Should spouses or significant others have access to your passwords?

Hi, this has been the argument I had with my officemate here. She and her boyfriend share their passwords, while I don't share my password with my girlfriend. I don't get the point why I should give my password to my girlfriend. Like you, I am not doing anything wrong, I just don't like the idea, that someone (even if that's my girlfriend) would have any access to my account, and would actually have the capacity to change anything I have in my account. Specially now, that I use my emails for my online jobs and earnings. So I really say a big "NO" for this matter. Call me selfish, but I am not that open yet to disclose my password to someone (not even to my significant other).

I think that it all depends on the couple. I don't mind if my husband has my password, and he doesn't really mind if I have his. But we don't use them without each others' permission or anything like that. For us, it's no big deal. However, I understand that for others they prefer not to give their spouse their password, which is absolutely fine. I think that you have to be comfortable with it.

I think spouce got right to have their own secret as long it understanding between of them.I do keep my own password from my gfs and such.I think they should do.Except if they agree to have common facebook,common joing account for children and emergency and such.But they are things that are personal that each one should keep.For me it ok as long they are understanding and know about it.

I really see no reason not to give ones password. I needed to use my hubby's e-mail one time and asked for his. He gave it to me, I used it and now I forgot it. I think had he refused to give it to me I would wonder why. I can't imagine unless one wanted to keep what they are doing a secret, why they wouldn't share it?? Seems to me if one puts something on the internet, why wouldn't they share it with their spouse?? Maybe some will give a good reasons to keep it private?

It's really up to you both of what you have agreed to each other. And maybe you should ask him why sudden change on his mind about sharing with a password. I do know the email add and password of my bestfriend. It was his decision to shared his password with me.

I would say you disclose your pw, it will show that you have nothing to hide as you say. Also, it will help in building trust. He is seeking it because he suspects something and hence, you hold your privacy you reinforce the perception that you are hiding something. A question to you is, do you trust that he will not change your pw? If you do, then don't fear. What is better, give him your pw and embarrass his mistrust or withhold it and strengthen the mistrust. And don't forget you can always change your password anytime you want. Give him if you trust him a little and change it after 3 days or one week.

that depends on agreement and need. if you are comfortable to give the access away, it is up to you. if not, then the other should respect that. personally, i would respect the privacy. even if i knew passwords, i will not access any account without him knowing. email account (for example) for me is private because i use that not only for personal purposes but also for business transactions. i have nothing to hide but some transactions and documents that i do are confidential and should be treated as such. if it's just a personal email, i can be pretty open about it. but not if it concerns my work. however, there were times that i need to access my email account but it wasn't feasible from where i was at the time. so i would ask any of my 2 older sisters to access my email to check it for me. why them, and nobody else? well, i trust my sisters to treat any contents of my email with professional respect and sensitivity because of the similarities in the nature of our work and each understood the confidentiality issues. so exactly where do i stand on password issue between couples? nothing wrong to be open to one another, but there are certain things that should remain private. up to whatever level of trust or your area of comfort zone, depends on the kind of relationship a couple has.

I don't share my password to my husband but if he asks I would tell him. So far, he hasn't and neither have I asked for his passwords. Actually, even if he did give it to me, I probably would forget it. I have trouble remembering all my passwords as it is LOL. But I guess, it depends on the couple. If your significant other needs reassurance or something and giving your passwords would appease him or her, then share it.

A password is a private thing. Everyone needs some type of privacy in one's life. One's personal space. I personally do not understand why my significant other would even ask for my password. I would never ask for hers. Its like a wallet or purse, why would a woman look into a man's wallet or a man look into a woman's purse. Perhaps he/she does not trust him? Well, you should not be in a relationship with someone you don't trust. Personal space is not about hiding something or keeping something private. Its about individuality and space. My significant other has her email account and an account on facebook. I respect that and would never ask her to give me access or to show me what she is doing. If she is playing me dirty, I don't need to access her email, I will see it in her eyes everytime I look at her.

in our case, we know each other's account and password. And that's fine with me. If i need to check my emails but im not available,He can do that for me.

I think that we should keep our password privately. There are something that we should keep it as secret such as email password, facebook account or banking account. It is individual account and not sharing account. So, I think that we should keep it secret as the protection. Revealing password is not good for ourself because partner can change the password when he/she feeling uncomfortable with what we do in the account ( example facebook /social networking).

I would say it really just depend on the couple.. Everyone is different and somethings just work better for different people. In my previous relationship my ex gave me access to everything but i never used it. I did the same thing. I guess if u don't have nothing to hide it really shouldn't matter if they have access to anything. But then again there is nothing wrong with privacy. So like i said in the beginning it really just depend on the couple and what makes them more comfortable.