Do you hate it when your friend is defending your enemy?
By Metatronik
@Metatronik (6199)
Pasay, Philippines
May 30, 2011 8:51pm CST
Have you ever encountered any friend who defended other people or even your enemy than you? To the extent that she glorified other people but you are wondering that how come the two of you are still friends?
I've already experienced this already. I am not expecting that she should give sympathy on my case but then she have not proven her point that all I can reflect on what she did is that she just glorified my enemy. Just because she has a big crush on this guy and she is intimidated to his girlfriend. She have thought of me as someone that is nothing at all and an easy person that will listen to her non sense advise all the time. Since there were many cases that happened to us it became to the point that our friendship as ended. But now we are in good terms but I can't still accept her as a friend again. I could really forgive all her sins that he have done to me but still it has a repercussion on what she did by this one. It is already proven that she is not treating you as a friend.
Another friend of mine have done the same thing that she is into glorifying. I am glad that I haven't seen her for the long time.
1 person likes this
9 responses
@maxen07 (882)
• Philippines
31 May 11
One should always put to mind that you're quarrel is not with your friend but with that person he or she might be defending. Sometimes it's not about taking sides that matters but the reason why you're friend is defending that person. A good friend doesn't always have to take your side if it means that the other person is right about something. A good friend doesn't have to pamper you with 'you're right' even if your not. A good friend should always bear in mind that if he or she wanted to protect you, that friends could always protect you from yourself and from you making the obvious mistakes.
2 people like this
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 May 11
Exactly the point. I am not expecting that she will take my side. But the point is it is really obvious that she is taking the side of other person. Where in fact she have not really treated me as her real friend but some that is already her last resort because I am one who is there. Another fact here is that she even did a fake smile against me while she was looking to an my enemies. I would understand if she have proven her point that is against me but then there are system inside the classroom about who is the strongest personality classmate then probably she would want to stick into them. She have ever thought that I am a weak person that is easy to failed.
@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
31 May 11
I hate it when that happens especially when I know that my friend's reasoning is right! 
I guess the reason why I understand them is that I am one of those very objective people and when I am asked by my friend on who is right or wrong, I will give an objective answer. But of course that is between us friends, in the front of other people, my friend is always right. I will support him/her until he/she decides to accept that he/she is wrong or continue on!
But glorifying the enemy us just wrong!
I guess the reason why I understand them is that I am one of those very objective people and when I am asked by my friend on who is right or wrong, I will give an objective answer. But of course that is between us friends, in the front of other people, my friend is always right. I will support him/her until he/she decides to accept that he/she is wrong or continue on!
But glorifying the enemy us just wrong!
@shattered (1728)
• Philippines
31 May 11
That is just wrong.
Insecure people who want to bring down their friends because of such insecurity is just a sad event.
Maybe you should distance yourself form this friend no?
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 May 11
That is the problem my friend was not objective with her reasoning aside from that she was not able to explain as well. Obviously it just the fact of glorifying of who has the strongest personality among us. Additional fact that she has her problem in her attitude where in fact she is insecure who is happy if she can ruin other people.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
hi,
in the first place of course i will feel that i will hate my friend who defending my enemy but after that i will try to analyze why my friend do that for my enemy,then after that conclusion i will realize it why.but till now i never experience that situation because all my friends are good to me and that's enough for me to treasure them.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
In my case it is just so happened that she is more worrying about the feelings of other people instead of understanding my point then she walked out when I am already explaining. I totally felt disappointed that is why I block her on my friend's list in facebook and I don't want to have contacts to her anymore.
@SweetLavender777 (16)
• Philippines
31 May 11
For me, it will depend on the situation. I will not be bias. If I'm the one who cause the problem, then I will accept it truly but if I'm not the reason, of course I will be mad to my friend because it's not fair. However, I still need to consider my friend, why he/she did such thing, and if I found out that he's playing around or just for his/her selfish gain, then I will not consider him/her friend anymore. In such cases, it's not easy specially when you really value your friendship, it would be annoying and it will cause you to feel that you are lacking something.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
In my case I just don't like it when she tends to give me advise then she looks like bias to me just because she is more on glorifying of others when in fact she has her wrong decision when she sent me a text messages last night where in she is looking for a witch craft.
