson that someone else must experience, however going along for the ride will make it much easier. OK jennyze. I know you are helping everyone around you. You have greater means than you realize. Sometimes your results are never seen by you but none the less are out there.

When I know I could never help someone, I would look away or tried not to think too much of that someone... you see sometimes it is easy to be a coward...

Certainly I have that bikini so I can just shed my skirt... I just want to live a balance life. You know I always feel suspicious of people who always looks good in manner, behavior and words. I suspect he/ she must have hid their ugly feelings well. It is the same as I would look at people who seems to always did bad things with wonder. Did he/ she hid something beautiful inside?

Yes and sometimes the results of our actions aren't seen for years later. With no immediate results we feel nothing was done but sometimes nothing is further from the truth.

Thanks ptower76. Great story. Sounds like you are doing pretty good on helping others yourself. It's always great to hear.

Your right about that. I was a Scoutmaster for a few years back in the 80s. Recently I have come across a few of the Boys that have told me that I was instrumental in a lot of positive decisions in their lives. It is an example of what you mention. Good luck in your future attempts to help others.

I did not say I don't believe a god exists. Certainly as a human I have to believe some incredale being or power started the universe and laid down the rules by which it all works. I am not the slightest bit confused about that. However what happens in the tiny world of us humans suggests quite strongly that there is no "god" who is interested in the fate of one person or species. Nor is there any "god" listening to prayers and answering them. This idea is something invented by, in the case of christians, muslims or jews, leaders of a desert tribe in the middle east so that they could unite their people and persuade them to murder whole cities of men, women and children in order to steal Canaan from the Canaanites. What I also say and strongly maintain is that if you or any other human claim that they know what a "god" wants or does not want it has to be a god that they have in their heads. This is fine as that is your god and you are relying on that god and since he, she or it is part of your personality it will not let you down. Finally it all does fit together perfectly as the earth goes round the sun we live on a planet that suits us and if we treat it right it will go on suiting us for many years to come.

There is no doubt that religion is a catalyst by which many problems do come to the surface so they can be dealt with. Ask yourself this. If all the physics come together perfectly, shouldn't the people factor as well. To understand how it comes together and the genius of how it works is to begin to understand how God thinks. This may lead to doors for further discovery. God does see and hear it all. God is very very smart working on multiple levels with multiple views. That is why so few including religion understand. The journey to discover takes lots of work and time. All the secrets of the universe stare us in the face. Can you see??? The real answers aren't on the surface. One must look deeper. God does not have to be a belief, however that might be the only way for some. People so often limit themselves by choice. I work at not doing just that.

If God exists then God can be found. I never want anyone to rely on beliefs of any kind. We must value truth above all else. Your belief that God does not exist stems from the fact that you have not discovered God on your own. If you depend on others to lead you, you will rely on beliefs as you do now. Do you search for God??? If you do, you are looking in the wrong place since you have discovered nothing. Look around you. God's actions are not hidden. When you figure out how it all fits together perfectly, you will come to understand more. To discover God without more understanding would just leave you confused. Sometimes people who search find what they search for. The choices are for each to make. I'm happy to see you helping people. Yes, you are special indeed.

Great attitude. Yes, there is always learning in our journey. One could never use the terms (dumb me!) when you carry such wisdom. Somehow all those pesky problems do get worked out. The important thing is not to leave the learning behind.

People who need to change but refuse generally will hurt until it's easier to change. We must contiue to point them in the right direction. People do change in time but they usually think it was their idea. This is OK for the results are all that matter. Don't give up. Give lots of love and kindness as you point. People tend to listen more to the loving and kind people. Through it all you can be so wonderful just by being there.

What we give the world will be the lesson returned to us. In this case it will teach us how to love unconditionally.

Yes, I guess there are a few people, out of pride,that will refuse help no matter what. Little do they realize that they often get help and don't realize it.

Sometimes the greatest strength is simply being there with your love, support and encouragement for someone. You are stronger than you realize.

Yes, a little love, kindness, and encouragement can go a long way. It is the least we can do. We are all meant to overcome our problems. They aren't near as scary with company.

It is important to point people in the right direction. When they are ready to change they will remember the direction you pointed. Often change comes slowly, but it comes to everyone.

I always tell people to listen to the advice of others but walk your own path. So many times the learning is in the doing. If they are prevented from doing, they could never really learn the real lesson. Experience is truly the best teacher. Though it hurts when our efforts do not accomplish what we want, it should never stop us from trying to help others. I will always define myself as helpful, loving, and kind regardless of the obstacles I encounter toward that goal.

Love is truly the greatest pain killer. Just giving love, support, and encouragement can give someone else the strength to overcome anything. Very good point on your part. Being There is something all of us can do for others.

People can be defensive. Often to do this people use blame. They do this to place attention on someone else. Smile at her, give her a hug and tell her It's a good thing you were around. In mankind's view, blame is a very important thing. It is meanless to me. Results are all that counts. Everyone can blame me if it will help people walk in the right direction. With unconditional love and kindness, let's not forget to point them in the right direction regardless of any blame. It is the right thing to do. It is the only way to be. Blame me. I can take it, my friend. Then when they are all looking at you. Show them all what's really important.