How we can improve our relationships..

hi, it was good reading yourdiscussion and nice that you knw much about relationships and maintaining them.Do you think such relation ships still exists. As the time passes by i am not understanding about this relationships among people.May be or may not be .

Hi Pose ! Listening, is definitely the first step to solve one's disputes. Its the beginning, to create understanding, that may lead to the solution. Accusations tend to complicate the problem, and are of no use when no party is ready to listen to the other. One needs to take a look at the situation from other angles, putting oneself into other's shoes. Happy Mylotting :)

One way to improve relationships is to be more selective in your friendships. Never trust a man with two first names, or a woman who wears a red hat, Be wary of those who seek to steal your dream, and even more wary of those who seek to tell you what your dream should be! ( just a spoonful of honey helps the medicine go down, in a most delightful way!)

Hi POse: I agree with you. It's so easy to condemn someone for what he/she does. It's more difficult to think about the reasons why he/she did this and how is he/she feeling. It's easier to judge than forgiving. Listening is an important skill we need to improve. ALVARO

Learn to forgive is the key word here. Always condemn and think about other people's fault is the hardest part for all of us. We always stuck in hatred, and disliking others. I wish that everyone in the world can learn to forgive, and create a better tomorrow. That is what I think is the best to improve our relationship at least.

hi pose123, it's normal if we find it hard to forgive people who have hurt us. many times we forgive other people just because we think we should do that. but in our heart, we have not forgiven that one. that's why "forgive" is one of my most rarely used words. it's not that i am a very revengeful person. i just don't wanna say something that is only partially true or just because i think it is the right thing to do. while in fact, i still can't do it. to improve the relationship, i think the most important factor that we should have is: the ability to walk in other people's shoes. by doing this, we will be able to treat other people in respectful way and we will also be treated well in return.

You are right. First of all, we should listen the other person and try to understand. but even when we get to this, we should realize that each one has their own motifs, their own way of thinking, even their own way of life or vision of the world... so we shouldn't judge. We should just try to find a way of coherence inside the thoughts of the other...

The first thing i want to share to you is We can never ever to control what people think about us. And don't make people like us. People will like us if they are think they like us. Just like you, you will not like a person if you dont like him from the first place with reason or even without a reason. Just be natural and neutral with everybody. I know some neighbors who used to smile and say hello to us and always make jokes with us like we are very good friends, but later I heard about something not good from other people that they talk something bad at the back. I even never talk anything or doing anything bad, we just say hello and typical warm jokes. The reality is : We cant control people's mind toward us. However what we can do is to control ourselves. We can control our mind to think only good and all people always do nice to us. If you make this vibration, you will attract only people who always nice to you. Believe me, I always attract good people with me, because I tell myself, I always meet good people and I will always have good relationship with people. Whatever people think about me, i wont care because its not my business, but what I think is truly my business. Forgiveness is the only thing to neutralize the negative energy that will harm you from people who do bad to you. this can stop the bad karma coming into you and cutting harm from bad people. Just let them to think whatever they want. What you have to do is to concentrate on what you want...

hi pose so many times when conflicts arise between parents and childrehn or even husband and wife or between friends it boils down to lack of communication and being pliant so we can b end a bit and understand our teens or our mates or our friends,if we can talk it out we can come to agreements and iron out misunderstandings. its lack of communication that festers disagreements and quarrels.You are so right its best to try to understand where the other person is coming from and not to condemn but hear them out. most problems can be worked out with some effort on both parts.,

Nice Discussion!Pose123. I can only add. Communication is key in all relationships. We must get it all out,say it all. Too often things are hidden or assumed others know how we think and feel. This leaves others to fill in the missing information as they please. You can imagine how that works out.

My sister told me this of a friend of hers. When my sister was in school, she has this teacher whom everybody hated (because she was treating the students badly) except her this friend who got around to have this teacher like her. I know that girlfriend and she is so likeable because she sees nothing bad of anyone. Twenty years later my sister gave me a book which describes her girlfriend, her girlfriend is one example of having EQ, Emotional Quotient, one element to propel you to success which is to get along with everyone (almost-to be realistic). Good thing to know that its one attribute you can acquire.

to improve relationships you have to understand one another, have more patience and to loosen your pride so that you can build up strong relationship with each other. Listen to each others side if problems occur and don't stop talking about it or find out a solution to that problem until it is solve or lessen.

For me, nothing beats an open communication in order to improve relationships. Whatever issue there may be , it has to be discussed first , so that we will know what's their say about the issue and then do something to settle it. That way, quarrels or grudges are avoided, consequently avoiding what could ruin the relationship.

Relationship is really give and take. Sometimes it takes extra effort to really make it work. It pays to be sweet to your partner every day, even in little ways just to remind him that you still care and still is interested romantically.

We cannot make the other person feel unappreciated. We have to show them that we appreciate them all the time and do little things to make them feel special. this can help relationships get better.