@gbprakash (7)
• India
31 May 11
Yes, I have encountered such situations of defending other people earlier in my life. There are instances where my friends have done so and there are instances where I too have done so. And I haven't hated my friend for that and will not do so in future as well. Mostly it is not about a person but is about the point of disagreement between the two. I feel a friend should always evaluate logically before taking sides, should differentiate "correct" from "wrong". A friend who follows this, is a true friend and a true friend is worth millions. A friend taking other's side just because of some personal gains is actually not a true friend. So one should not worry about friendship with them.
1 person likes this
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 May 11
That is the problem my former friend was not been logical on her reasoning. It was just about she glorified her crush. Well of course she didn't told us that she has the crush on that guy but it is obvious on how she glorify my enemy. I would accept if she has been objective and logical but too bad she is low intellectual individual who is shallow all the time when she is talking.
@maangurl (8)
• Philippines
31 May 11
well ofcourse, who wouldn't be pissed off when your friend doesnt even back you up even if your the one who made a mistake in the first place. your heated up, in range with tons of adrenalin flowing through your vein, and plus, your "friend" isnt by your side? expect to get some butt whooping! hehe. but if your friend is trying to defend your enemy for your own good then that's a true friend. i had an experience this one time when my friend was in a fight with this girl, thinking that she was flirting with her boyfriend ( which she did) but, didn't know he had a girlfriend in the first place. so of course, being the friend that i am. i took my friend a side and told her to calm down and just leave, cause obviously though she did flirt with her man, she didn't know in the first place. so the best person to blame is her boyfriend and not the girl right? and believe me, she got so mad that i was taking the girl's side that she flipped out on me. but, then came to her senses and broken up with the guy.=))
1 person likes this
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 May 11
The problem is she didn't do that for my own good but to take the side of her crush. At the same time she did the rude thing against me when I am explaining my point. She just walked out from me. She didn't prove her point but she just want me to shut up in the glory of others.
@maangurl (8)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
i think she knows she was wrong but didn't want to admit it since it shows weakness. and by the looks of things, she has been walking all over you for a long time, and if she steps down to your level and apologizes, it would break the authority she thinks she has over you. maybe you could talk to her on how she is behaving and how her actions damaged your frindship. if she values you, then she would do whatever she can to save what's left of your friendship. Godbless!
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
31 May 11
i am a person who has an open. i do not own my friends and their loyalty. i mean, they cannot be loyal to you all the time because they have their own thoughts and opinions on matters.
but if it becomes obvious that a friend is being prejudicial or biased, then i would be slighted, to say the least.
@denisepadin (105)
• Philippines
31 May 11
yes i have experienced that. But even though it happened, I never did question my friendship with that person. You know what she even explained to me that she's not taking any sides. Her point of view was just that maybe I have something against that person that she doesn't.
1 person likes this
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 May 11
That is good thing about you she was not taking sides. Unlike in my case that she didn't even bother to listen and been rude by walking out. What she did was a big insult. It is not in the sense that she have not taken my side but obviously it is about glorifying of who has the strongest personality that other classmates would favor with.
@d4nk1337sauce (44)
• Canada
31 May 11
damn that sux not trying to take her side but if she likes this guys alot i think you should be as understanding as possible. we should always try to forgive people if she wants to be friends again let her.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 May 11
This is different story. I have been not in good terms with other classmates. It has the mentality of who is the strongest student among all. Well it was not been obvious that she has a huge crush to this guy that became my enemy but unfortunately this guy as a girlfriend already. The problem is due to the discrimination factor that my friend is relying to people who are fond of wrong doings. She is really happy whenever she have ruined us. She likes the idea that other people are fighting. She is insecure in the first place. She is not happy if people are being in settled.
