Is it okay to have feelings for two different people?

Hi, There is one reason why we have been given with one heart - not two. This is because our heart should belong to one person only. I don't want to start a debate here, and I believe that "loving someone" means that your feelings toward that person is loyal, pure and sincere. If you say that you have feelings for two different people, perhaps what you've felt isn't love at all. Because if you love one person, you won't look at other girls. It is possible that you're in love with another, and you care for another. It is also possible that you both admire these two ladies, but you really don't love them. LOVE is tricky - sometimes, it is mistaken by most individuals.

I don't think it's right, but I also don't think it's uncommon. I'm sort of in the same rut - I have feelings for two different guys right now and I don't know which is worth pursuing. It's hard spot to be in, because once you make a decision you really can't go back on it without hurting anyone's feelings. I mean, two different guys (or girls, however which way you go) can offer two different things and it can be hard to pick and choose. But I think it's important to CHOOSE and stand by your decision.. No regrets.

I guess you are just mistaken of who you truly love. I am torn between two guys too, but I always believe that the other one is better! Ofcourse you love differently, and you want them differently. So the best thing you could do is to weigh things out. Find what is really Love.

As you go through life you will always meet someone that will share your interests and we get excited to share what we like. If you already have a girlfriend, and are looking at another. Make a list. Write down what qualities you like about each. Write down then a list of how YOU feel inside about each. Write down what each of these girls and you have in common. I think if you do this, you will find a common place in your heart in what to do in this situation. I was in high school and had a childhood sweetheart. We were together for 3 years. But then we were seperated by both of us joining the Army. Once I got out of the house and able to have a life of my own I realized he was my very best friend and someone I would love forever in a special way but not one I wanted to share my life with as a husband. We are still friends 40 years later, we still talk occasionally on the phone and internet, but to this day I know I made the right choice. Good Luck and make that list. you may be surprised what you find out about yourself.

i don't know if it is right or wrong and i don't want to be the judge of that,all i know is that it is possible and it happens not only to me but to others too.i think you should the second girl a shot because if you really liked the first girl you would not have developed feelings for the second girl.

I think that it might just be infatuation or so called crushes in your situation. It is alright to have multiple crushes since they are crushes, but just don't float the boat by going for both of them at the same time. You should really think about it on who you really like more. For example, I have had feelings for my best friend for a while, but after being rejected multiple times, I tried to move on and dated another girl. After a month or so, it just didn't work out because I still had feelings for her. I liked my ex but it was probably because she reminded me of her. But now my best friend is my girlfriend. Best of luck!

If you are in love, your mind will mot entertain other things or other people. So is you are really in love, you will just think of her, no one but her. Maybe, in your situation, you are just physically attracted to one or both of them.

Makes sure that feeling is not a lust. Because it is impossible to love someone and love the others. Your being selfish in that way because you want to get more and more to apply your desire which is not okay...

you need to decide because if your mind could not stick to one person it could lead to philandering issues and much worst if you already married may lead to adultery. you need to decide which girl you like to focus your solid attention or love the most. some beauty lies but the heart is not blind. so let your heart decides then let your mind do the final decision.

Hi Mohammed, As you said it yourself, it s no more love. Its just attraction you had on two girls. And wait for sometime as these thoughts will move away like flying clouds and you will no longer find them. Sometimes its age that matters, else you dont have to take it so serious, it will get out in time.