How old do you think is a good age to have children?
By RieRie
@RieRie (820)
13 responses
@nannacroc (4049)
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20 Nov 06
There's no age that's right. I had my first child at 19, then the others were born when I was 26 and 27. I sort of grew up with my first child and learnt what being a parent was about. I was more ready for the other two. I think 26 was the right age for me but I wouldn't have missed having the older child.
I have a couple of friends in their forties who have got young children and I don't think I would have liked to wait that long.
I now have the best of both worlds because I have the freedom to do what I want. I also have grandchildren who I can send home when I've had enough.
@dorypanda (1601)
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19 Nov 06
Well, I was 18 when I had my son, and I think that was a good age, because now I don't need to worry about childcare if I want to find work. I've done the baby/child thing, so now I can do my thing. I know you're older than 18 so obviously you can't have a child at 18. I recon someone else has got it right, you need to make sure you can afford a child (although sometimes it's technically financially impossible to have a child), I think it's a good idea to have a child somewhere in your 20s, I think if you're in your 30s the finacial support is usually there, but there can be physical problems with the pregnancy. Obviously older people having children, like say people in their 50s, they have other problems, like not being physically able to do so much.
@pumpkinjam (8763)
• United Kingdom
20 Nov 06
I don't think that's true for everybody. I was mature enough at 19 to look after my child but I know people who are 30+ who aren't ready for responsibility and can't deal with it. But then that's usually men who aren't responsible by the time they are 30.
@spirit1949 (373)
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19 Nov 06
There is no age, or time as you call it, its when the time is right. The right time is when you've lived alittle, enjoyed your youth, had your freedom, because when you have children you can kiss goodbye to all that, the only thing you'll get is dirty nappies, sleepless nights, and arguements over whose turn it is to get up and feed the baby. 30ish sounds about right. Please, Please don't have a baby when your 16, 17, 18,you need to enjoy life first.
@mcbota (2125)
• Romania
17 Jan 07
By responding to this question you make me to think that I become older again with one more year in 2007.I cant say if is a good age or a bad age but some are calling this age a good one.At this age you are able usually to think more mature than others which are younger,but also you can be in the crisis of this certain age.You have to have a good family and maybe children.As for me at this age I have a family ,a driven license which usually you can afford to have at the age of 18 here in Romania,I have a job but I do not have any children yet.I would like to have and I think is the best age to be already in marriage life.Some says that the best age to be married is around 29 years old but this depends from country to country.If you can guess what age I have it is very good and if not I will tell you that I am 37 and I am thankful to God for what I have and done till this age!May God bless you all even if you are old ,young ,married or not married!So if you can calculate the year of my born you will see that I was born in 1970!Around 30 years is good to have children!
@pumpkinjam (8763)
• United Kingdom
20 Nov 06
I think the ideal age would be about mid 20s but there are advantages and disadvantages of having your kids at any time of life. I had my first at 19 and my second at 24. This is probably going to seem a bit strange but I think 19 was a better age for me and in a way I would maybe have preferred to have my children closer together. So that would be one thing, whatever age you have children, if you intend to have more than one then having them not too far apart is probably better in that you have more freedom afterwards, if you know what I mean. Although some people prefer to have a career first and then have children later so they are more ready for them. But I don't believe people in their 30s and 40s who have had careers all their lives can really be ready for a baby. Healthwise, even though there are all the tests and everything, it's still unwise to wait until your 40s.