A Good Father Figure?

I think a girl is better off with a good father figure. But she is better off without any father figure rather than a bad one.

I saw how bad my dad treated my mom and I did not learn from that! So some of the guys I dated treated lousey! This is one of the many reason I don't date anymore! I attack losers and then I end acting like my mom when I am dating someone! A lousey guy or not! I don't think it matters if you have a good father figure or not! Then I can blame him for getting pregnant at 26 and haveing my son at27! I never have but you get my drift!

Some people don't feel worthy of good treatment...and thats why they chose someone that will hurt them...They say that a girl picks someone like her dad when she looks for things in a man....I say that's not always true. My dad was a wonderful person...I picked a nut for a husband...though to my credit he didn't act like that when we were dating...He was good to me. After the ring was on the finger the whole thing changed!

I think that little girls can learn alot from witnessing the interraction between mom and dad..but your right..it can go either way. I think that if there is a positve male figure in their life, that's great...but that can sometimes mean that when they get out into the world, that is what they expect from all men..that is not the case though..they often learn very quickly about the darker side of relationships. No great dad can protect them from that. I think that no matter the case, we live and we learn.

A good and responsible father will be need by every childrens. But if the father was not good enough, it still needed for some sircumtances.

My father is not very affectionate towards us and my mom, and I've always looked for an affectionate man, thankfully I have one right now...so, it goes to say that it does go both ways, and no, my father isn't abusive...just a bit cold...

I know my father loves me, and he has a lot of great qualities that I inherited, but there were some issues, and my sister, mother, and I were emotionally abused. I was determined not to repeat the cycle. I took all that I did not like from Dad, and vowed to look for the reverse in people. You know all about my marriage. My husband has issues too, PTSD from combat, three divorces, etc. The two of us decided that the best way to deal with things would be to not repeat what we did not like seeing in others. A truly strong woman can figure out how a man should treat her, on her own.