Why isn't there a divorce in the Philippines?

@gicolet (1702)
United States
June 1, 2011 12:17pm CST
I believe it would save a lot of trouble for couples who have irreconcilable differences if there was a divorce in the Philippines. It's so not fair for those in abusive marriages, for spouses who cheat, and for those who left the other and never came back. My cousin filed an annulment after just a year with her cheating ex-husband but it took so long before it was approved. Her daughter with her ex-husband is already 13 yrs old! I've heard of some Filipino celebs who's had better luck for obvious reasons. My uncle changed his name to be able to marry someone else. Mine was changed by default several yrs ago for citizenship purposes so i got lucky. Now my brother's wife cheated on him, had a lovechild with her lover, and physically abuse his 2 children with her. It makes me sooo mad :( I'm not asking if you agree or not in divorce but with so much evidence on reasonable cases and difficult issues in marriage how come the Philippine govt. is not considering it at all? It's like a refusal to grow up and deal with the real world which so happen to be in the 21st century? It's just absurd! What do you think?
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9 responses
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
There is no divore in the Philippines because of the influence of the church. In my opinion, the church MUST not dictate other people. We all have our own decisions. LoLs xD
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@gicolet (1702)
• United States
2 Jun 11
@jordan29bc - so Filipinos are prisoners of their own church? that is so sad. The 12% undecided people on the survey are probably either relatives of the priests or scared of what people around them might say if they go for the divorce. Not so much freedom there....sad. @mantis36 - not so fast... there are so many non-catholics in the philippines but it's useless...they are still unhappily married. My question is Philippines is so popular about People's Power. Out Marcos and Estrada so how come nobody tries to People Power the church? Answer: scared? well no guts no glory. i rest my case.
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Okay, that is your opinion. But based on the survey in the Philippines. 50% are in favor of legalizing divorce. 33% are not. 12% are still undecided. :P
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Roman Catholic in Faith still remains powerful because this are a majority religions of the Filipino People.... they have the power to influence and dictate other people and that is their right to implement and forcefully, a must to follow by Filipinos... the only way to legalized Divorce here in Philippines is to surrender your Roman Catholic Faith Religion.... don't attend mass on Sunday then divorce will be legalized.... can't do it???? then divorce is not applicable here in the Philippines... it is a sin against Roman Catholic in Faith....
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
There are pros and cons for that topic. if we would enumerate both sides, it would also be hard to decide.As for me personally, i would be pro divorce, i have seen so many abused women and they cannot let go of the past because we do not have divorce. Though they can file for legal separation, it is still not that final because they cannot marry another man. if we would have divorce here the law on it should also be clearly stated and it has to have conditions so it wont be abused by some..we also cannot deny that irreconcilable difference really do occur between a couple and at times just a little difference they would also want to separate, in such cases they would not even try to mend it but instead they would file right away for divorce. in that matter that is where divorce is abused. we do not have it here in the Philippines because they say this country values the sanctity of marriage, even though women are already abused, children are already abused, even when both are not happy with each other..they do not want divorce here because they believe it is against the catholic church when in fact not everyone here is catholic..when in fact because there is no divorce, couples who are not happy with each other just resort to sleeping with other people creating adultery / concubinage...it is sad but it happens. This country cannot separate the church from the constitution.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
thanks for the best response.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
2 Jun 11
That's right. If there would ever be divorce in the Philippines it shouldn't be abused so I say there should be strict conditions to be applied while thoroughly reviewed by the deciding parties. A lot of Filipinos might get too excited so child support should also be imposed. That way husbands should worry about his finances while being with his new wife. Adultery is such a shameful thing to deal with. Why can't the church understand this in a rational way? Did they marry Adam and Eve? Fiction or not they just lived together. And how did we become a population if Cain killed Abel? Adam, Cain, and Eve - 2 men, 1 woman. It's worse than adultery! Ask the church to explain this if they based all their beliefs in the bible. Immorality my a**. It's all about wanting to be in control if you ask me and for some reason Filipinos love that about the church.
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
that's the reason's why when it comes to BIBLE, i don't believe it because it is only written by men before time and not inspired by Holy Spirit.... no scientific reasons to support, no scientific evidence to prove.
