I wish i knew who are real people here and who are not...don't you wish either?

What is real and what is not is all a matter of perspective, I think. We are all people on here regardless of whether or not we can actually see the other people - what they look like, what they sound like, their expressions and body language. Some are true and express themselves in a way that is honest, even if they do not reveal every single detail of their lives. In fact, I have read many people that say it is far easier to be honest with their deepest feelings and emotions on here than it is to express those same things to people in their off-line life. Besides, even friends off-line do not necessarily share every single detail of their lives with each other. There are other people that hide and are not truthful on-line. They pretend to be someone or something they are not, but that is not something that is found only on-line. I am sure that we all know people that are phoney off-line as well, and they too hide behind a mask, even though you can see their face. Which is real and which is not? Sometimes it is difficult to tell, even if they are sitting right in front of you.

At myLot like in real life, we have "friends" and "friends". Some are only relationships and some others are true friends, but we need time to sort out who are the true ones. Generally, when you are in difficulty and you need your friends, it is faster to find the true ones and to see how fast the other ones are turning their back. If you were absent from myLot since a long time, who has been worried and has tried to contact you ? If you needed help in a discussion, who jumped in your box to take your defense ? If one of your discussion has no responder, who has made a superhuman effort to respond to your boring topic ?

Hi Jai! It is not an easy task to know how is the pretender or pretending to be your friend . I think you need to your intuition and experience to sense who are your real friends. Real friends will always be with you in your thick and thin and they will be consistent in their approach.

As i don't trust people sweetie, online or in the real world, i don't really make friends. Maybe one day i'll get over it and start making friends.

Actually none pretending to be friend here. Everyone that use mylot are friends. Real friend, internet friend...... Actually I can't understand why people says net friends are not real. Though this is a virtual world ..... though we are virtual friend but we all are real. Behind every user name there is a real person. But the characteristic of this new concept after arrival of internet is little difference. We all are element of this virtual world. But every virtual character there is a real character behind.

Well its very hard to find friends online. First thing first I don't believe on net gender because mostly they are fake or use fake names. Even thought I found some good friends online and we talk and chat daily but still there is hidden fear in my mind which is stuck with me I don't know why and how I can get rid of this fear but its true. I think we all are friends because of our common interest which is earning some extra bucks online and also learn some new things regarding how to earn more. So good luck friend CHeers

i am as real online as in the flesh. i write about real emotions as i feel them for real. every joy, every sadness, excitement, appreciation... every emoticon. even my username is the same name i use outside of mylot. how much more real can i possibly be... i try to be the same friend online and beyond the wonders of the internet. if others find it any different or unreal, it's beyond my control. i can only be myself. real people is a matter of perception. i would hope that everyone is. but if not, it is up to them. lol why would you pour vinegar to their wounds? it would hurt. hehe you can sprinkle salt. it's slow torture. just kidding!

yes how i wish. I have an online life for like years now..and well, i have very very few real friends online and what is more sad most of them are busy these days...but how i wish i have one, so i could pour whatever is on my mind anytime without hesitation... and i have no idea how to know if one is real or not. weird. feels sad.

Hi jaiho, In my view all are real people who post their discussion, comment or respond. You mean to say I guess, people as they reflect in their writings and the ones in real life. Conflict between virtual and real. Right? Out of so many friends in my list here less than 50% are not maintaining friendship. And as for me (oh I am not in your friends list I guess)I am as real as the tsunami and the global warming. Even if you are not official friend you would be treated with utmost care if you come down to out country and my place. Like you know shibham, he knows me. He has come to our house on several occasions. Any other proof?

Hi jaiho: Don't worry. I think it's virtually impossible to know if the feelings of a person that you just know or not are real. Even with that, when I discuss here with my friends I try to be as honest as possible. I express my feelings. If I see that one of my friends have a problem, I offer him/her my advice. Sometimes I have even felt worry when I am reading a sad story or happy with their goals. It's really weird because I don't even know most of your faces but it's good. I couldn't and also I don't want to be dishonest on the site. I say what I feel and I believe that most of us act this way. ALVARO

Hi di What happened di? Why upset? mamu at fault? He is absconding since a few days... I have some great friends and I know I am real and my di knows that, my mamu knows that and all those who know me know that. Those who dont, I feel for them not me, because they lost me as a friend... and some more will be friends here in the days to come...

In fact do we need to pretend to be friends as long a we all ca be good friends here. This is the few little time we can relax and be frank and forget everything and be good friends. As long as for me, here all are nice and good friends, may have some difference of opinion on certain subject, which is natural. Otherwise, I think this online friendship I enjoy very much because some times we cannot maintain the same mood if we may get a chance to meet each other. So, I think we need not pretend and can be good friends as most of us know well through the time, here. Thank-s

When i respond to a discussion , i really cannot tell if the answer was sincere. But as i meet them again on some discussions and get to read their responses as well as their started discussion, i could more or less discern a part of their personality, Consequently get to know if they are for "real". Don't you think i am a real person, Jaiho?

Please do not expect this so much , actually internet is a big family but contains the different kind of person. but wanyway we just be well protected. if you meet someone in internet who are firendly and have a good talk just go ahead , but if you meet sb you are not like , just leaving him (her) alone . that is ok and not a big deal :)

Well, it is true. Many times you will have people, even here who are just wanting to add someone as a Friend only as a number, and then to never take time getting to know them as well. When I accept people as friends here I am hoping that these will be people I will get to know thru their discussions they start as well as when they take time to respond back to the ones I start. I know we will not always relate and have to skip some, but that is normal for sure.

Hi sis. I also wish I have the right way to know who are real and who are not. But I am sure, just like you and me, we have found true friends, online and offline... Now I wish, I can find my way back online again, just like the old ways.

Hello Sis Jaiho, True friends are hard to find, but some times i asked myself, Am I being true to the person that i hang out with online and off line? I understand what most people desire to be a real friend. to be honest, i am still reserved because am not perfect and most of the times i don't want my imperfections to be exposed because they might stay away from me. some people who we know might not be true after all. but some times, maybeam not being true to myself. but at least am not pretending to be some one else.

I guess there is only one way to know who are real friends, be it real or online. It's through time. If they come through for you over and over again. Even if it isn't the big things. Just the little things, yet you see them around all the time, always helping you, then I would consider those are friends.

Don't believe on online friends at first look. You develop some relation by conversation on line you will find here some real friends.

Well as I try to speak for myself, although I don't reject invites from a lot of mylotters, I don't really have time to exchange private messages with them. I am so busy responding to discussions and thinking , at the same time, of the most exciting and interesting discussion I can host. I have been here for more than one year and although I bonded with some friends along the way, we never really got to have a constant continuous conversation. Honestly, I am here to respond to discussions and host some, not to socialize. (^_^)