Stay away from parents, I missed home.
By manya_pearl
@manya_pearl (1901)
Singapore
June 1, 2011 2:01pm CST
If you choose to study in different town, city or even country, you have to be strong because what you found outside its not as comfortable in your own home. People surrounding you are new, and you dont know or even assure that you will be alright in that new environment. You have to adjust...
Means, you have to activate all your senses to be really-really fit with the new community. Well, this is the challenge, the people with different culture and behavior, the language or the accent, everything.
The most challenge maybe if you are studying or working in another country where the food and drinks are totally different... Outfit also, somehow can really tell that you come from where...
Mylot-ers here... Are you far from your own home now?
What are you doing? Studying or working?
I believe you must miss your family, just like what happened to me now. :)
Did you experience studying or working far from your family?
How was it?
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12 responses
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
2 Jun 11
Hi Manya_pearl, My case is just the opposite. Am at home but my family is away for a week. And the loneliness is killing a lot. I miss my kids and pets so much. Actually they are out to visit their grandparents and this is first time am staying alone. Dont ask me, already am sick without anyone at home. Am waiting for friday to come to meet them.
@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
2 Jun 11
Ahaha... I see... Why didnt you go with your family? So you have to take care the house. I just wonder also, why the pets also is having vacation? They are leaving you alone at the house? Anyway, enjoy your days. You are in your own castle... You have all to do. Maybe repairing something or cleaning the house? Something to do for the sake of killing time? Im here to do myloting instead of sleeping and window shopping~ i may spend a lot of money in the malls. And I am going to avoid that thing happened to me. I better stay at my own home, even my family is not there, or they are having vacation. I can do a lot of things. We have three dogs at the house and I can play with them, taking care of them, feed them. I can watch movies or doing online. Well... here? this is only an apartment where pets are not allowed. I have to minimize my expenses for electricity. I didnt have tv because Im not used to watch tv. Im taking MD so I totally have no time to watch tv. Now i can do online because the class is not started yet, and I want to share to people in mylot.
@EndlessNameless (48)
• United States
2 Jun 11
I actually willingly moved far from home to get away from my family. I don't believe that all circumstances will allow for a person to miss their family. It just depends on how functional said family is. At the end of the day I feel more fulfilled being away and on my own. It's a great feeling of independence.
@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
2 Jun 11
Yeah... having the freedom by stay far from parents. We dont have to tell them where to go and when are you going and where you will be back.
Everything is up to you. But of course the challenge is how we can adjust ourselves
to discipline ourselves to do only the right thing. :) Some children taking advantage and abuse their freedom to do something wrong. I dont know what happen
with them. Maybe its another factor that comes from the family. But I wont do the
same thing like those children do. I promise myself If Im going far from my family,
i have to make good result. Studying in another city or in another country, maybe
the daily expenses will be quiet different or maybe more expensive. But we have to
manage everything so It wont cause trouble to our finances.
When you stay with family, all problems will be so light, compare if you face it
alone. Of course, you have more brains that can do the brainstorming together.
But if you are alone, all the problems become your own. And person who used to face
the problems alone used to be tough person. I think I become a very strict person
for some reasons. Im become more more stingy to something that is not important to
buy. :)
@mansha (6298)
• India
2 Jun 11
I left my home after being married and left my state entered a new culture and since then we have been moving from town to town and city to city best part I love is exploring new city and making new friends all across the country and friendships last if you want them to. You and others who meet you carry fond memories and its the way you interact with others, is what matters. Meet with an open heart and see the wonders it does for you.
@Princelierocks (817)
• India
1 Jun 11
Iam currently with my family and i have never been far away from my parents for a longer period just for a weekend i was far. But recently my bro went to a different city for studies purpose. It was a very sad thing that my bro has left my mom and dad were literally crying and i could also not control. But as the big one in family i need to take care of my parents while my little bro is out. My little bro is happy of being outside town of study purpose because its his decision and is not feeling anything. i think in a month's time he will be all ok and adjust to the situation where even my mom and dad will adjust to live without him. Its so uneasy when our family members leave us for temporary purpose its just so hurting.
@manya_pearl (1901)
• Singapore
2 Jun 11
Maybe this is happening to my sister. She may felt the same way. My parents they also worry about me. Anyway, for me its only short period of time. But If i can choose, I wont go far from home. Its too comfortable when you stay with parents, everything is available and your pets are there as well. You can do anything you want without thinking what will other people think about you. You dont need consideration except your own family who knew the real you, your strength and more of your weakness. Ahehe...
The problem if I will stay and not continue my study, I will do nothing in the house. :) I have to get my MD first... Thats the price to pay.
I actually love to do many things together with my family because I never feel alone. Here, In this room, Im lonely and doing something just to make me busy. I have no pets because pets are not allowed. So, im taking advantage for mylot... Just to kill time and to earn some bucks... and of course to gain friends and networks... :)
@anonymous815 (47)
• United States
2 Jun 11
I go to school two and a half hours away from home, so it is not too bad. I can be home if something happens like an emergency or if I just feel like getting a home cooked meal since campus food is sometimes just plain bland or bad. You have freedom to do whatever you want, but there are also some cons. For example, like me, I have a girlfriend back at home and it is sometimes difficult to maintain things on a good term, but if it is really worth it, you are willing to sacrifice things for each other so that it would work out. I enjoy having so much freedom because I can learn more about myself and be able to meet new people and try new things. To me, it was a good change from being at home to being away from home. I feel that if it was 4 years of college in a place more than 4 hours away, it would be more difficult. But one enjoys life once, so you should do things you want to do and be where you want to be.
@anand5409 (49)
• India
2 Jun 11
Nowdays many students go to other town for higher study. In starting day, students feel uncomfortable. Because they leave their parent for sometimes. But after some time they settle and attends class.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 Jun 11
I am very sorry to hear that. I work at home so I am around my family all of the time. I hope you can be around yours again soon too.
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
1 Jun 11
When I was in college (mumbley mumbley years ago) the furthest I went was about 200 miles.
I was still in the same state in the U.S. but I wasn't able to go home every weekend like I had before.
I was in a dorm, so I was surrounded by girls who were also away from their parents.
I generally got home at least once during the semester, on Thanksgiving and at Spring Break, and sometimes one other time.
I missed my mom, and I was sick a lot, but that was before we discovered my food allergies.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Yes, I used to work overseas for 15 yrs.Before accepting the job I talk to my parents first and to asked their consent.At first they don't approved of my decision because I will be away for a year,but after explaining my situation at that time they let me.That is my first time to be really away from them so it's very hard for them to think that I will be away for a year and my feeling is the same.
Working in another country is really hard for a first timer.So I have to adjust to the climate and their culture.At first it's really a sacrifice but later on to the next year and the year after that and so on, it's really not hard at all.Sometimes I do miss my family but because of technology whenever I get lonely I called home.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
When i was in high school until college, i studied in a place far from home , so i stayed in a dorm. Since i know i would get lonely, i had to befriend all my dorm mates and thus, i wasn't lonely anymore.
@spsasj1 (39)
• India
2 Jun 11
hi manya............i m an engineering student and i m away from my home and family...... u r right that we hav to live up between new people.....but once u get adjusted in that environment and once u r in beat with the rythum then it is not so hard to live...........our frnds r our family there
@RalphJacob (45)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
I am just a student but i think i will miss my family IF i ever go to college and be parted from them. My grandma is the one that take care of me up to now.
But actually, i am actually choosing just to study in a university near me.. it will make me the same fortune.