@xtedaxcvg (3189)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Divorce is not the answer in my opinion. There are always answers to problems with marriages believe me. Divorce will only create more and more broken families. The idea that you can easily get out of any marriage will just pollute the minds of would-be couples and thus weakening their bond.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
2 Jun 11
@xtedaxcvg - If you swear by it that there are always answers to problems with marriages then would you stay with your spouse if he or she killed your 5 children in the tub? Andrea Yates case, 2001. How do you change an unexpected turns of events in any marriage? Insanity in a marriage will not save it. I would be afraid with my own life if I stay married to an insane person. @mantis36 - if divorce should be legalized with the condition not to re-marry then what's the point of divorcing? Just stay in the marriage and be miserable forever.
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
if you ask the couple if why they insist choose to be married, they will internationally answer you... "Because the Girl is Pregnant" that's it!!!! that's the reason why married is the only option for the future of the baby or child-to-be.... if that is their reason, then a big chances for facing option to divorce in sooner or later years of marriage..... Note: if Divorce is legalized here in the Philippines, Soon the Aristocrat Girl will become more and more Aristocrat anyway, i can file divorce if i have no mood on him on sooner years.... or, i can file divorce immediately if i am not the first man to get this woman first-time.... or, i am mistakenly that you have plenty of money, now, you are now poorer than a rat, whether you like it or not, i file divorce now, i can't live with you if you have no money, since, "No Money, No Honey"
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
maybe Divorce is legal if there are now conditions.... that Divorce will be applicable if they are not allow to marry another person... if they caught married to another person then a life in prison.....
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
For me, I don't agree divorce. Because this is not the solution of happy marriage and having a happy family life.... As I observed most women today want a divorce because they have cheated their husband and want to hide it by using this alibi... They are always reiterated that they are psychologically abuse and physically abuse but the real reason is that makes an excuse and want to imply that their acts of cheating is right not wrong... Another thing is that no security both the husband and wife. Because if the husband or wife look for someone that they want in bed. They have an alibi to make their actions right. Because it easily dissolved marriage that they promise to stay forever and no man will break the tie... I prefer the current procedure to dissolve marriage. Because the purpose of this law was to reconcile both the husband and wife. Not encourage to divorce because the law itself protect the family, moral, policy of the state... This is unfair to those not agree of divorce...Because not only women, is suffer for psychological abuse but only men which their wives having an affairs to someone... I want a law that punished those committing adultery and concubinage with higher degree...A law that enforceability is strong. so, that all husband and wife that make any abuse to their spouse will suffer the higher degree of penalty...so that they are afraid to do something which is against their partner...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
I agree with you. Because our law maker is the best imitator of law. They copied laws from other countries to show they are good senators or congressman. Then they said education in the Philippines, is very low standard. Those law makers are in low standard. Because they copied everything they do in congress... Legalize everything on this country so that there is complain from those evil doer.
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
first is RH-Bill.... next is Divorce.... what's next? A Man married to a Man while Woman married to a Woman? and what's next? Abortion? to make RH-Bill, Divorce, Same-s6x-married, Abortion, all to become LEGAL ???????
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
as far as i heard, plenty of countries are now legalized SAME-S6X-MARRIAGE.... and i am sure this is one of the next bill to present.... i am not a Fortune Teller but i know this is the next bill to present... or ABORTION to legalized also....
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
ok, to all sorts of religions out there.... let's all meet together, and ask God if what can He say about divorce? "God, are you willing to be legalized Divorce here in Philippines?" i think God in every sort of religion will not answer it, why? because there is no God will answer it.... Law on divorce is a law invented by man, no such god claims that divorce is legal or illegal, not agree???? then ask God if He will grant Divorce or not here in Philippines????
