what do you do if your best friend hurt you?
By kumakuma
@kumakuma (84)
Malaysia
May 29, 2011 11:25am CST
Hi. I'm having problem with my friend, She revealed the secret that i hide from everyone and this make all of my classmate did not really want to make friend with me. I'm not doing somethings worst. I'm just fall in love with a guy and I did not realize that one of my classmate like him too. I already ask her, if she really want him or not. but she did not tell me. I think she really okay with that but her friends including my friends start thinking negative about me and avoiding me. And now, I'm really alone.
What do you do if this situation happen to you?
please help me...
7 responses
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
29 May 11
First of all, without reason no one can hurt you or to me this is anwser for your Topic title.
Second, You must clarify your position openly in front of those who think you are the culprit. But the way you described that you asked to your friend is she like him(Man) or not. Is it a good way to ask a question to your friend? As per my knowledge I know about my every friend in details so I know who like whom and who is doing what. Do you really was unaware about her feelings?.
Third, you said she is okay but your major concern is common friend of yours. Than why not you ask her to clarify your position in front of them so misunderstanding can be remove. If she is not helping you out from this situation than it means there is something very very wrong.
Please elaborate about my question so I can look further in your case and try to provide best possible help.
regards
@kumakuma (84)
• Malaysia
29 May 11
Islooboy,
Actually I'm not really sure about her feeling towards him. I did not see her going out with him but she react differently when my lecturer paired me and the guy in one assignment. That's why I asked her about her feeling towards him because I'm willing to give up my feeling if she say she like him.
About the common friends,I don't know. Sometimes I think they too protective when it is related with her friend. They don't talk in front of me but they talk back and I'm accidentally heard that. Well, I have asked to clarify this, but she acts like nothing happen.
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
30 May 11
Well as I said above in my response, "than it mens there is something very very wrong". So she is involve in activities against you with her intentions. Try to keep an eye on her as well and right now just ignore them like, "Nothing is happen". Try to talk to others who are not aware about the real situation. Explain your version with them and ask them to suggest you what you must do. By doing this they will think for you by placing themselves in your position. So understanding will grow more quickly in your way.
Wish you good luck
regards
@Delicious36 (190)
• Netherlands
29 May 11
Hi Kumakuma,
What sad to hear that your friends are avoiding you at this moment.
At the moment they are jealous of that you like the boy. So you have to choose between them and him. If you say that it all was a joke and you let it all pass maybe the will become friends again? Maybe it helps.
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
30 May 11
Well, you have to ask yourself now. Is she really your friend or not? Sometimes, there are people who pretends to be your friend to get what they want. You also need to talk to her. Maybe it was just a slip of the tongue. But be cautious the next time. Also, keep your secrets to yourself from now on.
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
30 May 11
Hi kumakuma! I think you should talk first with your friend. You need to clarify why she did that or what happened. Everything will be cleared up once you try to communicate with her. If she is really your best friend, there must just be some misunderstanding.
@marimarj23 (124)
• Philippines
30 May 11
Well, everyone likes a person. And everyone has a crush. So if it happens that both of you likes some guy I think there is nothing wrong with that. Let the guy choose whom of the two of you will he court, if he will. I think that is too shallow for not making you friend anymore. Just leave them, it shows they are not real friends. Find someone who can understand you and be there for you. They are the true friends.
@suvoneel (10)
• India
29 May 11
See, You need to clarify things to their roots. You need to ask the guy what he feels about you.Whom is he inclined to?You who loves him or the girl who loves him or not,you don't know.If the two of you are committed then you need to tell that clearly to your friends because they are not going to decide who will be your life partner.That's your choice and independence and if they want to tell something about that,then they are interfering in your personal life.You will have to decide how much worth is that and how far shall u allow this thing to happen.That might not be a very popular decision but you will have to take it for your own sake and learn to say no.If they are your friends then they should also care for your happiness
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
29 May 11
Hello kumakuma,
love is not love that changes with the change that come upon. The guy who you love should love you. And if he does not know about your love it is natural that he would get inclined towards any one that catches his attention.
Second thing, never tell all secrets to any friends of you, even to your best friend.
Now relax and see what way things move up. Had I been you I would forsake him that moment he started showing interest in others girls.
