Balancing career with being a mom
@cosmo_girl_23 (26)
Philippines
May 30, 2011 4:53pm CST
I am a new mom and am thinking of transferring to a job with higher pay. However, I am confused as to whether it is the right time to change jobs/careers since I am a new mom, my baby needs more time from me and getting a new job may limit my time spent with my baby. If I stay in my current job, I wont have to adjust much and will have more time with my son, however it's not a high paying job.
I am confused, can you guys help me decide what to do?
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10 responses
@watergirl (567)
• Philippines
31 May 11
Balancing a career with being a mom can be very challenging. At times, you really have to make difficult decisions. Setting your priorities can help. What is most important to you? If you are in dire need for additional income, then changing careers might be option number 1. But if you can still manage financially, why not postpone changing jobs and give more time to your child? Personally, I chose to spend more time with my children even if it meant letting go of that promotion.
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@cosmo_girl_23 (26)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
hello watergirl. thank you for your response. I also love my career and before i got married and got pregnant, i have this goal of being promoted to a higher position in my company. When I got pregnant and delivered my baby, I felt most of the times that i just want to stay at home and be with my son. However, a little part of me still wants to pursue my goal in my career.
Upon a lot of thinking and talking with my husband, we decided that i stick with my current job, no changes for now, until such time that baby is a toddler already. to avoid adjustments on my end and so athat all my effort will be to just spend time and take care of my baby.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
31 May 11
This is a really tough one. As a mother you really want to spend as much time with your baby as you can. On the other hand making more money is always beneficial as well. When I had my first child it was really difficult for me. I kept working for the first year of her life, I could not wait to get off work everyday to be with my baby. I got pregnant again shortly after and we found it was not worth it for me to work anymore with what I would have to pay for day care for two kids. I'm glad that I made that decision. I did home day care a couple of days a week to make a little extra money, but I got to be with my kids which was important to me and I wouldn't trade that for anything, but the money I made working full time was not really worth giving up the time with my kids for. I eventually started my own business out of my home and now have three kids.
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@cosmo_girl_23 (26)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Hi there ladym33, I can really relate to that. Im currently working and I always cant wait to go home and spend some time with my son. i always wish for weekends because its the time when i can really be with him without worrying about work. I hope I can find a business i can really be good at so that I can be a stay at home mom and just take care of my son.
Regards to your kiddos =) thanks again for your response.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
30 May 11
hi cosmo girl oh if you can afford to stay in that job that gives you more time with baby oh do do it as that first months your bably really needs you so much and you will see its worth it of course if you g uys desperately need more money you must do as you need to dog. but I w as so glad I just stayed home til my son was a toddler not that we co ulkd noit have used my wages but I had two babys in 11 months so I was really needed at home . I did work nights when they were preschool and my husband looked after them til I got up then he went to work too.He would drive \me to work at 11 come home slepp pkck me up and go to work for awhile after I got up from sleeping as I would take over with our kids.was not perfect but the best we could do at the time. I
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@Princelierocks (817)
• India
31 May 11
I think that you should stick on to your old job. The reason why iam recommending is right now your baby is very small and during this period if you find a high paying jb that means more quantity of work with high pay. This wont give you much time o spent with your baby as you will be busy with your scheduled work. So just for a matter of time stay with your old job and when the baby is grown u a little then you can shift on to your old job. This will be better. Good luck.
@jenggai (19)
• Philippines
31 May 11
I suggest you stay in your current job so you can have more time to take care of your son. You can try having online jobs. You can balance your time at home by allocating even an hour for your online job. You can try changing jobs/careers when your son is a bit grown up already.
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@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 11
Well, I think it really depends individually, whether you want to spend more time with your baby. Frankly speaking, I'd think it's more important to spend time with kids, especially when they are still young. But, getting a job with higher pay may not necessarily need to spend more time at work, perhaps you can try to look around and see if there's a better job, where you can still spend time with your baby.
@thessariv72 (3)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
I am a mother of four and preferred not to work to personally attend to my children. I had financial difficulties ever since but I felt so worried to leave my children. As mothers, we have greater social responsibility of raising good citizens. But in your case, I suggest that you stay with your current job. It is for your convenience and to have more time with your baby because you can no longer bring back the times that you miss being with your baby. It's really great to experience your baby's firsts right before your very eyes. God gave you your baby as a gift, make your baby feel that he is really a treasure from above. Wishing you all the best in whatever endeavor you would take. Good luck. Do your best to your child
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
31 May 11
Stay with that job for now. When the time that your child is ready for the next level then think if it is the right time then to change for a new job.