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
You're not pointing anything here right? or are you? LoLs
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
@gicolet, hehe.. i just really can't get mantis36's point in this response. It is understood that no God will respond LITERALLY. LoLs makes me laugh, looks like mantis36's thinking is not that matured enough. xD
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
"where in the bible does it say that man should build a religion?" i think i learn again something.... i think it's true also..... another reason's why i don't believe in religion especially BIBLE... because they have no Scientific Evidence to make such claim proved or already proven... no solid evidence to present such articles written in the book... this is the reason's why man invented unique and plenty of religions and claimed: "my religion is true, while your religion is false" and all religions, this is also their belief.... so, it is not proven that God says He doesn't allow Divorce to be legal since religions that prohibits divorce is only invented by man?
• United States
2 Jun 11
Your point of view is very brave. It would be nice to have have a few more become courageous as well.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
2 Jun 11
thank you :)
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
my prediction: Man married unto Man or Woman married unto Woman then using RH-Bill since it is legal then Divorce if they are not satisfy... then man finds another man.... or woman finds another woman again... then using RH-Bill again... then Divorce again????
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
2 Jun 11
Well, as what I understand, Filipinos before are mostly loyal to one partner. If there are some who cheated, not very much plenty like in this new generation. Filipinos are known to be conservative before but as the years go by, they become westernized and were influenced by what they see in movies and other stars. They are not afraid to cheat to their wives or husbands anymore thinking that those are already common in the society they are in. Couples who have problems before or in the olden days.. int he Philippines would not think of leaving their spouse but settle the matter. But now? no more, they are copying what they see in the society specially to their idol celebrities.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
6 Jun 11
Well, this simply means, things like this all started from celebrities... they are the idols of the people and what they do are giving examples to the society. If you have the money, you can maneuver everything much more with you married life.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
2 Jun 11
Whoever divorce his/her spouse base on mere copying the celebrities is a total idiot who lives in a la-la land and doesn't have a mind of his/her own. I still remember when Sharon Cuneta married Gabby Concepcion years ago. A lot of teenagers eloped and got married also back then. It was like if they can do it why can't we? Such ignorance...No one wants a marriage to end in divorce. People come to a point in their lives that they need to settle down and create a family of their own. Who would want to marry and expect it to crash after a couple of years? Married people should do their very, very, best with all the patience it should take for the sake of their relationship and family but it takes 2 to make it work. If one is so mightily willing and the other prefers to dance with the wolves then the marriage will end with or without a divorce law.
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@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
you ask why Sharon and Gabby can do it divorce.... why people in the Philippines can't do it????? it is like asking: why is it that a BIG FISH is in Jailed but he is freely can go out and in and repeated plenty of times... while people in the Philippines, the poor prisoners can't do it???
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@anklesmash (1412)
4 Jun 11
I think the phillipines is now the only country dosent allow divorce.Recently it has been allowed in malta after a referendum.I don't think that divorce should be encouraged but i don't think that people should be forced to stay in unhapppy marriages if there is no chance of reconcilliation i also think being in a marriage that was a mistake should be able to stop you from marrying the person you love.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Well, yes, there is an advantage for divorce, but there are more disadvantages. There would be even more broken families and couples can easily marry each other since it is easy to break up- marriage is a lifetime commitment and should be though through..
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
in order to avoid possibilities of Divorce..... all that i can say is.... "LIVE-IN first for 5 years..... before engaged MARRIAGE" agree???? i am expecting that even Roman Catholics in Faith doesn't allow Live-in relationship
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
2 Jun 11
@lady1993 - If majority of people in the Philippines are going to think more about the disadvantages of divorce (which I don't deny) than the disadvantages of unhappy and dysfunctional marriage (which some people will find it necessary to deny also) then that's apparently an unfair analysis to right away draw a conclusion that that's the reason why Philippines do not have a divorce. A lot of people there are so focused on the stigma of a broken family for what? For social status? Like oh I'm still very much married and I'm so proud of it so it's ok if my husband is living with his mistress and his illegitimate children?? So she's still married with the delusion that her family is at least not broken to please who? Help me understand. @mantis36 - LOL
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
LIVE-IN first, i think that is the solution.... because for 5 years engaged in Live-in, it is too very accurate to test if the girl is a battered wife, before engaged in MARRIAGE.... but still, Divorce is illegal... ------------------------------------ LIVE-IN first for 5 years, option to MARRY if MARRIED, then no DIVORCE let this as the 11th Commandment of God... So it shall be written, So it shall be done.