And he's back...
By Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
Philippines
May 28, 2011 6:23am CST
The friend who abandoned me is back. He came back following me in twitter with a totally different name that I never thought he would come up with. He followed me on May 13th, the day he set it up. He sent me a message in my national language, obviously with the help og google translate. I never noticed it was him till two days ago when he asked me to follow him.
How did I recognize him? It's in the way he tweeted. There was a sense of familiarity especially when he said he'd drink pepsi coz I followed him and he will get me a coke. Pepsi and coke had a significance in our friendship. That made me check his profile which was empty, but he tweeted only with me.
Yesterday I responded to one of his tweets to confirm if it's him and indeed I got the confirmation. I cried when he said, I never left your side. He thought I was gonna block him but of course he's wrong.
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@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
28 May 11
Wow even I am surprised...
So he's totally back in different name but the same characteristics. I believe he could do some explaining now. What's the matter with him... hmmmm...
Anyway, he must have some good reasons for doing what he's done as he's working his way back to you... So are you two on it again? Or you're refraining now...???
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 May 11
No we're not. It's difficult to bring back the what we had in the past and the pain is still there. I think that's why he thought I was gonna block him as he knew how much pain he'd caused me. He's carrying on with his normal life though he mentioned in his twitter that the past few weeks was difficult for him and he almost lost faith in God. He told me to pray for him, and that was before I knew who he was.
I think he's happy knowing that I'm doing well after he left. But my tears really fell when he said he never left my side.I can sense some sincerity in them but I refuse to believe as I'm only human.
@chuyins123 (2112)
• Philippines
29 May 11
Ah yes, I believe it's just reasonable and normal reaction. But I would also love to believe that you are getting better every day now.
Still glad though he was able to go through it now, and well it's better for you to set clear parameters and draw clear lines between you and him.
I trust you on this though. And I believe you are more composed and well in control now. And what ever decisions you may have, I trust he'd also understand. :)
God bless my friend...
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
29 May 11
Seems to me that this 'friendship' has something more to it, else it wouldn't be that 'emotional'. Anyhow, take caution with this one because if you're a schoolgirl feeling all mushy and stuff for someone who was lost and now was found surely makes you a good prey to be seduced then left once again.
Friends don't abandon you no matter what, the main reason why these things happen is because that 'friend' found a flame and thought to get rid of you to make that flame burn more. Perhaps it's the end of that flame that he's back ready to take his place in your heart and he knows that you would accept him no matter what.
All in all, these types of people shouldn't be taken too seriously. If he has left you before - abandoned, who are we to say that he'd not do it again?
You take care and have a great MyLot experience!
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 May 11
I am pretty much aware he could leave again. But I'm pretty sure there was no flame or it was a flame that made him abandon me.
Thank you so much.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
29 May 11
That is sweet, and sounds like this guy really likes you. I would definately be Happy if I were you, but at the same time if he left once before, he could leave again. But if you are Happy take your time making sure to let your feelings and thoughts known and good things will happen. Wishing you the Best.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 May 11
Hello Tina!
Thank you so much. He's the type of person who would never lie to me and tells me things with all sincerity. There was a big reason he abandoned me and I don't fully blame him for that but I was hurt a bit. Just glad that he found his way back but I hope he was able to sort things out with his own life.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
28 May 11
Hello Toni
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It'
s nice to know that a guy actually never left you as a friend. unfortunately, that is very alarming indeed, why would he pretend, and why did he abandon you in the first place? I would be frightened first hand if some one was pretending that is actually some one i know. i hope he wouldn't pretend again if he's sincere as a friend not to leave your side, that's really scary on my part. have a nice day
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It's nice to know that a guy actually never left you as a friend. unfortunately, that is very alarming indeed, why would he pretend, and why did he abandon you in the first place? I would be frightened first hand if some one was pretending that is actually some one i know. i hope he wouldn't pretend again if he's sincere as a friend not to leave your side, that's really scary on my part. have a nice day@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 May 11
It was not his intention to deceive me by using a code name. He tried to tell me who he was by giving out clues but I missed them as I wasn't expecting he would appear in such a short time.
We could never be friends like we used to but I'm sure he's happy as he gets updated on how I'm doing through my tweets and I do feel glad that I can at least have an inkling on how he's doing now.
@Rite17 (773)
• United Kingdom
28 May 11
Oh dear luv it sounds like he is going to get you and him into trouble with the wife again... Shall you keep going with the secreet 'affair' of a friendship..?
I believe he loves the dirty side of keepign it from the wife if he is persuing you now.. But why is she so obsessed with not letting him have a woman for a friend..? Is it just you or other women as well..?
All I can say is ... if it goes wrong you know why..and if should carry on before it goes wrong or just let it go.
xx
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 May 11
Not sure if the wife knows he has a new twitter account. I checked the people in his twitter and none of his friends are there. I think he made it only just for me.
I'm keeping my distance but somehow it made me feel glad that he's now fining a way to get to me.
@granny2011 (167)
• Romania
28 May 11
This story he very nice and emotional.But why he abandoned you?What you do to make him abandone you?Sorry for ask , but for me a friend means a person who will not abandone you .Maybe he got a reason , make me understand friend or boyfriend? Hmm if he is your friend , than the life it's not a game .Why he abandoned you if you are a sweet girl with strong feelings?Make me understand
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 May 11
I said friend. He had a valid reason to abandon me, which he relayed to me after Agee days of shock and doubt. The reason is something I cannot divulge as it would be unfair on his part.
@madhubabup (116)
• India
29 May 11
i dont know what to say.. but i know much its painful when some one leaves us.. i got that pain also.. but i never accepted her again..
@Rite17 (773)
• United Kingdom
29 May 11
Well if he did cheat in the past then she can't really be blamed for being as she is.. But if he didnt and she still doesnt truest him then he really should get out of that relationship it isnt worth beign lonely cos of her..
Shame really that you fidn a friend in thsi perdicerment. But i do hope he sorts it out and you can maybe be able to get out foat little hole he is putting you into being firnds with him. It isnt fair on you or the friendship if it starts up again... :(
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 May 11
Hmmm... So dear now what do you do? Maybe he is a good friend? But a word of caution - beware. Give it some more time before you finally decide...
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
29 May 11
He himself know his own faults. In fact he thought I was gonna block him and he asked if I were gonna do that. I won't though. The last conversation we had before he left, he said that who knows he might tweet me someday. I thought that day would never come as he ended every means of communication between us. I convinced myself that day would never come and when it did, I never expected it so in was a bit shocked.
Our friendship might not be the way it was before and I am more in control now. He's a sincere person and I know he's a good friend, but he had a valid reason to leave and I respect that.
@EstiiBabii (685)
• United States
28 May 11
That's great. If it was me I would've been a little resistant to talk to him because he abandoned me for so long but then eventually as I cool off I will come to understanding and know that he is my best friend and I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone else.
@tammy27 (1241)
• Philippines
28 May 11
good thing to know that he's always there for you even though it's not that obvious. i know how it feels to have a long lost friend then suddenly a return. my best friend vanished for 2 years but still, i think we are meant to be best friends, hehe we're now back to normal.. :) hope the two of you will work things out and return to the friendship both of you used to have. :)
