do you think that being a mistress is not a sin?

They both have some fault, as you said he shouldn't cheat his wife if he doesn't love her why he'll not divorce? But your friend also has fault staying with him, if he's that kind of guy cheating his wife, he can also cheat your friend... If he doesn love her he should make everything to be free man and then be in relationship with your friend. Husbands are not leaving wifes too often for another woman... so your friend might never have family with this guy

looks like your friend is in for some big trouble if she doesn't leave the relationship soon... what do you think is going to happen when the wife finds out? anyway , the guy here may no be too satisfied with his marriage, but some part of him is still in love with his wife...otherwise, he'd be divorced by now. okay, maybe the guy has some legal reasons why he's not divorcing his wife yet, but whether or not it is a sin to be in love, he's still MARRIED to his wife, and not to your friend. there isn't much explanation needed. it's just that it's hard to understand when you're almost obsessed; well some people call it "in love", but i think true love doesn't work that way, sometimes it even frees a person when the situation calls for it.

What she is involved in is an adulterous relationship, and that is a sin.

we almost have the same story to tell, my bestfriend is also a mistress and it makes me sad. there is nothing wrong with being in love, what makes it wrong if one of them is already committed in the law of God and in the law of man. there is a less blame on your friend because she doesn't know from the start that the guy was already married, but it does not correct her mistake right now. if the guy is not really in love with his wife, then why don't he file an annulment and wait for the right time when they are both free. it is a sad situation. it is harder to judge, but with the law of man and God, it is never right. i hope both our friends will learn to accept it. love alone doesn't make an evil thing good.

If the guy doesn't love his wife anymore-then why he won't asked for separation so he will be free and proved to your friend that he loves her. If the guy cannot leave his wife-that only means that this guy is just using your friend,and your friend is being blinded due to love and care that she's receiving from that married man. As the saying always goes- at the end of the day,the married guy will always comes home to his family. So,the last resort is- this guy must/should leave his wife legally and that's the real proof that this guy loves your friend. happy weekend

Yes, it is definitely wrong. They're just so unlucky since they met at the wrong time.. If the guy has kids then he should break it off, so the family won't be ruined. There are many guys out there that may be her true love. It may be the guy's fault because he nows he's married but he still had a relationship.

If it's not a sin then why don't they just make it legal? Why not have a divorce or annulment so that they could marry each other? For the fact that she considers herself a mistress, it proves that she knows that she's not the legal one and no amount of love could even make her feel secure of her position right now. I think if the man truly loves her, he won't make her feel that insecure and doe everything he can to make her feel she's the legal wife and she's the only one in his life. I know that it's difficult to be the friend of that person because regardless how we tell them that it's wrong, they will always follow their heart and I guess we'd do the same too. Believe me, I was in that situation (being a mistress or almost one) nobody really knew about it but I know for a fact that it's wrong, it took me a great deal of praying to be strong enough to not continue the sin and eventually my prayers were answered and I fell in love with another man (this time single) and I totally forgot about the married man. It was a miracle and I'm glad I didn't prolong my stupidity. Another is I know of someone in the same situation. She says she's already in love with him but I don't think it's love really, I think she just like the feeling of being with the man, it's already been a long time since she had a boyfriend and I think she's into it more with the companionship. But I'm just worried because she's also desperate in terms of having a kid, so perhaps she'll make the mistake of bearing one from him - I know she deserves better. But we can't really do anything about it. Good luck! Have a great MyLot experience!

hi missyphoebe then her self worth and her ethics are shot as she knows damned well this is totally wrong. let him divorce his wife if he is going to. but tell her to stay the hell away as she is hurting his wife who does not deserve to have her interfering with her marriage. he must not be much of a man if he is cheating like that with a mistress and I think his poor wife should be told and allowed to kick him out for good. I have no patience with either the man or your friend as if she is an adult she should have a few morals over above her love. yuck. fault its both their faults as she should have got out the moment she learned he was married. selfish love is no love at all when you hurt other people just to have your own way, yuck again.yes she is sinning and she will be hurt and the wife will be hurt,. such selfishness. terrible.

I think they are both at fault. He is definitely committing a sin and she is helping him commit that sin as well. She shouldnt have gotten into a relationship with married men becuase they all have the same story. They arent in love with their wives anymore and they want to leave them. But why all of a sudden do they realize they are not happy when they get involved with a woman. If they are not happy then they wouldnt be with their wives at all whether they are in a relationship with someone else or not. But it seems like your friend is pretty much convinced that this guy is going to be with her and leave his wife. I would just let her see for herself. Some people have to learn on their own. So just sit back and let her make her own mistakes. And just be there for her when she comes crying on your shoulder.

I have a friend who was in a relationship with a married man for 7 years! She kept saying it was all she wanted but I knew better. I also knew she deserved more. He was well off so he could spoil her when they were together but she could never truly have him! He would never leave his wife and kids!!! She is 50 now and alone and now is sorry she did it. I had spoke my opinion once back when she started it and she got mad so I kept my mouth shut. I am sorry to see her hurt but it was something she had to experience herself.

For me my friend in every angle there are mistakes, no justification provided or allowed because being mistress is a sin even in the bible prohibited such action... sorry but it is true. Tell your friend to stop such. see you around

I think being a mistress is a sin because it's breaking one of the commandments, "thou shall not commit adultery. The husband is breaking the marriage vows and breaking the contract that we have set in place. I don't know what I would do if my husband cheated on me; I guess I would ask for his forgiveness.

Relationships are never black and white, but are grey.It is difficult to say whose fault it is. Usually all the parties involved are wrong in some way or the other. I hope the complex structure of their relationship does not hurt someone or the other.

I agree with you missyphoebe. In my opinion one should be honest in his/her relationship as the your friend's BF is not honest to his wife he is literally betraying her which is i think is a sin & your friend is also involved in it. Your friend should really told her BF to take divorce from her wife and should marry your friend but what is the guarantee that he will be loyal to you also after marriage. This person can cheat you also like he is cheating his wife presently.Your friend should stay away from him in my opinion.

Right and wrong are not carved in stone! Many things the were wrong a few years ago are right today. One that comes to mind is eating fish on friday which was wrong, but is now right. Also what's right for one person might be wrong for another, like I say one cannot judge another person. My advise to you would be to, 'just forget it!'

Considering that adultery is a sin... I would consider being a mistress a sin as well. In that instance I would say most of the blame would fall on the husband for not guarding his heart and remaining faithful to his wife, but since the mistress is now aware that her boyfriend is married... then she's still at fault for remaining in that relationship. Yes they might feel "in love" but personally I don't believe that makes it right. Personally I think it's a bad idea to remain with a man who's already proven (by having an affair and cheating with you) that he has very little sense of long-term loyalty or commitment. Not sure there's much you can do to help her other than what you've been already doing. If she soundly believes that her being in love justifies her being in that relationship, then reason is going to have a hard time getting through.

I don't want to judge them both although we know it's wrong but I hope that one day that your friend relialize that she never be happy in her life because she know that there someone suffering in life because to her. and beside the husband always came back to his family no matter what, Is she ready to be a mistress? I understand her felling but until when, they stand their love if world against and condemn her? Is she ready to face the consequences. We all know that the world is not fair enough,in this case the mistress is always to blame and the cheater is man sometime is boast thier comfidence. Before its to late try to finish their relationship before she got a child because it cause a more suffering to all of them. She has more athority to do that eventhough it is so painful but then when she meet the right man for her all the pain and sadness will banish. Good luck to your friend and God Bless!